I was yelled at by one of the managers not on my floor but who works on another floor, she yelled at me infront of other employees..she is not my manager...I no longer want to smile or be friendly to her in anyway...I want to ignore her and pretend she doesn't exist so that she will KNOW that I DO NOT like her anymore...
2007-09-07 14:27:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
no,dont fight wrong with more wrong,it only makes things worse
2007-09-07 14:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's no point in being unpleasant, but neither do you owe her anything other than common courtesy dictates. So yes, you do have to greet her if your paths cross - whether with a smile or not is up to you -- but you don't have to try and make friends with her.
It's actually pretty childish to "pretend someone doesn't exist." You will need to stoke a bit of energy to keep that grudge going if that's really what you want to keep track of. Is it worth it?
What she did was awful, and depending on your company's policies she might actually be liable for disciplinary action because of it --- it's just not cool to shout at someone, especially with other co-workers around --- I do understand how you feel, but just let it go and keep it movin'.
2007-09-07 21:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just ignore her and pretend she doesn't exist! UNLESS you have to deal with her through your job. Then be polite, do whatever needs to be done and get out of there. She'll get the idea and if she asks you what is wrong, calmly tell her that you did not appreciate what she did. If she is decent at all, she will apologize to you. If not, forget it. Just remember that if you ever get a job like hers, you will know how not to treat an employee. Good luck to you.
2007-09-07 21:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by puanani 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, if I were you, I'd go out of my way to be nice to her. If she has so little respect for you that she would yell at you in front of others, ignoring her won't matter one iota to her. However, if you treat her with respect and friendliness, perhaps she'll feel guilty..and wouldn't that be much better revenge?
I'm not saying to act like a kiss-up...but a sad, knowing smile in her direction combined with genuine friendliness might trigger the desired result (her feeling bad about her behavior).
2007-09-07 21:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by KAL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally ok to not want to talk or acknowledge her her anymore. This is your right to feel that way. I wouldn't go and tell her anything ugly, however you may want to tell her boss, or if you have one, Human Resources director to inform them of her behavior. The proper thing for her to have done, if she had an issue with your performance, is to address your supervisor or to take you aside behind closed doors and address the issue . The manner in which she treated you is unacceptable and childish. She may have just had a bad day and took it out on you, don't take it to heart. Us managers sometimes can be under alot of pressure and not realize that we have taken our frustrations out on a fellow employee. I hope that this helps
2007-09-07 21:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by gaitan_78383 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up, she doesn't care. The best tactic would have been to address her shortly after the incident to ask her privately to bring her issues with you to you privately in order to work them out in an adult manner. It is probably too late now so take the higher ground and smile and say hello, this may confuse her.
2007-09-07 21:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think she cares about you if she yells at you in front of your coworkers. She obviously won't care if you don't respect her cause she doesn't respect you. Honestly I would just let it go, she is a superior and it is a lesson we all learn in High School, when you argue with the teachers, you get detention.
2007-09-07 21:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kiara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on where you work... for instance... if it's not a real job, just kinda laugh and feel sorry for her... because you could most likely surpass her pathetic position and move on to bigger and better job opportunities in the future... and always remember "Be careful of the feet you step on today for they may be attached to the a** you have to kiss tomorrow."
2007-09-07 21:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by krisden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about growing up and telling her what she did to offend you, instead? Maybe talk it out like rational adults? At least give it a shot.
2007-09-07 21:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by god_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as is doesn't interfear with your job, you can treat her anyway you want to. I mean, I wouldn't sink down to her level or anything, but you CAN report her and go to her boss saying "Did you know...". Argh, that really sucks! Sorry dude! :]
2007-09-07 21:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no thats the wrong way, move on and keep being pleasant towards her
2007-09-07 21:34:39 · answer #11 · answered by missmichelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋