He is always telling me not to party drink and stuff and he did when he was my age.(14) He tells me not to have sex but he got a girl pregnant when he was 15 and now there married and have a 7 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. He is being such a hyprocite. Why was it all right for him to it and not me??
2007-09-07 14:22:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not that he is being a hypocrite. Is he doing it all over again? He is trying to give you advise because he does not want you to go through what he has and is going through because of the choices he made. He is only looking out for you. A hypocrite is someone who KEEPS making the same mistakes over and over and then tells you not to do as he does.
Hypocrite-a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, esp. a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.
Hypocrite (noun) - a person who professes beliefs and opinions that he or she does not hold in order to conceal his or her real feelings or motives.
Matthew 7 - Judging Others (NIV)
1"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
2007-09-07 14:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No your brother is not a hyprocite, he is someone that loves you and does not want you to have the same problems he did . He made mistakes and he only wants you to not do the same thing. Ask him to tell you how hard its been overcoming those choices and maybe young man, you can become the man your brother is.
2007-09-07 14:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has the voice of experience.
He played with grown-up stuff and as a result, had to grow up unseasonably early.
Do you really want to blow all your first years of adult freedom the way he has? Wouldn't you rather spend it enjoying college, dating, having your own place and building a real money-making career? Shoot... get married and make babies after age 30!
Man, if you really have it together, you don't do substances because they not only make you lose control, but put other people in control. The effects can be very long-range.
You don't do sex unless you are ready to make babies.
At the very least, you make sure you wear a condom... protect yourself from diseases, and from paternity suits... DNA testing is pretty cheap nowadays.
In other words, be conscious of all the ramifications of your behavior.
2007-09-07 14:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He diffidently own you an explanation. Unless he explain himself clearly of the reason why he is warning you of not to take the steps he did. Your brother is probably looking back at the mistakes he made. He just don't want you get yourself into trouble, but only he can tell his thoughts to you. This a case of if he could of done things differently, he would appreciate his many option he would have in life...
At the age 14, he party and drank and now regretting all the problems that surround it. The very last thing he would hate is for you to get pregnant. He sees that you could have the world open to you, than to get pregnant. Talk to your brother...God bless
2007-09-07 14:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've read through your questions, and you sound so pathetic. Yes, I do appluad you for saying no to your boyfriend!! Although I do think your to young to be dating, I still applaud you for that.
Did you stop to think that maybe your brother doesn't want you making the same mistakes he did? Plus how well do you really know this boyfriend of yours?! No matter how much you want to say you know him very well there are probably somethings you still don't know. What if he has an STD? HIV? AIDS? Maybe he even has it and doesn't know so he can't tell you. What happens if you get pregnant? The boy can run off and hid away, your going to be the one who is going to be pregnant for 9 months. The one who will be the mother. The one who will have to go through labor. Not him.
If your brother ran out the window and told you not to are you telling me you would be dumb enough to ask why he is being a hypocrite for that too? Stop for a moment and think that maybe he realized how horrible it is for him to do it and he loves you and doesn't want you to do it aswell.
You should be glad you have somebody who loves and cares for you!!! One of my best friends just lost her father. I realize you said you lost your father too and I am sorry for that. But this girl and her 7th grade sister only had their father. They don't know what will happen with her now! She has NO FAMILY! Be happy for what you have. If I were your brother and I ever read the things you write about him I would be so hurt, upset and disappointed in you.
You need to take a step back and look at yourself. In almost all of your questions you complain about how your brothers, mom and everybody is so mean to you. News flash hun, the world isn't against you. Your just making it seem that way. Life could be so much worse. You could have absolutely no family at all. Nobody who cares for you. I have a rare metabolic genetic disorder called Phenylketonuria (PKU) and because of that my body can't proccess protein propperly (more specifically an amino acid called Phenylalanine found in protein). Because of this I can't eat anything high in protein which means my diet excludes: all meat, dairy, most grain products, beans, nuts etc and is mainly made up of: fruits, veggies and startchy foods in measured amounts. Then I have to take my blood twice a month (google it if you want more info). But you know what? Even though my life isn't exactly how I want it to be I DON'T COMPLAIN. Be happy for what you have!!! Gosh! You sound so ungrateful. 'Oh no my brother cares about me' lets come to reality kid.
Come on your 14, you should be old enough to know sex before 18 is techniqually illegal. So if you had sex and your brother found out he could press charges on this boy if he wanted to. You should also know that drinking before 21 is illegal to. So is driving a car when your 14 even if it's only in your driveway.
Like I said in my other post, I'm not trying to be mean but obviously your family hasn't gotten through to you yet. Hopefully my post will atleast make you think for alittle bit about what I'm saying. Your brother loves you, he isn't doing this to try and be mean.
2007-09-08 06:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by BreezeGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your brother is only trying to protect you from making what could possibly be mistakes in his eyes and he wants to see better for you. He realizes the mistakes he has made, but he cannot change them, only move forward, but he can try to keep you from making his mistakes. Listen to him, he might teach you a thing or two.
2007-09-07 14:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes I think its ok for him to tell you this. He does not want you to end up like he did. Do you know if his marrage is a heppy one? Just becuase it looks happy that may not be the case. Listen to him, he knows what he missed out on. Having a kid is hard esp at 15.
2007-09-07 14:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe he wants better for his little sis..he dont want you to make the same mistakes he did...reading your other questions u sound like you need help
2007-09-09 05:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't want you to make the same mistakes :)
2007-09-07 14:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
he doesnt want you to make the same mistake.
2007-09-07 15:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋