please help me theres this girl and she likes my friend and my friend likes her back but there not going out and they dont know they like each other but my friend is going to ask her out and if that happens im going to loose the girl of my dreams im pretty good friends with this girl but she is my friend to and i want her to be my girl i would do anything for this girl please how do i win her heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-07 14:10:08 · 43 answers · asked by THEguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her!
2007-09-07 14:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Exitwound 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you just completely described a situation I've been through before [except I'm a girl... so switch all the genders XP]. I pretty much thought I was going to die when I found out, but things sort of faded. You could change this though [unlike me ^.^], and I'm sure you know what the right thing to do is. It depends on how old you are, but it's likely that they will get together, go out for a week or two, and then break up. So if you cared so much about this girl and your friend too, you'd help them. You'd make sure things turn out well, and if she's really supposed to be with you in the end, then she will. When this happened to me, I forgot to think through about what would happen after I kept my friend and the guy from going out. It would totally crush her. In your situation, your friend may not be so crushed, but you shouldn't worry. Everything will fall into place. Sure, if you feel so strongly that it's not going to, talk to your friend about it. I know guys seem to have issues with "talking", but if he knows how you feel, he might draw back a little about asking her out. But don't mess with the truth, and tell one or the other that they don't like each other. Trust me, from experience, it'll screw things up for all of you.
2007-09-07 14:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by AnneMarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I know you adore this girl however if your truly friends with this guy you have to let him take the girl. I mean you can't get in the way of that. That would make you a lousy friend. There are plenty of fish in the sea. And if you're younger like in middle school or high school you're in luck because those relationships don't last very long. So you won't have too wait long. I know you like her but you must remember that girlfriends come and go but true friends are forever. So I'm saying you shouldn't ruin your friendship with your guy friend over a girl. Maybe you should talk to your friend about it though.
Hope this helps
2007-09-07 14:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Lone Trumpeter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. If u want to be with her u should go up to her and tell her u like her. U say shes a good friend, so it shouldn't be tooo weird if u say it..cause shes not a complete stranger. Tell her u have feelings for her and u want to go out to see if things work out. But just dont wait anymore, if u do the guy wil ask her out....and u will probably not have a chance for a long time.
2007-09-07 14:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey. Please be honest with her! I know it may be awkward for you, but you will never know if the feeling is mutual unless you talk to her. But I would explain to her that you are not doing this because your friend likes her, it just prompted you and inspired you to finally tell her. She will respect your honesty. Also, try to give her a little gift. Show her what it would be like to be your girl! Good luck and I hope you win her, you seem sincere! :) If I was younger (I am a 28 year old mom), I would be flattered if you were shy then pored your heart out to me. :) I wish guys would have been more like that at that age!
2007-09-07 14:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl. This answer is from a girl's perspective. Ok, it is a typical situation. 2 guys, who are good friends, but only one girl, who, of course they both like. it is a toutchy situation, ok. I take it that you are all good friends, so that will complicate it. The best thing to do, kinda as a prolouge, is to kinda, um, flatter her. And I don't mean with words. Like, I feel flatterd if a guy goes out of his way to talk to me, or even to say a quick hi every now and then. it means , at least to the girl, that you think something of her. Holding open doors is another one of thoes traits that girls adore in men. Trust me, I know. Little things like that mean a lot to girls. That is kinda like a prelude to a good relationship. Even try dressing up a little nicer than you usally do. I don't mean dressy, but a clean, casual shirt with a collar is ALWAYS nice. Try combing out your hair. A nice hairdo goes a long way. Then you ask her out. Nothing formal, maybe even just to go out for dairy queen and eat it in a nice, quiet park. Send her annonomus(sp) roses, but never sign your name to them. She will appreciate that romantic gesture with much inthusiasm. Ok, this is an especially dashing thing to do for your lady-love. As you are quietly walking together down the road, or are with her anywhere outdoors, PICK HER A FLOWER. Any flower. I have had a few guys do this to me, and it is like the BEST thing a guy can do for a girl. Make remarks on her beautifl she looks, but stay away from saying that she is hot for now. Like pic a favorite featre of her's , and say things like" has anyone ever told you that you have the most beautiful hair that I have ever seen." , " you have the deepest brown eyes I have ever seen" and ' you look stunning in that dress tonight!" aKS her out and show an interest in her. That is all I have time for tonight.
Good Luck!!!
Sam.
2007-09-07 14:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if I were you I would try to beat that guy to the punch. You should tell her how you feel and tell her all the reasons that you would be the best guy for her. But if you happen to be late, be there for her...he'll probably mess up and you've got to the guy that she calls to get the 'male point of view' when she realizes how smart and sincere you are, she'll be with you. You sound like a good guy, if she don't work for you, then there will be other girls. she doesn't deserve you if she can't see what a winner you are.
2007-09-07 14:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by WiseGirl84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Try to get a moment alone with her, look her in the eye (even though that might be hard) and tell her how you feel. Don't be cocky. Girls don't like that. Be gentle, and don't say anything like, "So, wanna go out with me?" cause girls know that that means nothing. The most important thing is that you won't stop being friends with her even if she rejects you.
2007-09-07 14:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay calm down. You have to let her know you're interested by asking her out. Just because you're friend is also planning to ask her out doesn't mean you can't. Eventually she will have to choose. This will probably cause some friction between you and your friend, so you also have to decide if the girl is really more important to you than keeping your friend happy.
2007-09-07 14:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About all you can do is prepare yourself for the possibility that you and your friend will have a falling-out over this girl. It's going to hurt like hell. Try not to punch your friend and whatever you do, don't kill him. Going to jail hurts a lot more than losing the one you love.
2007-09-07 14:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young so I am guessing that your friends are too. Statistically speaking, the chance of them breaking up eventually are very good. Quit freaking out and just let whatever happens with them run its course. You will get your chance. If she likes HIM you probably dont have much of a chance with her now anyway.
2007-09-07 14:14:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋