but when i get home,i i get in my room,and start crying histarically. my dad has cancer,i lost 3 of my best friends in 1 week,my family is turning poor,one of the friends i lost is telling me to get over my dads cancer. i feel like im in a cold dark room and i can never get out.
im now locked in a black hole that never ends.
im depreesed everyday and i cant understand why this is happening to me,im just a failiure to life. what should i do to make me happier,im exramly in need.
or ill die,of stress and sadness,thhats what tthe doctor said on a tv show(opra) if im like this everyday,i NEED help. i dont want to die,even though my soul has alreday died.
2007-09-07 13:52:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Okay, STOP watching Oprah and applying it directly to your life, take up jogging, find God, or a really good counselor/adult you can talk to....Force yourself out of your room, even if your still alone...learn to live again.
Jogging worked very well for me when I finally kicked my butt into gear after my daughter died. I never thought I would be happy again. Walking/jogging alone with inspiring motivational music (don't think I'm getting totally spiritual, mine ranged from Alanis to Sublime to...well i think you see the contrast and get the point....whatever gets you moving) I would take an hour a day, and it was "me" time, to spend With myself, not BY myself.
2007-09-07 14:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Princess_Baby_Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly anyone who says things like "get over it '...aren't your friends.They are just simply selfish so 7 so's who just want to have to waste time not for real freindships.You have gone through alot and in life there are just some people who are far too high up thier own butt to be able to sincerely support their friends.i have been through many trials and tribulations , like my father died last year too, and the ones I thought i could talk to, were too messed up themselves to be able to assist.Sometimes thats all they can give.You should never say you are the failure , you are young and you havent acquired the life skills to cope with such stresses yet, but a word of advice is.How can i make the qaulity of my life better and for others.Remember sometimes we too can be too far up our own butt too, and you might want to look in somebodies yard sometime, like you mothers and your siblings, once you do and open up youll find they are feeling the same , so you can give one another some comfort, be open and honest with each other, you still are a family.Enjoy what you have not what you don't.Being independant is being strong and true to oneself practice the small skills everyday like positive thinking -looking on the brighter side of things and soon you'll be an expert. There's a bright future waiting, for you, this is the time when you are incubating like a caterpillar before becoming a butterfly..If you honestly need help speak to a counsellor at school and they will guide you in the right direction.
I hope you found this useful as i did many a times in my life.Good luck sweetie !
2007-09-07 14:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its great that you can get it together in school. Anti Depressants may help you. Thats rubbish you cannot die from sadness and a stress induced heart attack in a school age person simply not gonna happen. Cancer is not a death sentence more and more people survive it every day either with surgery and or treatments. How did u loose friends? If ur still talking u can reagin friendship. Remember ur dads needs you to stay strong and help him fight
all the best
2007-09-07 14:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, girl, cheer up. It's okay. Take a deep breath and just feel cool about it. Don't think about all the bad things that's happened to you. my mom says that it is always true that if someone is extremely poor and all of a sudden, things just flip over and you become rich.
Sorry about the friends don't worry. It happened to me. I came back to school from a trip and i gave gifts to all my best friends and then 1 week later, they ditched me.
You are not a failure in life. You are just a girl in a tough position.
Try talking to your mom. Or a parent. Just try opening yourself to the world. If you want, you can you to a phsycologist or find a counsellor (if you can) to talk to. Going to a phsycologist doesn't mean you're crazy.
Just keep your cool and open yourself to the world. Try not to think about your problems and just think about all the cool stuff you have.
Cheerup. ^-^
2007-09-07 14:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats true, but it ALL depends on YOU. In every Negative Situation, you can find a positive... yes even in your dads cancer... how? Its probably making the relationship between you and him even closer, and you appreciate every second of it...
If you keep thinking about all these situations in a negative way, then yea you'll be depressed, but if you set it aside, and look on the positive side, it'll be over before you know it, get your mind off of it.. think positively
2007-09-07 13:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cabrialab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wendy's comment was horrible, please disregard it and her.
You need someone to talk to about this, maybe a psychologist.
I went through it when I was in my early 20's, I know how rough it is.
There is no "getting over" your dad's cancer, you need to live with the pain. To work through it, and be there for you dad and spend time with him. I know it would mean a lot to him.
Please talk to someone, it will help you sort through all of your feelings and get them out. You need that. You are not a failure. I'll keep your family in my prayers. God bless.
2007-09-07 14:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, I was like you. I am still like that. Professional counseling helped in addition to antidepressants and a steady exercise routine. Tell someone. Tell your parents. They'll want to help you.
And aside, high schoolers are catty, vicious people. Pay no attention to them, and you'll be better off.
2007-09-07 13:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by shoompf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Heart.... You friend is wrong.
Please go to a doctor and tell him that you are so terribly depressed. Tell him everything you have said here. There is help out there and you can get it.
Your soul isn't dead it may be a little dented right now... but things will get better.
2007-09-07 13:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you should seriously think about talking to someone. Don't worry things will get better eventually, they always do. Just when it seems like you can't take anymore, it stops, and things get better. I hope things work out for you! : )
2007-09-07 13:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k... your soul has NOT died...
thats extreme depression, and you need to see someone NOW about it. start with the school counselor, but you might even need to see a phychiatrist.
and for god sakes, don't listen to doctors on opra.
2007-09-07 13:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by i_hate_nicknames 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋