Why are some boys so cruel?

Question

He dumped me because, quote, "(1) You treat my friends terribly, and, (2) I just got bored of you." Okay, first of all, I treated all of his real friends just fine, and also, you don't throw a girl away like she was last month's issue of Shonen Jump! I thought we had something, tho, seriously! And what's worse is this ***** that hates me (and I hate her) insisted that she tell me that we weren't together anymore because she 'wanted to see the look on my face'. He cordially agreed. Now he has basically replaced me with her, even tho he used to dislike her just as much as I did. He won't talk to me, return my emails, or anything! Lately I have been feeling like crap, and I have an incredibly short temper. I hate this girl with everything, I'm serious when I say I would gladly jump at the chance to cut her stomach open and pour powerful acid down it. As for my ex, lets just say...
Isn't it funny how someone can break your heart, and you still can love them with all the little peices?

I know some girls can be real asses too.

such as *cough* Grace *cough* cough*

Answer 1

I'm not sure how you can love him and hate her. If anything, he is the only one at 'fault' here.

You would be much better off pretending that both of them have died from a horribly disfiguring disease (perhaps syphilis) and then find people who actually want to be with you and in your life.

Your ex and his new g/f aren't worth spit.

Answer 2

I know of three reasons, there are probably more but check these out:
1. They can be
2. They have no clue how to be compassionate
3. They thrive on it to make themselves feel superior.

Sweetie, this is coming from a battered wife of 14 years, his cutting all ties may seem cruel, but it is a Godsend. It doesn't seem that way now, but you will come to understand.
Unfortunately the scary part is that if you stop appearing so desperate and cut ties as well, you are more than likely to hear from him. Right now he is getting an ego boost that no matter what you do, you ARE STILL doing it and that makes him feel superior to all women.
Try it, one day at a time, 1 hour at a time, etc. When you want to contact him do things like, journal what you would say, write down all the mean things he has said and done to you and that sheet of paper, or two, can be your escape from this psychological need. You have to dis-empower him.
The paper should be destroyed by you to conquer the hold he has and make him nothing more than a bully.
Suggestions: 1. Burn the paper (in a fireplace or somewhere safe of course) 2. Rip it into as many pieces as you can while saying out loud what an S.O.B. he is. 3. Put it in an envelope for a week and for that week concentrate solely on nature, flowers, the beauty of water, toddlers, or even watering plants with a hose. I found that cleaning the dirt off of my porch or driveway (if you don't have those ask a friend) had a cleansing effect on my view of myself.
Then take out that envelope and read it. Ask yourself if you aren't better than that and did you deserve to be treated that way?
If you get angry, that is predictable because your sadness, hopelessness, etc. has changed to a different emotion which is part of the healing process.
I promise you, I didn't come to these solutions all by myself. I have had group therapy, individual therapy, and even jounaled to go back on every few weeks and see that !Yes, I have come a little further! ! Yay Me!
Also, remember that there are girls that can be cruel too and that have broken males hearts as well. Whatever the situation is - Remember - You are not alone.
You are in my prayes and if you need to send me an e-mail now and then if you want a little one on one.
Hope, Faith, Trust, & Faith Forever - Lila

Answer 3

Well some guys are just assholes. Sorry to be blunt but they just are. If they find something wrong that doesnt fit them or at best doesnt fit what they friends think should be they hurt you. As much as you are hurting, consider yourself lucky...I meanat best this relationship could have gone on longer and he could of hurt you worse than what you are hurting now. Yesyou love him but you will continue to hurt until you let go and realize that he has done you a favor and saved you from being in a bad position in life. As for the b****,....well consider this....if she is happy about what happened with you and him....then she is next to go when this guy finds another one to be with and he tires of her. And believe me, it will probably be the same excuses he tried to use on you. take those pieces and keep them tight and heal yourself up as much as you can until the right someone comes along and make your heart whole again. And by the way...Never use a similie like he dumped me like last months issue of Shonen Jump!....Shonen Jump! should never be dumped for at least bout two years lol.....Feel better and dont let anyone toy with your heart. Peace :P

Answer 4

The sooner you learn this the better you'll feel. You can only depend on yourself. Don't let what other people do to you dictate how you feel. The more independence you have the less you Willl sit around feeling like crap. Go out and have some fun! Forget this guy and enjoy your life. He wil do something crappy to her too and you'll be somewhere else having fun. Your a princess right?

Answer 5

I know the feeling. Of course, this is coming from someone whose given up on love for now so i know what all that crap feels like. So? Dont fight back with anger cause its not going to let you win. Fight with kindness, and forgiveness. It sounds funny but its the best thing for both sides. Soon you'll realize he just isnt your true other half. if thats what your searching for, you are going to have to get over him. Let them be mad and hate you, it shouldn't matter because theres hope for you at least. Someone is going to come around and love you someday, and it'll be so strong you'll laugh at the thought of tis boy.

Answer 6

Hey guy can be a jack***. But on the same side some female are the same way. The way he is treating you is not right and he will get what is coming to him. And on the part that someone can break your heart and still love them, been there and done that a couple of times and it absolutely sucks.

Answer 7

Hey you're better than that..he's not good enough for you.
Don't be hanging over someone who "just got bored of you"..he's stupid and immature. As for the **** ignore her..she's not worth your time..and if he replaced you with her?..well..you can be satisfied..that she happens to have a crapped up guy, who'll eventually get bored with her too.
it's okay..they'll be other guys...[who are sweet, kind, mature, and hotter]..

Answer 8

That what we all say, but we did this right not wrong like he/she says. Well that is your point of view, you need to think of the other persons point of view also. And calm down find some one new after your crisis is done.

Answer 9

you know what i would do ..leave him alone dont call him, dont email him and dont even talk to him when u see him, find another guy someone that he may hate and start talking to him get to know him then when the cruel dude comes around asking u back disk him like he disked u ... just pretty much make him JEALOUS thats what i would do...

Answer 10

he dumped you because of the other girl perod. end of story sad but try. now hes happy but guess what you can find someone better then him and move on and i mean move on without him. hes not worth your time take care.