Is it rude to save everyone time & effort?
2007-09-07 12:29:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Its not rude, as long as you BOTH dont feel it.
2007-09-07 12:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerFairy 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
As long as the blind date was not pre-arranged as "drinks and dinner," there's nothing rude at all. No one wants to be stuck in that blind date that's headed nowhere, or have to make up a phony excuse about a family emergency or sick pet to excuse themselves halfway through an expensive meal with someone they absolutely loathe. So just pre-arrange to meet for drinks, and then, if you hit it off with a blind date, you can ask if they've eaten yet and would like to have dinner. This also gives the other person an out, if they don't feel the same as you, then you know without having a lot invested in the evening. Seems like a polite way to get through what sometimes becomes an awkward situation.
2007-09-10 17:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude if you made it a dinner date rather than a date for drinks only. Personally I think blind dates should be a lunch. It's safe and short. That's why there are companies called "It's Only Lunch". It's a great way to have any first date.
2007-09-07 20:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The whole point of only agreeing to meet for drinks is so that you can excuse yourself after a short meeting. If the conversation is lingering and you two are really hitting it off, that's when you offer to catch some dinner. If things are blah, chances are your date isn't any more thrilled with you than you are with him/her, and you can just say "it was nice meeting you" and go your way. So no, it isn't rude. An eager date might get their feelings hurt, but you haven't broken any rules there.
2007-09-07 20:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I don;t think anyone is comfortable in that situation and you should not have to be. I think you should be considerate about handling it but you shouldn't feel obligated to pursue something you have no interest in. Persoanlly, I would not commit to anything other than coffee at the onsought and then offer dinner or something else if you both feel inclined to spend more time together. You are right, it is a waste of time and I would rather hear that it doesn't seem that we get along that well than to have someone put up a facade.
2007-09-07 20:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by kathleen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as your understanding is that you're just meeting for drinks, there's no need to go on to dinner. That's the purpose of meeting for drinks, right?
2007-09-08 20:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely would appreciate knowing if there was not a 'love connection' early on to save both of us some awkwardness. Why prolong the agony? I think that would be worse.
I think it is a sticky situation however, and would say something like.... 'Look, I really appreciate your agreeing to go out with me.....and I am sure you are a great person.... and I wish you the best, but I think we both know that this isn't really going anywhere. Do you want to call it a night?'
2007-09-07 19:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by pink 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Not at all, it's not rude even if one person feels it but the other doesn't. Take care of yourself, you don't have to have dinner with some one if you don't want to!
2007-09-07 19:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Why would it be rude? You're not encouraging them or giving them false hope where there is none. It's kinder actually.
2007-09-07 20:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you are nice about it. It's not usually the message that is rude, but how it is delivered.
2007-09-07 20:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by TeaQueen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋