and for my other sister, her cousin threw the shower....her maid of honor. my sister and my family planned mine. everyone was happy, and i don't think it really matters who plans it. does it??
2007-09-07 11:50:35 · 11 answers · asked by breeze 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is supposed to be someone not related to the bride, but close to them, who throws the shower. The idea is that if a family member is throwing it, they are aggrandizing their relative. It needs to be a best friend or a bridesmaid the bride isn't related to.
I didn't say it made sense, but that is the rule, and if you go against it, be prepared to have people say it's tacky --- and then have a nice party anyway.
2007-09-07 13:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who throws the shower. When my sister got married, her best friend/maid of honor threw a lingerie shower. The church threw a couples shower for her as well. The only person who SHOULDN'T throw the shower is the couple getting married. That's poor taste and gives the impression that you expect to get gifts and money.
2007-09-07 12:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by J-Dawn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strict etiquette says that immediate family members aren't supposed to throw showers because it looks like they are colluding with the bride to solicit gifts (in other words, it's a little too close to a bride's hosting a shower for herself). In practice, I think it really depends on how your family and friends feel about it. In your family, if it's the same aunts, cousins, grandmas, sisters, and friends-since-grade school coming to each others' showers over the years, it probably doesn't matter which lady is hosting the event.
2007-09-07 12:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure...I've only heard from Yahoo Answers (and Emily Post...who seriously needs a day job) that it was considered rude for family to throw a bridal/baby shower...
In my entire life, I don't know if I've ever seen anyone that WASN'T family throw a shower... I don't know how it is seen as rude or as asking for gifts...
I personally don't see ANYTHING wrong with a mother or sister throwing a shower ... they're closest to the person, so why not?
2007-09-08 04:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days it doesn't really matter. Traditionally it has always been the maid of honor, but traditions are changing. I have pasted a link that explains the history, tradition and etiquite of throwing a bridal shower.
http://www.utahbrideguide.com/planning/articles/shower_basics.asp
2007-09-07 12:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 03:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to my understanding, it is a violation of etiquette rules for a member of the bride's family to throw a shower. But I doubt that any of the guests were offended. If they are, they can always refuse to come.
2007-09-08 13:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its whomever wants to throw it. My now sister-in-law had 2. One thrown by her aunts in Michigan, another one thrown by her maid of honor.
2007-09-07 11:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it matters i mean as long as everybody is happy (the one you are throwing the shower for) then itz all good!
2007-09-07 11:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by Legant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it shows that u care. but it shouln't matter who throws it. well @ least in my family.
2007-09-07 12:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by cherryblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋