I just converted to LDS and got baptised at the end of July. My boyfriend and I were fooling around and got too close to sex. He put it in a couple of times but I stopped it. Then at church he told me I couldn't take sacrament. I was so upset. Then he said that we may as well have sex. So I did. I wouldn't have considered the previous as sex before I got baptised. So I thought I was fine. Now I feel like I was somewhat tricked into having sex with him. I know I still did it tho after. I just thought I may as well since he told me it was too late til I repented with the President. I know that it won't happen again until we get married. If I know it won't happen again, can I take the sacrament or do I need to talk to the President still? I really don't like the idea of sharing my personal information with someone I don't know. I don't have a problem. Sex won't happen again.
2007-09-07 11:32:44 · 16 answers · asked by moonstar 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes of course this is a serious question. I JUST got baptised, excuse me if I use the word president and not bishop, but I'm pretty sure that my bishop is also called the president. My boyfriend is cool he didn't try to trick me I just felt the situation was not what he made it to be. I know that the sacrament can be taken when you feel like you are worthy of taking it again. I don't need somebody to tell me that I have learned a lesson. I have learned it. I know that they are there to guide and help me. If this were to happen all the time then I would say I have a problem. But I don't have a problem. He has already talked to the Stake President.
2007-09-07 11:54:16 · update #1
ok, I was born and raised LDS around the time I turned 23 or so I realized that it was not for me I did not find the truth in it, not trying to say anything bad about the LDS church as they believe a lot like many other churches. now to answer your question I for one do not believe you are LDS as any member even a new one knows you take nothing to the president.Chances of you ever being close enough to him to tell him anything are almost zero.that kind of thing you would take to the Bishop
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if you have repented in your heart and asked for forgiveness
why??????????do you have to talk to any one else about
the matter????????? Jesus is the way the truth and the life, not the bishop or the president.
2007-09-07 12:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by hmm 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are sincere, meet with your bishop. Confess the sin, repent and start new. That's what the atonement is for. You'll be able to take the sacrament again. We all make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just get back up and try harder. I've been in your position. It's hard to tell the bishop, but you'll feel so much better. Like this heavy weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. The bishop will be understanding. He won't yell or make you feel guilty or uncomfortable.
I know the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints is true. I feel it. God never gives up on us. He will always forgive us if we are sincere.
2007-09-10 19:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by atomzer0 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very explicit.
Don't take Sacrament Only when instructed by a bishop or stake president.
I'm not sure by what you said if you talked to your Bishop -- if you haven't you need to. He deals with this all the time.
Good luck and best wishes with your wedding
D
2007-09-10 12:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dionysus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law of chastity includes more than just sexual intercourse. It includes necking, petting, dry sex, masturbation, pornography, etc. By the church's standards you two had sex. Whether or not you are worthy of partaking the sacrament is decided during an interview with the bishop. I would recommend you talk to him as soon as possible and encourage your boyfriend to do so as well. I suspect the bishop will advice you and him to refrain from partaking for a period of time, and may ask that the two of you set ground rules that will keep you out of situations where it can happen again. When I was in the single's ward, our bishop would set rules for engaged couples, like curfews to help keep them on the strait and narrow.
Good luck
2007-09-07 11:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Senator John McClain 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Hang in there. Yes, you were tricked by a jerk of a boyfriend. Get rid of him. Yes, you need to talk to your Branch President (I guess you're in a Branch because you kept referring to talking to the "President" and not a Bishop.) You should NOT stop taking the sacrament unless you are instructed to do so by your Bishop, Branch President or Stake President. It is no one else's business what you do.
You are a good person and that shows with your words you have used here. Pray about it. Ask your Heavenly Father for forgiveness. Just remember that the Law of Chastity includes any and all activities that may lead to sex. The rules are not there to subdue you or control you, but to protect you.
I have personally been through what you are going through. It's worth it to do what must be done in order to obtain forgiveness for what has happened. Hang in there and don't forget that you are a Daughter of our Heavenly Father and He loves you no matter what!
2007-09-08 13:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I recommend clearing this up with your bishop or branch president. This is an essential step in helping people overcome serious sins, and also helps to determine your worthiness in partaking of the sacrament. I know it can be difficult to share private information with someone you don't know, but it can also be a very uplifting experience. The bishop is obligated to keep all discussions confidential. He is there to function as a judge in Israel, and will let you know when it is appropriate to take the sacrament again if you need to have such a restriction. I found a few articles (see links below) that may be of interest to you.
2007-09-07 18:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by all star 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If this is a real sincere question, you should know you go talk to your bishop not the president. The sacrament is a sacred participation, if you are not living the word of wisdom, you should not take the sacrament until your bishop feels you are worthy again.
2007-09-07 11:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by aunti_m19 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been in your shoes. Except I was baptized at 8 and raised in the Church so should have known better.
Anyway go talk with your Bishop or Branch president. They will be able to help you.
There is also a really good book out called The Miracle of Forgiveness. That helped me immensely.
Anyway Good luck. Oh and when you go to the bishop/Branch pres go without your boyfriend. if you feel uncomfortable going alone talk with the Relief Society president first or the Bishop's wife. They may go with you.
2007-09-07 14:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by Heather R 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The first time was having sex, I did the same thing one time. Sadly you were tricked into having sex with him. I would talk with the Bishop has soon as possible that way you can clear the air. The Bishop isn't there to judge you but to help you.
2007-09-07 12:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by newwellness 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to think just you do, until I made way too many mistakes and just became overwhelmed. I converted, resigned, and am now working to come back.
The decision is ultimately yours, but just hear me out: Don't under estimate the power of the support network you have in the bishopric. Your bishop isn't paid, he's a lay member. He must be presiding over your ward because he understands that it is his duty to help you and that he loves you.
On a side note, you're right, you were tricked. Your boyfriend sounds like a manipulative little prick. If you're serious about living the gospel, I'd recommend leaving him, at least until he grows up.
2007-09-08 15:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Feelin Randi? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋