Run down Me- engaged for 5 years and plan a vegas wedding, reception when i return. Her- with the guy for 3 years, get in big fight and she leaves, (she says) they make up and he asks, she says yes and then they plan date. All of this happens in a weekend. Work on Tues Guess what we are getting married a week before you!
2007-09-07 11:03:27 · 27 answers · asked by yahoo user 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
So? If it was family, I'd understand the feeling of being over-shadowed because it would be the same guest pool. However, co-workers!! Even if their situation isn't the best, why does it bother you? And if you think they are so badly matched, what's to say they will even make it down the aisle?
2007-09-07 11:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by butterflyblue1979 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are planning a reception when you get back from Vegas, I'm assuming that you won't have a bunch of people coming to Vegas with you. If I'm correct in that assumption, then what's the big deal since you are going to be celebrating your wedding much later?
What you have to get over is not being the center of attention during this time. Since her wedding is in town, people are going to be more focused on her wedding plans than yours. That's the cost of having a destination wedding, hon.
2007-09-07 11:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a small that will be affected by 2 people being off at the same time?
Or( which is what i think the case is)
Is she the type of person that has to one up you on everything.... If this is the case. I would try to ignore it because it will continue the entire time till the weddings. I would try to be indifferent about it like it is no big deal. That will annoyed her even more.
Sucks that she did that but if you make a big deal out if it then it will be even worst.
Good luck it is going to be tough
2007-09-07 11:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by anut76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not be dissatisfied. it is your boss, no longer a private chum. each wedding ceremony has a D-record. Weddings are costly and not anybody could be invited. you possibly made the preliminary focused visitor record, yet after budgeting and such, you have been decrease. of direction, the relatives and close friends of your boss have been given invited first. that's in user-friendly terms common. As for the different co-workers being invited first. Have they worked w/ your boss for longer? have they have been given a nearer artwork relationship? Or a friendship exterior of artwork? in case you answer definite, you already know why they have been invited first. appears like some human beings could no longer attend, hence they have been prepared to ask you to proportion their day with them. If that's too short be conscious, you have the prospect to say no the invite. using fact it is your boss, is all of it that significant which you attend. that's not like that's a chum. i could be chuffed you have been invited in any respect. Your boss might have not completed that. i think of, each time somebody invites you to their wedding ceremony, that's an honor. i would not invite purely all people to my wedding ceremony. If I wasn't close or did no longer evaluate you somebody i might affiliate with,. i would not invite you.
2016-10-10 03:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My finacee's cousin is getting married a month before me...oh, did I mention he hasn't even gotten his girl a ring yet? Ok, so I am a little bitter considering my wedding is out of town, theirs is not, and we will be inviting many similar guests. I have made it my mission to plan a better wedding than theirs (I have tried to pick things that are "different" - ie, a live sax player for my ceremony and cocktail hour, a rehersal dinner at a famous wing joint (no not Hooters!), a classy black and white theme, etc).
And one major thing I am doing is sending out my save the dates and invites early. That way, most people plan on attending my wedding first and respond to mine first. Then when they get his cousins, they will have already planned on attending mine, so if they are only able to attend one, it's MINE. Also - ask your wedding party asap if you think she might ask someone you might ask. If they can only afford one dress, it will be YOURS and if they can only take a couple days off, it will be or YOU!
I don't care if I sound like a bridezilla. It's my day and that's how its going to play out! Good luck to you!
2007-09-07 17:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by missy_mae6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing your co-worker is far too wrapped up in her own drama to have realized this (or cared). Besides, unless she is a close friend, it wouldn't occur to most people to schedule their weddings around those of their co-workers. Often, it's tough enough picking a date around family events and the availability of the location.
Given her situation, I wouldn't count on the wedding actually happening anyway!
2007-09-07 12:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly she hasnt put any burden on you, but she has burdened the people you work with. If any of them are invited to both weddings, then she has done them a complete disservice.
You might want to point this out to her, and see if she changes her date.
Otherwise, for you, nothing really changes.
You go about your wedding as though she doesnt exist. just dont share anything about your wedding planning at work. you know darn well it will get copied.
2007-09-07 11:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares!? She's a co-worker. There are only so 52 weekends a year and many of those are bad weather, holidays and not days that are good for people. It's a coincidence. Plain and simple. It's not like she's your sister doing this. It's just a co-worker.
2007-09-07 11:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you are frustrated...but are you both inviting all your co-workers? Are you close to this person? At this point, of course there is nothing that you can do, so just go to her wedding, smile and have fun and then enjoy your wedding and reception!
2007-09-07 12:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think "what will you wear"? Should you start shopping for a gift?
Relax, nothing to it. Sounds like her wedding won't last long, if they just had a big fight and now marrying.
So relax and make sure all your plans for your wedding are all taken care of. Pack your bags
Congrats!
2007-09-07 13:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋