well my fiance just finished with his training (ait etc). and he got his orders, but since we arent married Im not on them right now. Im just wondering we are getting married when in about 10days so in order to get added to his orders what exactly do we have to do. Also I have a daughter from a previous relationship..how does all that work out?
2007-09-07 10:25:40 · 6 answers · asked by jitterbugs wifey 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
once you are married, he will need to take a copy of the license as well as both you and your child's Social security cards to His Personnel department. there, you will be added to his page 2 and entered into DEERS, which makes both of you eligiblefor coverage under medical and Dental(you have to enroll for both, and dental is a monthly fee). You will get an ID, as will the child if they are over ten.
only THEN can he go to his Command and request an ORDMOD to have you added to his orders. Be prepared to have to wait several months before this comes through, especially if he has orders OCONUS.
2007-09-07 10:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you have to get married. After you are married, he can take the marriage license down to his personnel office and get you added as his dependent with all the benefits. Then he can ask for either base housing (but as a newbie right out of boot camp, I doubt he will get it) or you guys find an apartment near the base.
If you have a court order giving you custody, he can probably get the child added as a dependent. No extra money but it will cover medical care which is a big expense. He needs to check with the base administration office about that.
If you have a court order but have joint custody (or no custody) then it is unlikely he will be able to add the kid to his dependents list. It is all in how the court order reads.
2007-09-07 11:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of that is completely correct..nothing can be done until you are officially married. Once that is done, they can ammend his orders, but it may take time so you should have a plan on where you will live, pay bills, etc. if he has to leave ahead of you and your daughter. Also, you don't mention your daughter's relationship with her father and where you all are moving too. If you have a formal custody agreement with your child's father, you will need to file your intent to move out of state or out of the US as soon as possilbe. The courts almost always approve the move, but in most cases visitation will be ammended to the father having the child for holiday breaks and large amounts of time over the summer, with you and your new husband assuming the cost of transporting her. If you do not have a formal agreement in place, get one!! This will protect both you and the child's relationship with her father. Your daughter will be eligable for medical care under Tricare, but if she is currently insured by her father, you can opt to keep that as primary and use Tricare as the secondary (if there is another insurance, they are always primary over Tricare). I would also suggest your husband do some research to see what his weight allowance for this move will be. As he is newly enlisted, even with dependents, it may be minimal, especially for an overseas assignment. You may need to start deciding what really needs to come along , what may go into storage and what you can get rid off. When we moved to Japan, my husband was an E4 with two dependents and we were only allowed 4000 pounds...take into consideration that movers estimate most rooms with furniture at 1000 pounds each. If you live on base, you will not need any appliances other than a washer and dryer (in the states..and even then most rentals will have kitchen appliances already) and overseas those are provided no matter where you live. I know it is a lot to process. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage, thanks to your husband for enlisting and welcome to the military life!!
2007-09-07 11:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In addition to the above statements, you may want to check on the waiting list for housing at your husband's post (assuming army). Sometimes there can be a lengthy waiting time. You would be well advised to wait until you can get onpost housing before you move to his duty station IF you plan to live on post, otherwise you can get something off post. BAH (extra pay) will be granted to your husband to pay for off post rent but can take a month - or few - to kick in. BAH rates: Ihttp://images.military.com/ContenFiles/2007-BAH-with-dependents.pdf
In reference to moving your stuff from your home to your new assignment, the army will pay for ONE move of "your husbands" household goods from his home of record to his duty station. I used it after I got married as a squad leader years ago to move "my stuff" from my home of record - which is where my (ex)wife was from to the location of where I was stationed at the time.
Another good source of information:
http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/MOS/home.aspx
2007-09-07 11:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Todd J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
also be advised, in addition to what was said above, since you were married after he had orders to his duty station- y'all will be responsible for moving costs to move you to his duty station. (In most, 99% of cases, unless you can somehow manage to get an exception to policy.) I just PCS'ed to Alaska, and they didnt have my wife on my orders, so I had to have them amended to add her or I would have had to pay for her to move up there with me.
2007-09-07 10:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by SgtRWMartin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave your daughter with someone else! The military won't be responsible! who da daddy?
2007-09-07 11:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by momofukuando 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋