I was in duty in the front gate to greet the guest and helping with overcoating this evening in our important reception. I wear a formal clothing and a ribbon hat to represent my nation. Then, there is one lady (I acquainted with her) and she deliberately disrespect and provoke me in front of many people as I attempt to be polite in front of some guests just because I didn't wear my 'ribbon hat' properly and then she just walks away. I already lose my temper and I almost confronted her, but I realize that it will only make everything worse and I decided to continue with my work.
But now, I am still upset about this and regret the fact that I have done nothing at all. Perhaps if I approach her and arguing, it would make me feel better. But, on the other hand I don't want to humiliate my self in front of people by fighting with some ignorant people like her. What do you think is the best that I should do when this situation happen again?
2007-09-07 10:20:04 · 11 answers · asked by Impiger 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
For the second answerer: No, I just a student and I do my duty in that reception voluntarily because my parents work there.
For the first answerer: I know how to wear Indonesian traditional clothes, asshole. Its only a common mistake, but she just make a big deal out of it and that makes me angry.
2007-09-07 10:34:38 · update #1
Unfortunately not, Scott P. People basically will soon forgot about it.
2007-09-07 10:37:24 · update #2
Yeah I noticed that, wyomugs. I don't want to be idiot that's why I didn't argue. Thanks for the reminder.
2007-09-07 10:49:54 · update #3
Here is my philosophy, which will serve you well...
If you argue with an IDIOT... what does that make YOU?
Just hold your head high, be proud of the work you do and do it well, and let the "jerks" of this world roll off your back, like water off a duck's back. You're better than they are, and prove it by not stooping to their level.
Have a polite day!
2007-09-07 10:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are the better person! She took advantage of you being in a reception role to be rude to you ~ she is a rude person. She is also probably xomeone who feels quite small inside, and needs to make herself big by arguing with those who are unable to respond due to their position.
You have behaved well, and in a dignified way throughout.
If you argue with her now, you will only bring yourself down to her level ~ anyone can be argumentative and rude, whereas only those who are intelligent and have self discipline can be polite and courteous when others antagonise them.
To me, it sounds like you are a very dignified and charming person. Your self discipline will take you far in life ~ there is always someone who wants to drag you down at every stage, but you will rise above.
If this same thing happens again, you will behave again in a dignified and polite manner ~ and once again, you will be the better person. People may not say so at the time, but they admire one who does not 'lose their cool' under provocation.
Well done and best wishes :-)
2007-09-07 18:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate when a boss or co-worker is upset and needs to speak with me, if they do it in a private way. There is never a need to publicly humiliate someone.
I think she should have taken you aside and spoke to you privately, or discretely helped you fix your hat without making some huge issue out it until you could have been taken aside later to be corrected.
The same is true for speaking to her.
You should wait until you are alone and then speak to her about the way she humiliated you. Tell her you dont appreciate being spoken to that way, and would never do that to someone. Tell her, in the future if she needs to speak to you, fine, no problem, just do it in a more respectful way.
It is never wrong to stand up for your self to anyone.
2007-09-07 17:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You might have regretted it more if you acted out. You have to learn to forget about bad things like that happening to you. If you hold on to it, you become bitter and angry. And you don't want to end up a grumpy old fool. Be strong enough to brush off what life throws at you.
2007-09-07 17:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something like this happens again or from the same lady just ask them are they so unhappy with themselves that they got to make other people unhappy or just say Im sorry Miss or Mister I didnt know your opinion mattered or had any importance to me any of those would surely get their goat and let them embarrass themself when they get mad.
2007-09-07 18:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by dugbug63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you feel embarrassed but I am sure that most people thought, "what a *****!", against her. If you look like the victim most people will feel sorry for you. If you become aggressive then you lose your support. So I think you did it right. Didn't anyone come up and tell you that she was wrong for doing that?
2007-09-07 17:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were wearing traditional cloathing incorrectly. That is somethign that will make people angry quickly. If you are going to wear traditional cloathing, make sure you wear it correctly. It was your own falt. Bighting your toung is the right thing to do.
2007-09-07 17:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Howie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't think about what she says, just forget it, ignore it, and try to think positive. Think of something happy and peaceful, hope that'll make you feel better.
2007-09-08 10:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by evan_jb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely the right thing. I am proud of you and so should you be. God Bless.
2007-09-07 17:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat her kindly. Report this to your boss so you do not get terminated.
2007-09-07 17:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋