Hey! Ok so today ended my first week back to school (I am a sophmore if that counts for anything). But there this guy I really like and I caught him looking at me alot. And I found out him and his girlfriend just broke here rescently. So I had my friend ask him out for me. And he said that he wasn't over his girlfriend yet and maybe after alittle more time goes by we can then. And that kinda hurt me and shocked me! But my question is about his answer did he just say that to get out of it or did he mean it? And what should I say to him now? THANKS!!! :D
2007-09-07 10:08:09 · 52 answers · asked by **JaeAnswers! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes probably saying it because he means it i mean it was probably an important relationship to him and he needs a little time and i would just say that you understand an you are willing to be there for him if he ever needs to feel like someone cares.
2007-09-07 10:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by stacyc 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He more than likely was being very honest weather you or your friend asked him. Do not be hurt, but respect the fact that he was honest. There is no reason to be hurt because you cannot miss something you neva had. There is nothing wrong if you still like him - its natural and that is one thing we do not have control over is our feelings - so . . . all you can do is continue to say hi when you see him and ask him how he's doing. You don't want to be pushy because you'll push him away. Let the time go by and see what happens. But know this, he really liked the girl to want to give himself time to get over it some and there is a possibility that he may go back to her. So while you like him - remember to draw that line - keep "wishes" seperate from "reality". If he does not never get with you - just move on and don't sweat it. Sometimes we like people and we do not get that opportunity to tell them or be with them - it's for a reason. Everything that looks good ain't good! I'm quite sure you are a beautiful young girl - so continue to have fun and someone will come your way - when it is time.
2007-09-07 10:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by spreetray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie Jessay. Well to me when he said that then it means that he doesn't want his ex anymore, and when this happen then it is good for you to give a break for a week because he have just broke off with his ex and after the week then it is good for you to express it and it is not good for you to keep it in your heart on whereby you can be facing depression and also other feelings which it can lead you to a bad way and it is good for you to express it and it is good that you should try to express it face to face and when you are shy then it is good for you to try to get his e-mail address and send him an e-mail or an e-love card and from there you can express it to him and when you have done that then it is good for you to be patients and give him some time to reply and when he have reply then it is good for you to ask him out and from there both of you'll guys can get to know more better and more deeper about each other. Try this and hope it might help you.........................
ALL THE BEST.....................
2007-09-07 10:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be interested in you and it's a healthy way to behave. However, he's probably wary of being disappointed. He is honest to say what the reason for his refusal is. Because you're a fairly bold girl to get someone to ask a boy out, be brave and accept the answer. Do not bother him or give him ultimatums. He won't likely talk to you again after that. Why should he give in to such behavior? It calls for a more mature and decent approach. Make more friends and don't be concerned where his interests may go.
2007-09-07 10:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It probably depends on how long they were dating. He also may have been turned off that you got your friend to ask him. Sorry, but that's very elementary. To know, you'd really have to ask him, but give him the benefit of the doubt and trust him on this one. Be friendly with him and wait awhile. Don't be pushy. Maybe after some time goes by, ask him if he'd like to catch a movie some weekend...no big deal, just hanging out.
2007-09-07 10:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could have been genuinely honest or he could just be using his break up as an excuse. But either way you just have to give him the respect of his decision and accept the fact that he is not interested at all or he needs some time to get over his ex. Either way, you can't be upset. Sure he turned you down either way, but you swear he's the only dude out there. You don't have to say nothing to him. At least talk to him so he doesn't think you don't want to talk to him at all due to his response to your offer.
2007-09-07 10:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by coby300 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two factors here. On the one hand, maybe him and his ex were going out for a significant amount of time (a year or so), then yes I could understand that he would need more time.
More than likely though, he probably just said that cause he's already talking to another girl.
2007-09-07 10:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus & Kristle 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's confused. Relevant example here.
I do karate/aikido with a lassie who split up with her boyfriend of four years. She constantly stares at me, and often loses concentration and focus when we are doing kumite (sparring) together. I don't let it affect me.
I know she's still confused and that I just seem like a get out card. So I don't react, and I feel bad by not doing so - because I did like her at one point! But I find it generally unattractive when someone doesn't display such restraint.
So what I'm saying is...don't push it! Just leave it at that and he'll come around soon enough if he wants you! =) Good luck!
2007-09-07 10:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Paul D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im a soph too, im a guy, and the first thing that i should mention is that having ur friend ask that guy out for you wasnt the smartest thing. Guys like me dont really feel comfortable when their friends ask them out for them cuz they dont exactly like talking to peoples friends about personal stuff. The guy might not be over his ex yet so just give him time, but him looking at u deff means he's interested
2007-09-07 10:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's probably upset over the break-up and needs some time. Give him a shoulder to lean on and ask him if you can help in any way, or if he would just like someone to talk to. Be considerate of his feelings right now, and it might pay off in the long run. Good luck!!!
2007-09-07 10:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's not interested move on and find another guy. Don't mean to sound harsh but we've all been through it and it's better to just forget about him and find someone who is interested and will approach you. Don't sit around and wait because it could take months even years forhim 2 get over this girl if what he was saying it true.
2007-09-07 10:16:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋