My 10 year old daughter got beat up by a boy at school?

Question

Should I leave it in the school hands? or is there something i should do?

Thanks!

Answer 1

I would work with the school to make sure the proper steps are taken to reprimand the boy and educate the children on the dangers of such behavior.

Make sure you follow up and make the school commit to a plan of action.

I would see what the school does and maybe set up a meeting with the principal and the boy's parents to discuss. I wouldn't advise meeting with the boy's parents without an unbiased third party, some parents still believe their children are saints and it won't do anyone any good for you to get in an argument with these people.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

Ya i would leave it in the school hands, but i would also make a meeting with the school and the boy, and get to the bottom of the issue. Find out what it is that they plan on doing. It's not OK for a boy to beat up a girl.

Answer 3

I would say be very ACTIVELY involved in what the school is doing. I would request a parent-teacher-administrator conference to discuss the problem and make sure that you let it me known that if this problem ever happens again, that you will press charges against the boy for harming your daughter and request that his parents take on all associated court fees. Don't play the games people like to play when it comes to things like that. A boy assaulted your daughter...I would be INSANELY pissed and it would take everything in me not to rip that kid apart...he should KNOW better.
So like I said-Make sure that you tell the school administrator that you won't press charges this time, but you are hoping that they will deal with the issue in an appropriate way. And if nothing is done about it, you let them know that you will be going to the media and letting them know how they are running that school.
It's not just "kids being kids" anymore these days. If you don't show that you aren't going to tolerate this behavior towards your little girl, (especially from a BOY), then who knows what may happen NEXT time.
And if you scare the living daylights out of that boy by telling him next time he touches your daughter, the cops will take him away and put him in jail, he'll have a life lesson and stop beating up on others. And it'll tell his parents that they need to step the parenting up a notch and perhaps seek professional help for their out of control son.
Hope I could help :)

Answer 4

Report it to the school immediately and make sure that your daughter is being totally honest about what happened. A wittness would be a good person to have to back up the story. Photograph her injuries, make her write a statement so that she does not forget anything. Charges can be pressed against the person responsible but you need to consult an attorney. NEVER leave this up to the school, they have a policy of covering things like this up because they can loose government funding $$$$ and they do not want that. Negative publicity is not what any school district needs. Make sure the school knows that you expect action and that the person responisble needs to be expelled and sent to alternative school where they can get the anger management help they need. You are your child advocate and no one care for them more than you so hang in there.

Answer 5

You should certianly phone the parents of the boy who beat up your daughter. Schools never do very much aside from a slap on the wrist. I would even go so far as to ask your daughter if she's up to going to school, I know expirences of bulling can be pretty tough for a child - especially a ten year old.

At the very least you should arrange a meeting with the boy's parents.

Answer 6

I would find out exactly what the school is doing and if there is nothing that they are doing that satisfies you, then I would call they boy's parents and if they are any type of parents they would kick his butt because it unacceptable for a boy of any age to hit a girl. Call the police as well and see if they will charge the boy and if they won't they should press charges on the parents or do something to scare the hell out of this boy so he never hits ANYONE ever again, especially a girl.

Answer 7

Make sure this is logged in the boys file at school and should be held on record. Make an appointment to see the head of the school together with boys parents (take family support). Be calm but assertive and show your daughter that you support her and this boy is out of order. If your daughter was injured she should get a medical report from her GP (even if her confidence/self-esteem was damaged). IF this happens again or she was seriously injured you should inform the police and don't take any bull. Perhaps enroll your daughter in self-defence classes if she is agreeable. If there's one thing I learned raising 4 children, it is to stand your ground and teach your children that they should not accept bullying!

Answer 8

Call the school and the boy's parents.
Hopefully the boy's parents will be especially interested in what he is doing and beat him to a pulp.
In the meantime, get your daughter involved in martial arts or some other form of self defense. This may not be the only time you have to deal with this.
Martial arts can strengthen the body and the spirit, and I can almost guarantee you the next time they get hit by a bully will be the last time.

Hate to say it, but "Girl Power"!!

Answer 9

I hope that the school authorities called you immediately and this boys parents as well. You should write a letter outlining that you expect a full disclosure of how this happened and what is being changed to prevent this from ever happening again. I would also demand that either my child or the one who hit her be removed from the classroom. Keep a copy for your records and make very sure that the principal knows he will be seeing you and your lawyer on top of his desk if something similar ever happens again.

Answer 10

What disicpline did the boy receive? If you feel it was fair then leave it to the school however if you feel it wasn't then for sure step in. No one will stand up for your child like you. It's your job, but also to not go overboard. Find out if the boy is a bully. Maybe he's done this to others. If so and your principal is not helpful maybe you should contact the district office.