The other day, I stopped by the jewelry counter where my mom works and spent some time talking to one of the girls she works with. She (the girl) has a boyfriend, but she has several male friends that she likes to hang out with. She said that she just likes hanging out with guys because she gets along with them better than she does with other females. I have heard a few other girls express similar opinions, too.
I am wondering how people feel about this. I am not in a relationship, but if I were, I wouldn't mind if my gf had male friends. However, I can see this causing problems in relationships. Therefore, I am wondering how people feel about it.
2007-09-07 09:04:05 · 26 answers · asked by I'm Still Here 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would not mind if he had other friends that were female. As long as it stayed as friends.....it mainly comes down to the trust you guys have between each other. I would not want to give up my guy friends if i had a b/f and when i have had a b/f.....i introduced him to them so its not like secretive and he enjoyed them. I would not like it if my guy spent a lot of alone time with another girl b/c that would make me suspicious!
=o)
2007-09-07 09:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm another that gets along more easily with men than with other women, although that is changing as I get older. The fact is, I am terribly glad that plenty of married women are gracious about this sort of thing, because I would not have had nearly as many friends over the years if they were not. I usually met the wife (or whatever) once or twice, she had a chance to see that I was not a threat to her relationship, and then she wouldn't mind his hanging out with me.
I like chess, backgammon, intelligent conversation, and barbecues. Those are things men tend to appreciate more than women. If I was not allowed to make friends with men, I'd be seriously disadvantaged.
P.S. Gay men friends usually want me to meet their lover, too, so he knows I'm OK.
2007-09-07 09:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband any I both have male and female friends, and it's never been a problem, but there's a caveat: neither of us have friends of either sex who aren't friends with us both. This doesn't mean that we both always have to be present, or anything. For instance, my husband could go to a Mr. Bean movie with a bunch of women and I wouldn't mind one bit, because I can't stand that guy...but if his friends wouldn't be okay with me going, then it gets to be a problem. This isn't an issue of jealousy, but of respect. Neither of us would want to spend time with people who aren't comfortable with, and appreciative of the other. It causes tension in a relationship, and it's just not that hard to find people to hang out with...we don't need to resort to those who could introduce animosity into our marriage.
2007-09-07 10:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Fiancee and I both have more friends of the opposite sex. It was a hard pill for me to swallow at first because I didn't trust any of them. Now that I know better I'm ok with it. I still ask that he tell me if he is going to meet up with so and so just for my own well being. But in the end we know that we love each other and we are the only people we want to be with.
2007-09-07 09:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If love and trust are strong in a relationship, why not? When people are insecure and jealous of course it would cause problems. Now if my man was hanging with his female friends too much or chose them over me or didn't ever want me around them, that would be a problem.
2007-09-07 09:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had a lot of male friends while we were dating. By nature I am not jealous, but I do know how men think. It really upset me (esp since we were long distance for about 5 months) to know that my hot, funny, sweet girlfriend was hanging out with a bunch of guys who, if given the opportunity, would probably hook up with her. If I knew the guys, I wouldn't care, but if I didn't, I would be suspicious and uncomfortable.
2007-09-07 09:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its OK as long as everyone is mature and has their priorities straight. My sister and I both have close friendships with guy friends with no funny business, and our husbands are OK with that --- and my husband has friends-just-friends who are girls and overall I am OK with it by the same token. We're solid.
I think it's a good rule to always let your sweetie know when you are meeting up with your friend so that everything stays out in the open. If you ever find that you are hiding a friendship from your lover or spouse, that's a good time to check yourself for motives.
2007-09-07 14:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my boyfriend has a lot of girl friends. I am not that worried about it because I know he loves me but sometimes I do start wondering because a lot of them have had crushes on him because he's just a likable guy and it seems as though he leads them on.
But I don't really mind too much, unless I see behavior that's not appropriate for just friends.
2007-09-07 09:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all some of my bf best friends are female which is great because i get to talk to them about any issues i may be having with him and we can go shopping and other things and meet up with him after.
i dont see why some people are so immature about this situation as everyone has at least one friend of the opposite sex, and i do get along with many males that are some of my longest friends and my bf trusted me to go camping with them so i dont really see that side of it at all.
2007-09-07 11:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by jess f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to trust your significant other. Opposite sex friends are important when in relationships, depending on how and under what circumstances you meet them. Long time friends are ok...But people you meet along the way would have to be nder the right circumstances.
2007-09-07 09:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by vixxen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋