I have a blind date tomorrow,how should I start the conversation?

Question

I have been set up with a blind date for tomorrow. He is 51 and I am 45. I am so nervous, how can I hide the fact that I am nervous. He is a college professor and I am a hospital medical records coder.

Answer 1

Start with I don't normally do this.

Answer 2

To answer the question of "should I start the conversation?" i believe you will find that out with in the first 30mins. of your date. By that time you will learn if he is either a chatter box or a laid- back guy or even a quite mouse.

Given that he is a college professor he might start off a conversation, wither you will be interested in it or not, well that's a different story.


....and that nervousness, it probably will go away when you see him. If not, then just see him as if he was a male co-worker, a friend, not as a romantic interest. When you perceive him like that, you show that you are who you are and you will not be so nervous

Answer 3

Ask him how he got to know the person that set up the date -- it's something you have in common already. Ask him about his areas of study. Ask him about his students -- do they horrify him? Surprise him? Keep him mentally stimulated?

I wouldn't try to hide your nervousness -- you'll make it worse. I happen to love blind dates. You have the total mystery of meeting someone new. If you view it as an interesting social encounter rather than an interview for a soulmate, you will fare much better. Every blind date is worthwhile -- even the bad ones. You get to step outside of your usual circle of friends. You get to practice flirting and being attractive (even if you're not interested in him). Even if he is a jerk or ugly as sin or completely socially inept, remember all the details and all the sound bites so you will have a great "bad date" story to tell your girlfriends over a margarita. It'll be fun -- just don't give more significance to the meeting than it needs to have -- you're not auditioning for the role of his wife -- you're just two people having a chat.

Good luck, and have fun!!!!

Answer 4

If hes a real gentleman he will start the conversation, answer his questions, but try not to hog the conversation, just be natural and keep the flow, search for common ground, so you can both talk about something your knowledgeable in. If things are going good after alittle while, get a few drinks, it will help take the butterflies out of your stomach, just don't over do it. Remember that he is probably just as nervous as you are, so that might be time for a good ice breaker if he doesn't start the conversation. for example "I really like this place they have good music." anything to get him comfortable with talking to you. OH and remember to go, knowing your going to have a good time! and you will!

Sonojudan
"The dating game is full of surprises, and slaps in the face."

Answer 5

Well it's extremely normal to be nervous on a blind date, he is most likely going to be too. Try not to think about it too much, and just breathe. I would suggest not having alcohol, cause that tends to bring out the things you never wanted to say, or do...or at least not on the first date. Be yourself. Just try to think of it as meeting a new friend, and don't put pressure on it. You will be fine. Good luck!

Answer 6

First, ask yourself, "what is the purpose of this date?"

I expect the answer maybe something like... to get to know this person and eventually if you click maybe have a friend or partner for a while.

Start simple just like you are getting to know a co-worker.

OR you could just start off by comparing scars/tattoos and see where that takes ya!

Good luck and have fun

Answer 7

I wouldn't try to hide the fact that I'm nervous. The burden of carrying the conversation falls on both of you, so let him carry some of it too..as a college professor, I'm willing to bet that he'll have interesting things to say.

As my Uncle Otis used to say "You can lead a horse to water, it's crossing the durned lake that's the tough part."

Answer 8

Ask him if he ever got a chance to meet Abraham Lincoln while fighting in the civil war...
When he looks at you with a blank dumbfounded stare say your like 160-170 years old right?
He will then choke on his drink and say i"m 51!!!
Then say...WOW the years have not been kind to you!!!

Good luck & hope you "get some"

Answer 9

"Hey you, great to finally meet you. I must say, i'm a little bit nervous over here, you? I have never done this before!" (insert sweet genuine smile)

There is no reason to pretend you're not feeling something, if you are a little bit nervous it's totally understandable. If you are afraid of showing it, you shouldn't be. Its hard to hide that kind of emotion and no reason to mask it, because he's probably feeling the same. ;-)

Answer 10

Being a little nervious can be flattering. You shouldn't worry too much about hiding it, it's better just to go with it. What you should do is figure out what is important to you, and see if he fitts the bill. Be light hearted about it, have fun, and you will do extremely well.

Answer 11

Say
So what do you think of this blind dating lark? I don't normally do it but [how you met him friends online] and you seemed alright. So what do you do for a living? Talk about family kids work ANYTHING. But let him talk about his favourite subject. Him. Do not dominate the conversation and LISTEN You'll be surprised how many people DON'T ACTUALLY LISTEN.

xD Please tell me how you got on, Good luck