My father's funeral is in one hour. I want to go to pay my last respects, but I just don't think I can handle it or take it. Is this selfish of me? I do want to go, but I don't want to go through it. I've been crying since last night and am just in a very bad place right now. Any advice?
2007-09-07 07:29:11 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
PMBI, Grieve is mentioned only in the Quran in negative form or as a not- t- do command:
"neither shall they grieve" 2:38
"Faint not nor grieve, for ye will overcome them if ye are (indeed) believers" 3:139
"Grieve not for them, and be not in distress" 16: 127
and so on.. a Remindry for the sake of your kids.. Muhamad صلى الله عليه و سلم died before and Allah told us:
"Muhammad is but a messenger, messengers (the like of whom) have passed away before him. Will it be that, when he dieth or is slain, ye will turn back on your heels? He who turneth back on his heels doth no hurt to Allah, and Allah will reward the thankful. " 3: 144
ye will turn back on your heels for your father?? Be strong for your Kids.. Have faith... Live the normal life, Go to his funeral.. or not.. But Live your life normally after all...
2007-09-08 05:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Protesting at a funeral of a person that gave their life overseas is unconscionable. Privacy laws are virtually unenforceable in America (this has little to do with the Patriot Act, there just isn't much on the books, even before the Patriot Act, to defend American's privacy, believe it or not...), and, not tortuous, for the most part, but, I hope the man wins his suit!
2016-04-03 09:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather from your question that you loved your father very much. The funeral isn't for him, it's for his family. His love for you will be with you in your memories forever. So, going to the funeral isn't something that you have to force yourself to do.
Many people have regretted not going to a funeral...I have. I had a friend that died, and I was to go be a pall bearer. I was working graveyard, and simply slept too late to make it. I called her husband, frantic, embarassed...he told me...don't worry...it's probably better that you slept. I have regretted it...but looking on it, I was embarassed I didn't show, and I believe that is at the heart of my regret, not anything else. As for showing her respect...i did that when she was alive. I am sure you did as well with your father.
So sorry for your loss. The only thing I can say is that time does eventually heal your sorrow. Good luck to you.
2007-09-07 07:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Night Owl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you go or don't .
The funeral is only a formality .everyone will understand if you cant face it. If you can manage to get there, cry all you need,
A funeral is a good place to do the grieving if there are family and friends and you all loved him. I hope this is the case. whatever you do I hope you have someone close with you. My condolances.
Whatever you decide, it's all OK.
2007-09-07 07:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by willywallwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to cry. It's normal to mourn. What better time or place for it than at the funeral of a parent? You will regret it if you don't go. You don't get a chance to say goodbye again. Go & pay your last respects. Take the focus off of yourself & focus on your father & his life. I'm sure he would want you to be there. God bless. Be strong.
2007-09-07 07:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go. This is your only chance to attend his funeral and pay respect to him. You can handle it and you have to go through it. You are going to grieve no matter what, but you don't have to add guilt and regret to that. I wish you the very best and I'm sorry about your loss.
God Bless.
2007-09-07 07:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
part of the healing process of people after death is to see your loved one's body, without it you will find dealing with the loss difficult to do. If you don't go you will feel very guilty, so go and remember the good times you had. Anyway a funeral is a celebration of the dead person's life, so go for your father's sake.
2007-09-07 07:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by Green kryptonite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for your loss.
I know how difficult this is. But, I want to remind you that this is your last opportunity to pay your respects and say goodbye to your father... I say buck up, do what you must, and cry some more later...
Again, Im sorry for your loss and I wish you the best in your time of need.
2007-09-07 07:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My condolences on the death of your father. He must have meant a great deal to you for you to be so distraught that you'd consider NOT going to his funeral.
Don't forget this is the main chance people have of showing you and your family respect and honoring your father's life. If you are not there, it may be viewed as a sign of disrespect toward your father. I'm sure you don't want to do that.
2007-09-07 07:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. it will be hard and it is normal for it to be, but it helps you with acceptance and closure in the long run.
It will cause you more pain later and longer if you do not.
We are pretty resilient, more so than we sometimes think. Do not be afraid to cry at the funeral no matter your gender, that is healthy.
It is hard i know and many people ponder it just like you are, but you need to go.
God go with you, Peace to you my friend
2007-09-07 07:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. He must have been a wonderful man to have raised such a wonderful child.
A funeral is not a social reception and your tears will be well understood by others in attendance.
Go and pay your respects, if you don't you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2007-09-07 07:38:14 · answer #11 · answered by Mezmarelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋