I am invited to a destination wedding and the hotel that the bride and groom are staying in is very expensive and gives no deals to the wedding guests. The bride and groom informed their guests of this and suggested that people find their own accommodations that are in their own price range, however guestst that will not be staying at the same hotel will have to buy a "day pass" which is approximated to cost around $75 per person, in order to enter the hotel property for the wedding. What should I do about the wedding gift? how much should it cost?
2007-09-07 07:12:04 · 12 answers · asked by katenysh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As hosts, they should be footing the cost of the day pass, since it is in effect a part of the wedding festivities! Dont get a gift that you cannot afford. A card is perfectly fine. Just making it to the destination wedding is gift enough. Trust me.
2007-09-07 07:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! I am planning a destination wedding myself, but would not even consider a hotel that was so cost prohibitive AND had the nerve to charge my guests $75 a head to come to a reception that is undoubtedly paying the resort thousands.
I think people planning a destination wedding should understand that guests are spending a heck of a lot more to attend the wedding and your gift might be less expensive.
note: reading the other answers, I agree that the couple should foot the costs of "day passes" for guest, but if they're not, they're not. They might be inconsiderate or just clueless and found themselves locked into an expensive situation.
2007-09-07 07:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by eli_star 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
thats absolutely absurd to make guests pay a 75 dollar "day pass" esp when the couple is paying so much money to host their even there. the guest are invited as guests. guests should not have to pay to enter the property where the host is hosting a party. i would not even attend for this ridiculously over priced event. the hotel sounds like a bunch of snooty jerks not offering a discount esp when the couple is prolly paying anywhere from 25,00-50,000 to host the event and then charging u 75 bucks to enter the premisis. rude rude rude dont go, they are not being accomodating tot he guests what so ever.
2007-09-07 08:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The couple should be picking up the cost of the day passes for anyone who is already making the trip to their destination wedding. I think that is awful to pass that cost on to the guests. To me, that's like renting a banquet hall for $500, and dividing the cost among the guests...the guests should not be responsible for this cost.
2007-09-07 08:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. That is awful.
I am also having a destination wedding but we will be working to accomodate everyone on-sit eand will be paying the day passes for those outside the complex.
You do not HAVE to give a gift. That is an old adage.
Give or do not give whatever you feel, dear.
They should be VERY glad that you are going at all!
2007-09-07 07:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that hotel would do that! I also can't believe the bride and groom would not cover that cost in their budget!
Your gift is your presence at the ceremony & your $75 day pass!
2007-09-07 10:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by valschmal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What?? Aren't they already paying for the wedding? That is a charge that they need to pay. I'm sorry but these things are such a stupid idea. I would probably give a card and a bottle of wine nothing more. They've got you paying an arm and a leg already.
2007-09-07 07:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford it don't go. Simple as that. $75 for a day pass is insane!! I can't belive the bride and groom expect their guests to pay for that. Send a card and 20 bucks and call it done.
2007-09-07 07:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
bride and groom shld
have done their research
that is not right to ask
so much of their guests!!
they should pay it's their wedding!
2007-09-07 08:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by Cher 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are never ever ever required to attend a wedding. So you could give a nice card if you wish. Give a gift only if you want to and not because you feel you have to.
2007-09-07 07:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋