Sometimes I feel like football is more important to my fiance than the conversation we're having. He's also into baseball, but so am I, so I don't mind watching the games with him. But he watches EVERY sport. And not only that, but he watches literally EVERY game that we get on TV. Football, baseball, soccer, basketball. You name it, he's into it. But, I feel like it takes over his brain! How do I tell him without coming off like a b*tch that this offends me? His only solution is that I "get more into it", but I don't want to. It's boring and uninteresting to me. Help!
2007-09-07 06:42:26 · 16 answers · asked by Smash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's like an addiction for some guys, just can't live without watching athletic competition. Most guys grow out of it over an extended period of time. It's kind of like sex, if sex is a top priority in a relationship, then there's something the matter with the relationship. So you need to sit down with the TV off and talk about it. Tell him more about some of your interest and fit those activity's in, like a 50/50 thing. Sometimes you need to give a guy a piece of his own medicine. "Want Attention?" Too bad...
2007-09-07 06:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by THE FISH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could stand naked in front of the TV, but that will only distract him for a while. Would he be willing to record some of the games to watch while you're off doing something else? Or, could you get into the games if you were at a sports bar together where you'd have other people to talk to? Failing that, realize that sports are important to him. If you don't want to hang around bored when he wants to settle in for sports (and I agree - every game is not fair to you), then schedule some time with your friends and family for a few hours. You'll get to do something with other people you like, and he can sit around and eventually wonder where you are. Good luck!
2007-09-07 06:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife says the same thing but sports cant take over a brain if there is nothing in there to take over. I love to watch sports all the time. We have come up with a sort of compromise. We kind of alternate the TV. For really important games (which it seems like all are-not really) we purchased a small TV for me to watch in the basement. If you are expecting stimulating conversation instead of sports you can forget that. No real guy will give up sports for that but we are capable of watching really bad shows on Oxygen or The Lifetime Channel for a while.
2007-09-07 06:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Brian M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? You're scared YOU will come out looking like a b*tch by telling him to spend time with you? If you think that way, then you deserve a guy that puts sports first and you second.
Just tell him, stop being a doormat.
I'm sorry I had to be so cold.
2007-09-07 06:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say slowly begin to make plans for the two of you without his approval, like with another couple, or anything you're interested in going to see. Tell him like it's no big deal, for example: "Oh.. I almost forgot. Don't make plans for saturday hunny so and so band is play at the retro center." Sometimes you can't give a guy the option you just have to give him the shove. lol Good-Luck!
2007-09-07 06:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by AlliK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromize and set limits on how often the TV is on.
YOU need to find yourself a hobby....
I scrapbook
birdwatch
build my own furniture
Renovated my house from 3 apartments into one large "loft"
cook
sew some of my own clothes
assembled a hotrod in my garage
My BF plays video games--
Find something to do....
2007-09-07 06:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't help you here, Men can't live without sports, so just wait for the commercials and you'll get his undevided attention, but once the game is back on, leave him alone or try watching it with him. Trust me you do not wan't to come between a man and sports, you will regret it forever.
2007-09-07 07:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Samuel A 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OBSESSION!!!! O_O
1) get your man professional help!
2) get rid of your cable service?
3) unplug ze TV and have a heart to heart with him and see if that gets you anywhere
4) get a new bf... if the above 3 steps dont work you're in this relationship that pretty much Titanic... its sinking fast! O_O!
If he dont change his ways all that awaits you is neglect and lonliness!!
2007-09-07 06:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are planning on marrying him, get used to it. Because his infatuation with sports isn't going to go away. You can try to tell him that maybe you guys need more one on one time. And see how he reacts. It will only become worst though if he doesn't know how you feel.
2007-09-07 06:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Sometimes I feel like football is more important to my fiance than the conversation we're having"
it is, sorry.
the only thing you can do is let him have his sports and you get to have him at other times. i know its like making an appointment, or he cheating on you with the sports, but men are not women.
and, sex is your weapon. dont be afraid to use it.
"oh, now you want to talk to me, the game is over and were in bed "? "well now im watching tv".
or, sitting in his lap naked will usually get him to pay attention to you.
2007-09-07 06:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋