I am trying to take it day by day, but he is all I think about. I feel like I am going nuts. I don't want to push him away, but I am 8 months pregnant and I need him to be there for me during my difficult pregnancy. We both thought that we wanted some time apart. Once I moved out I figured that I don't want to have time apart. He is saying that he doesn't want to rush back into things and they go back to the way they were. What should I do? Tell him that I want to be back with him or try to get over him?
2007-09-07 06:21:17 · 13 answers · asked by Cortney H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Relax and keep yourself busy with friends, family, and baby time. This situation sounds fragile and really needs time. Instead of thinking of him, think of yourself and the baby and let him go for a while.
2007-09-07 06:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by meedebi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, get a lawyer. You're carrying his baby and he's going to have to be a part of baby's/your life for a long, long time - whether or not you get back together as a couple.
Make sure all of this is covered first.
Then, have your baby - and may you have a happy/healthy one!
Then, go to counseling. You need some help coping with the fact that this guy doesn't really want to be a part of your life - for whatever reason.
Learn from this mistake - the man, not the baby - and move on. Let him go. Learn to stand on your own two feet and make a life for you and baby - without him in the picture.
Once he sees you're coping and not so "needy" he may just see what kind of a good woman he's about to let go.
Oh and you, by the way, may just see him for the immature jerk he really is and wonder what you ever saw in him in the first place.
But first you have to develop some backbone - and a life of your own - without him.
2007-09-07 06:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly this guy is a jerk, just act as thou ur having this baby alone! Just focus on you and the new baby coming along the more u focus on that the sooner he'll realize that u honestly don't care about being with him, sometimes when u show no interest that's when they come around! Time apart hell no your having a baby his seed he should be there 4 u , your giving him a freakin gift he should ride or die 4 u and if he doesn't then girl focus on yourself and ur new soon baby, do u really wanna be with him everyday? there's nothing to talk bout? sometimes being apart for a while gives u time to miss him. But if I were u I would ignore his *** for a few an act surpirised when he does call or come around..lol he'll freak out!
2007-09-07 06:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before going back to him, start thinking about yourself. It's not healthy to only think about him. It's suffocating for him and it's disrespectful to you. Focus on what you need for you and for your baby. Too many women put themselves last and think it's "selfish" to do for themselves. They spend a lifetime doing for others and then they end up feeling resentful that no one does for them. You can prevent that by taking this time away from him to put yourself first. If you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to take care of your baby and if you get back together with him or end up with someone else, you won't be able to give what the other person needs. He's right to want to wait and make sure things will be different. It will be healthier for all three of you to make some changes now.
2007-09-07 06:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the father of this baby ur carrying? if he is he should have the decency to be with you when u need him and take responsibility. it sounds like to me that hes happy being single again and wants his freedom to be with whoever he wants to date. get him to come over and to sit down and really ahve an open and honest talk with him about how u feel and what u want. if he dont want u back then let him go and when the baby is born nail him with child support theres nothing else u can do. good luck dear
2007-09-07 06:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by renae2007_1986 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you need to accept that this guy is a selfish a**hole who is only thinking of himself. Concentrate on you and your baby and how you're going to provide for your child and be a good mother and forget about that jerk. You don't need this guy in your life if he knows he has a child coming and he isn't tripping over himself to move you back in and plan for the child's arrival. Tell him to p*ss off. Good luck!!
2007-09-07 06:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to repair the relationship since you will be stuck to him thru your child for the rest of your life. Go get help if necessary; but make it happen
2007-09-07 06:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by couv2020 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about?
You should do what you want to do and forget about hurting anyones feelings and STRESS that "YOU" must hold on your dear life before you hand your feelings over to someone your unsure of....Or you can STRESS on should I, could I, will I, Is he, will he, "IF", but then, and before BLAH BLAH BLAH! when you already KNOW...
Usually its best to go with what you believe is best and RIGHT.....
2007-09-07 06:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other you need to try and work things out for your baby.If you want to be with him tell him.
2007-09-07 06:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by blessed1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try couples counseling.
2007-09-07 06:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by MyMichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋