2007-09-07 05:59:14 · 12 answers · asked by Miranda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I reposted the question because everyone thought i was being ungreatful im not i just dont get the traditon and i just wanted answers to that...
The whole thing on us giving them gifts to show them that were greatful for everything is dumb thats why we have a mother day and fathers day
2007-09-07 06:14:17 · update #1
I want to know how this is so disrespectful! They raised you yes but this is your day to show them how well they did how is that not a gift initself
2007-09-07 07:25:51 · update #2
"Mom and Dad, here is a small gift to say thanks for everything...for raising me, guiding me, and contributing financially to my wedding."
That's it, in a nutshell.
2007-09-07 06:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Basically, when a couple gets married it's like they are officially an adult now and moving into their new home. It marks the end of them being under their parents care. Some couples choose to mark this occasion by giving their parents a gift of appreciation for everything their parents have done to raise them. Some people buy gifts, some just give them a nice card with a heartfelt thank you.
For couples who have been living out of their parents house for a long time, there may not be any reason to give their parents a gift on their wedding day, and there is nothing wrong with that. It's completely up to you.
2007-09-07 06:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't get that tradition myself...I really think the gifting goes overboard when it comes to weddings...you give a gift to everyone in your bridal party, your parents, each other, every guest who attends, those who you pay to provide you wil services (tips)....we aren't exchanging gifts with each other, or doing favors, or giving gifts to our parents, and we have no bridal party...it isn't that I'm cheap, I just don't see the need.
As far as having to give a gift to show your parents you appreciate them...isn't that a reward they get by you being a decent, loving adult? Don't you express your appreciation to your parents by living a good life, and by doing fro them what you can? I know my mother appreciates all I do for her on a regular basis way more than some boxed gift. She knows I think she's the most wonderful person in the world--because I show her my love on a regular basis. I think feeling the need to give a gift to express this is odd at this particular event.
2007-09-07 06:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...how rude! You don't want to thank someone for doing sooooo much for you on a particular day? Yes, you're right, we do have Mother and Father's day, but is that the only day you can appreciate them? You have a birthday as well, but they aren't saving your wedding gifts for that day! I don't see what the big deal is, if you don't want to be grateful and give a gift then don't. Just don't try to make others see your disrespectful view.
2007-09-07 07:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why'd you remove this question and repost it?
Anyhoo, the way I take it, since the bride's family USED TO pay for the wedding, and the groom's family USED TO pay for the rehearsal and stuff, the gifts to the parents were a thank you for helping them out by paying for the more expensive parts of the wedding.
I plan on giving my bridal party and parents gifts even though my fiance and I are paying for the wedding.
To me, its a "thank you for bringing me and raising me in this world".
2007-09-07 06:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
purchase her something which will link to a minimum of something you 2 have accomplished at the same time or long previous with the aid of at the same time. this might remind her why she is along with her. A diamond necklace or bracelet is something you purchase somebody you dont be attentive to that nicely, and that i assume in case you will marry her you would be waiting to think of something up. per danger particularly rings which will remind her of the place you first met, or is from there. Or a necklace with a pendant that represents something you 2 have experienced at the same time or a nick call she has for you or has a asserting you utilize at the same time engraved on it so she will positioned on it to maintain away the lonelies once you may't be there.
2016-10-10 03:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not giving our parents gifts on our wedding day. We are paying for a large majority of the wedding ourselves (his parents aren't helping at all), so we don't feel the need to reciprocate them financially since we feel we are honoring them enough during the ceremony and reception (i.e. my father walking me down the aisle, feeding them at the reception, etc.). Now, I am giving my bridesmaids gifts and he is giving his groomsmen gifts because they are doing a lot of work to help us by buying their own dresses, renting their own tuxes, throwing the shower, etc. Thus, I thought it would be nice to show them appreciation. But our parents, no...they should know we love them without receiving "things" from us.
2007-09-07 07:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Natty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the general consensus is that a gift itself is not necessary, but some show of thanks is in order. Mothers and Fathers Day are holidays on the calendar. Let them know you appreciate them on your wedding day.
2007-09-07 06:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
IT is NOT a tradition. It only just started a few decades ago. Most parents dont expect it.
2007-09-07 06:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just got married in April....I wasn't aware of any tradition where you give your parents gifts...
So we didn't. Nobody said anything either!
2007-09-07 06:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by nellbelle7 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋