If you have always dreamed of that moment! when you are in that incredible white dress!! Would you wipe out that dream for the person you love. Not because they dont want to fulfil your wish or cant efford it but its because of death in the family??
2007-09-07 05:54:44 · 31 answers · asked by Innocent*Eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ummm of coarse. I wouldn't cancel the wedding just move it to another date. It would be disrespectful not to in my opinion. I mean, come on!! Someone passed away!!
2007-09-07 06:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that things always come up when planning a wedding even death. Its not like the person that passed did it on purpose to ruin your wedding but it happened. I think its out of respect that you just put the wedding off a bit. If you continue with it, then maybe you wont get as many guest as you want or some just may not be in the mood for a celebration just yet. Dont feel discouraged and dissapointed. Its a part of life and we just have to do whats right. If you really feel strongly about having the wedding as is, then thats up to you. I just think you need to give people a little time to grieve. Dont worry, you can still get married another day...and yes you can still fulfill your dream wedding....Good luck to you! Congrats on the wedding, sorry about the loss in the family!!!
2007-09-07 07:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on the circumstances. Most likely, I wouldn't cancel the wedding, but tone it down in respect. If one of the parents died, or a sibling, it might be considered, but only if both you and your potential hubby agree wholeheartedly.
If one of our parents would have died around our wedding day, I am not sure that we could have gone through with the wedding. The depression and shock are so overwhelming that it would be very hard to enjoy or even wholeheartedly participate in the wedding.
If your potential spouse is overwhelmed with the death, postponing the wedding would be a great relief for him or her. After all, the wedding is the start of a marriage, just one day in a life of many days together.Push it off a month or two. But be sure you can honestly not ever hold this against the other person.
If you can afford to wait awhile, that is the best bet. If you have wedding insurance, take advantage of it. If you really cannot afford to change the date, you may just go through with it anyway the best you can.
2007-09-07 06:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by 2 Happily Married Americans 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer to your question lies in your own last sentence -- because there has been a death in the family.
You can't schedule death. They come out of the blue, cause chaos, sadness, and bringing up a whole bunch of feelings and emotions for everyone involved.
If the person who has died is close to you or close to your betrothed, I think you should consider canceling the wedding out of respect for the dead person and to give the family time to grieve for their lost relative/friend.
You can always reschedule your wedding for later, after an appropriate amount of time.
I do realize the cost involved in planning, scheduling services, etc, BUT.... (it's a big but)
... your wedding is a big day for you and should be a happy day for not only you but everyone involved.
If you selfishly go throw with the wedding during this time of mourning, you cast a pall of grief and sorrow over your wedding, as well as risk garnering bad feelings from members of the family who may feel you are disrespecting them and the person who has died. They may resent you for it, in the end.
2007-09-07 06:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by meadowbee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course the best solution is to postpone the wedding. Most everyone from guests to caterers understand that the death of a family member takes precedence.
Simply contact anyone that is part of the wedding and give a new date. Print out a "change of date" card and mail to guests.
2007-09-07 07:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married twice... the first time i gave the bride everything, the carriage, the cake, the presents, the cerimony, and I was miserable. She cheated on me and left me feeling betrayed. My wife and I got married in the Pastors office at 8 something in the morning. I wore blue jeans and a Tshirt she wore a blouse and a skirt. I love her with all of my heart and I wish I could have given her the big wedding that I wasted on the first one. Bottome line... I have my gift from God and we are building more important memories together than a wedding cerimony.
2007-09-07 06:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Steve G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Actually we did have to cancel mine because of bad circumstances. There are always vow renewals when you hit the 15 year mark.
It's more about the marriage then the wedding. Demanding a big white wedding when you can't afford one is a sign of immaturity and proabaly means you need to grow up a little before making that kind of commitment.
2007-09-07 05:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Can you just postpone the wedding? That's what I would do first and foremost.
Second, if the most important members in the wedding (mom, dad, groom, etc) do not need to attend the funeral and so forth I'd go on with the wedding. If it's a distant relative and the uncles and aunts can't be at the wedding, I'd just go on with the wedding.
2007-09-07 06:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wipe out the dream...just postpone it and before you do, for goodness sake get wedding insurance. Not to sound cold - I am terribly sorry for your loss. But you should protect your investment. There are two types of insurance - liablity and cancellation. You want the cancellation - they will reimburse you for lost deposits, pre-payments, etc. should you decide to postpone. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-09-07 06:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a death of a close family member and the guests going to have to choose between the funeral and the wedding, don't cancel it, just postpone it.
2007-09-07 06:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how the death have affected me and my family. It may feel right to cancel or postpone, but in some situations the right decision would be to celebrate life in the face of death. I think it really depends on the nuances of the situation.
2007-09-07 06:49:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋