A recent question about giving presents to parents on here got me to thinking. Last year when we got married, instead of a present I wrote a letter to my parents thanking them for their support and love, etc. (FYI they helped us pay for the wedding) They are the kind of people that dont like extra things around the house without a purpose. Also, we are buying them their "parent album" of the wedding once they decide which pictures they like. Tell me honestly, do you think I was rude and selfish to not get them a gift? What kind of gift did you get your parents?
2007-09-07 05:30:06 · 19 answers · asked by fizzy stuff 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Here we go..someone with a brain! I think it was perfectly lovely to write a note. A gift doesn't have to be something store bought...it simply needs to be something from the heart showing you're grateful (unlike the other girl who posted the original question). I think you did exactly what you should have! As for the crazy bridezilla complaining about having to get them a gift...maybe she will see your answer and understand why everyone thinks she's ungrateful.
Good for you!
2007-09-07 07:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were rude. I think that "parent album" gift sounds like a great idea and something they will enjoy. Plus it wasn't like you didn't give them a present because you were being cheap, I'm guessing you just hadn't heard of this tradition- neither had I until I started seeing questions about it on here. If you wrote them a letter thanking them I'm sure they appreciated it and that is much more personal than alot of gifts would have been.
Plus there are lots of other ways to show appreciation for your parents, and as long as your parents know you appreciate them they probably didn't think twice about you not getting them a wedding gift.
2007-09-07 05:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by barelyblue82 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think the parent's album IS the gift...they're just getting it after the wedding rather than before it. But honestly, I bet that letter you wrote meant more to them than anything you could have given. You were not rude, because you did not neglect to thank them for all they've done for you.
2007-09-07 06:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's rude at all... people get a little crazy on here with buying gifts for everyone that so much as hears about their wedding... it's your wedding, the letter and the album are gift enough... no one is EXPECTING anything more than that...(or even expecting that, for that matter)
2007-09-07 05:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
i didnt get my parents a gift either. We paid for the wedding ourselves though. I got them an album and a portrait. I am also a type of person that does not like unecessary crap.
May be you can give them a ticket to a concert, or a play you think they might enjoy. a day at the spa? Those are the thingless gifts we usually give eachother.
2007-09-07 05:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Alla P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all! I think what you gave them was from your heart, which means more than any monetary gift. You mention they don't like things that don't have a purpose, so you could have erred and gotten them something they didn't like. You also are buying them the parent album, which is a gift too.
2007-09-07 05:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that is rude at all. My son is going to be married soon and I would love such a thoughtful gift. I'm sure your parents will treasure the lovely letter and pictures forever.
2007-09-07 05:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by mardaw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get my parents a gift. I got them some photos and a thank you card, but why would I get them a gift? They didn't help plan the wedding or anything. They did give us a generous gift, and I think they preferred that we use it to help pay for the wedding, rather than buy them something just for the sake of buying them something.
2007-09-07 05:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope, I think you absolutely did the right thing. A meaningful letter is better than a knick-knack anyday. Besides, the photo album will be a lovely gift as well!
That's actually exactly what I'm doing, too.
2007-09-07 05:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The letter was a very nice gift and I'm sure they appreciated that you gave them something from your heart.
Offering to buy them a picture album of the wedding is also very sweet of you.
I don't think you were rude at all! What you did was very polite and classy!
2007-09-07 05:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋