What do I tell a girl about past relationships if I've never had any. If I tell her the truth I'd look weird right? (I'm 20) But I'm not comfortable with lying, its wrong. So? Help?
2007-09-07 04:20:26 · 33 answers · asked by sspence966 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are over 40, don't lie about this.
If you are under 40, don't lie about this.
2007-09-07 04:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't volunteer that information, but, you should be prepared if she asks. A woman/girl judges the maturity of the man/boy by his answers and his demeanor when responding to her questions. What help making it easier for me to communicate with women was my mom. She always seemed to be awake no matter what time I came home as a teenager. She would sit me down at the kitchen table and just start asking me stuff. It seemed to always end up on the subject of how to treat a girl . Always give her your full eye to eye attention. She will read your body language and breathing to see if you are "uncomfortable". Just keep looking into that sweet innocent face and try to not get all weird about the truth. IE; A little shy, never had a girl friend, never really "knew" what to do on a date. whatever. Read her also, but, don't make the mistake of reading to much in her reactions. Everyone that is a nice person goes thru an "awkward" stage. Just be comfortable about who you are and if she is a nice person she will respond. If not, you learned something. Enjoy and good luck.
2007-09-07 04:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lie about your past relationships because to be honest people can read by your confidence level and how well you treat a girl to determine how many relationships you've been in before in the past. I would just say that you were always too preoccupied with school/ sports / whatever you do on your spare time and never really got around to being in a relationship. Tell her that you want to meet fun and exciting people. As long as you make yourself seem confident and willing to try new things, people will naturally like you.
2007-09-07 04:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell her the truth b/c u don't want to get off on a bad foot with a lie now would u? Honesty is the best policy. I really don't think she will care rather or not u have dated in the past. I mean the past is the past. If she is then u don't need her. Personally i wouldn't care if a guy never dated before. as long as he treated me right thats all that matters.
2007-09-07 04:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by bluedevilsgirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely do not lie to a girl. Honesty is number 1 when a girl is evaluating you in the beginning of a relationship. And so what if you've never had a past relationship? If the girl cant handle that you are being honest, then she wasnt the one for you! No worries...there will be a girl that will appreciate your honesty!
2007-09-07 04:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by terra_lynn0822 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be vague about it and tell her the truth well into the relationship OR you can say you don't believe it's healthy to talk about the past in a relationship. You can reassure her that there is nothing to hide but you don't feel comfortable discussing the past and then just tell her later on.
2007-09-07 04:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie...you don't necessarily have to tell the entire, sordid truth about everything, but don't make up stories. You're way too young to be thinking about a long term relationship anyway...just keep in mind, when you are ready to possibly find Mrs Right, to be honest, trust her with who you really are...that's the only way your relationship will survive. If you lie, she'll eventually find out...if you tell her the truth and she can't deal with it, then it wasn't meant to be.
2007-09-07 04:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie! Lies have a way of catching up to you and it's never a good way to start off a relationship. If you would like to see the relationship progress, honesty is always the best route!
2007-09-07 04:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by junebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you actually seeing someone or are you just trying to figure out what to do when that time comes? If you are already seeing someone, then I wouldn't worry about looking weird to her. If she thought you were weird, she wouldn't go out with you. If you're still waiting for that time to come, then just be honest. You don't want to build a relationship on false pretenses. At the same time, you DO NOT want to know all about her past relationships---you'll never get them out of your mind---trust me.
2007-09-07 04:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, you don't have to give her every little detail of your life but do not lie to her if you like her. If you don't like her enough to tell her the truth then don't bother messing around with her.
I was 22 when I had my first real b/f, its cool. Its not like you have to pick her up and say " Hi, hows your day? By the way your my first g/f!"
2007-09-07 04:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Laurel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depended of what kind of relationship you had before. you can make it sweet or harshed. you dont have to lie but tell her you made a mistakes with a relationship you had in the past. it does not have to be a long wing tale but sweet. we all make mistakes one way of the other and it does not work out but you find one that will work out for you now.
2007-09-07 04:36:00 · answer #11 · answered by linda t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋