Why do women like men beating them more than nice guys?

Question

If theres one thing I know for sure, is that when a girl doesnt like something she is gone/out of there within 2 secs flat.
if not sooner. Still guys who mistreat/play the field and cheat their girlfriends,
get loved so much, the girl doesnt seem to want to leave him.
I dont buy that "She doesnt know where to go" shyt.

There were two living above me in an appartment. And I always heard them talking when they were shouting and screaming and yelling, end he called her all kinds of degrading names and all kinds of sicknesses when she suspected him of cheating and argued (and shes right cuz I've seen him once with anther girl)
And the things SHE said as to why she chooses him, just mindboggles me. How she dagrades other boys who have nothing to do with them two, just to show him she wants him, just mindboggles me.
It changed the way I see women, and I see them now through very different &dark glasses/point of view.
They really want it. Theyll do anything to be with an alpha-...

..male, who is popular, plays like hes all that, and women seem to love that, and they call it "self esteem"
There are more examples Ive seen. And I just get upset about how women are on the inside, how they think. What they really want.on an emotional level.
But maybe Im just missing something here. Tell me if so. Why are women like this? Why do arrogant macho men get the good life and all the girls?
Are women massochistic?
Do they want to be mistreated? Doe sthat give them a sense of being overpowered and is that sexual?

Im beginning to hate women.. Big time.

There are a few lyrics from a famous popsingstress who says this, wioch explains it all:

"instictively you give to me the love that I need. I cherish the moments with you.
respectfully I say to the, Im aware that you're cheating, but no one makes me feel like you do" Upside Down.
And this comes form the heart of a woman! (diana ross)

Katiana: "There are some women, who confuse confidence and protection (qualities which instinctually, most women find attractive in men) with abrasiveness and control, so when a nice guy treats them as equals or is considerate, they view it as a sign of weakness, "

All women like strong men. Its evolution wich is something you cannot deny, nobody can. They like strong men and call it confidence. No women likes a guy who acts less. Macho men are sexy.

Still I cannot acept this fact. No women in my experience is different from this fact. Im beginning to hate women...

Answer 1

That's a generalization, which understandably has a source, since it seems most women do, but that is not the reality for some, including myself.

There are some women, who confuse confidence and protection (qualities which instinctually, most women find attractive in men) with abrasiveness and control, so when a nice guy treats them as equals or is considerate, they view it as a sign of weakness, but I think their misperceptions (and poor choices) are what allow them to be mistreated by men.

There's also the psychological factor, having been abused as a child, their lack of self worth influences over the choice of mate, assuming they are not worthy of a good man.

In my opinion, these are major reasons, but there are others, I assume.
Personally, mean people (men and women) do not appeal to me at all.
Confidence and protectiveness are wonderful attributes in men, not attitudes of superiority or possessiveness, both of which repel me, from men and women.

Answer 2

This is such a tricky question. I am going to try to answer it without bias. First of all, women on the whole do not like to be mistreated. For those women who do, they do not speak for the majority.
But one thing that women DO like and are attracted to is a MAN. Now I think that some men misconstrue this as someone who is a dog, who's mean, who treats them badly. That's not what it is. I have had alot of nice men like me. Some were nice, but still was the man in the relationship, some were not. Some were the kind that let you walk all over them. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter HOW NICE a man is; if a woman can walk all over him, then she will NOT respect him. If she cannot respect him, then how much can she really love him? Will some women still be with that man? Hell yes, but it's not for love, that much I can tell you. The man is supposed to be the head, and she the neck. Not one being more important than the other, but everyone has a role. A woman likes to feel like a man can protect her, lead her, take care of her ( I don't mean buy her everything).
Now here's where it gets tricky. Sometimes, a woman can get that feeling from a man that isn't all that great. Inevidably, slowly but surely all his attributes come out, and now she's already fallen for him, and doesn't want to let go, or thinks she will be able to change him. I'm not justifying any of this, or saying or what's right or wrong. I'm just trying to give you a little insight on what you may see on the outside.
As far your neighbor, this girl probably has been with this man for a while, and after putting up with all his **** all this time, she doesn't want to now give him up and he give someone else this "changed man" that she has made herself believe he will become. Which, 95% of the time, never happens. But the ORIGINAL attraction is not the badness of him, rather what she contrues as strength. Women like that. It attracts them. Period.

Answer 3

i don't think anyone really wants to be mistreated but i think when someone egst in realtionship and they are mistreated for a while, they more than likley believe that they are not good enouogh for someone who is better. When a woman is being abused, no one knows for sure what is being said to her. The guy could be threatening to kill her, or her family if she leaves. And if they have kids together it is even more difficult. It's a psycological thing. If a woman is illegal she might be scared that she will get deported if she tells authorities that she is being abused. Other than that, I think some women do like bad boys. Why? We'll never know. Some people like being the victim. I think those types like being the ones who have something to complain about instead of fixing the problem and being okay.

Answer 4

Sometimes a woman might feel "trapped" in a situation. Like she's got this guy and he may not treat her well but, treat her better than ones have in the past. So, she's gonna stick with him. I can't give you definite answers because every person and every relationship varies. Don't worry if you're one of those nice guys. You will eventually get a girl. I always had jerks calling but, now I'm in a relationship with one of the nicest, most loving men that I know.

Answer 5

It's not a sense of masochism that makes a woman want a strong man. I believe that it is a primeval instinct to choose the alpha male from the nice guy. It's strictly a survival point of view. The big tough alpha is better equipped to take care of and protect, (or able to DISPLAY that he can) better than the not-so-tough nice guy.

Answer 6

Alot of the time, it's not that she chooses to be in this type of relationship...It's that she doesn't know anything else. She may be a product of a dis functional family herself and is use to seeing this happening around her. Maybe her mother or even her sisters, aunts, etc. are all experiencing the same thing and she just knows nothing else.
Because of situations like this, if we are parents, I feel that it's very important to love our children. TO show them that they are humans and deserve to be loved for who they are. They deserve to be respected and heard. That loving someone is caring for their well-being, not hurting them and abusing them.
It's sad to hear that this woman has never had that in her life. I hope that someday soon, before it's to late, she wakes up and sees the light.

Answer 7

When I was younger and was a drunken idiot I couldn't get rid of women. You read all the time on Answers of women whose husbands or boyfriends openly cheat or are abusive, but they won't do anything because they "love him". I realize sometimes kids are involved and that has to be considered. But for the ladies who CAN change a bad relationship ,but WON'T, I'm running out of sympathy. You read some of these questions and it's mind boggling.

Answer 8

For one they dont come through the door being abusive most of the time. Usually they know your weak spots. They actually usually start off charming. For some women they have grow up in that atmosphere but not all. For some he seems like the perfect man, he accepts you for yourself -you dont realize it cause he has issues with himself. He does so many things for you-you dont realize he is setting you up. He protects and is willing to stand up for you -you dont see he is also overbearing. He cares about what your wear- You dont see its control. He wants to spend all his time with you and give you boat loads of attention - you dont realize he is alienating you from others. He cares that other peolple like you too -you dont realize he is just jealous. They are concerned about what concerns you even with making love they are often in tune with what will make you squeal. They act like they need you.In other words in the beginning they put you up on a pedestal which most women love to have but once you are all in they chip away at the pedestal till you dont have a clue what to do in the end. Its like someone giving you a awesome job so you have everything you want and soon as you get use to it they snatch away. Now you dont know what to do and since it seemed like a great opportunity and you are so attached you fight to keep it crazy as it seems. They are usually great manipulaters so they already have you mind messed up. Unfortunately it happens to all women, rich ,poor, black white. They come in the door like prince charming when they are the wicked wizard but the spell is already cast and it is often so hard to get loose.

Answer 9

I think it's because women see all men as projects. If you are a jerk to begin with, they want to to straighten you out and believe that they actually can. A nice guy is a like a home that has already been professionally decorated-it's boring because there is no challenge.

Answer 10

Well, first the man works on her mind. When he gets her self-esteem low enough (and she unwittingly abets this) and she begins to try to please him, then he starts abusing her body. The abuse doesn't begin with the first hit. Believe me, if a woman went out on a couple of dates with a guy and he up and hit her right after that second or third date he would find his a** either in jail or the victim of "cousin Bubba".