I was argueing & crying at the same time argueing with me boyfriend & i said to him that i have had enough of you treating me like s.hit its been happening for 3 years now & he turned around & said ''so what.. theirs some girls out there that have gone through s.hit for 20 years by there boyfriends how do you think they feel'', Thats what he said to me?, Is that wrong for him to say that to me? I know its only been 3 years but thats not the point he shouldnt of even brang another girl into it im his girlfriend & iff he loved me wouldnt he be more sorry than ever even iff it has been only 3 years with me? Why would he be so selfish like that & use other girls againsed me in a situation like that? So is it wrong for him to say that i think he doesnt even care for me to say such thing?
2007-09-07 03:42:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it is very insensitive of him. And any time a sentence starts off there is some girls... you know its bad. But what i really meant by this statement is that he never plans to change, that he thinks you are going to become that girl! The gir who is treating badly from their boyfriends for 20 years. If you look back to all the times that he treated you badly, and they are something you don't want to re-live in the future. Then you need to make a decission otherwise you will start to think low of yourself. and before you know it, he will have sucked all the confidence out of you. He is abusing you. If it was just an argument and he really does treat you good, then maybe he just said it because he was thinking of somone else who is dealing with that situation. either way though he doesn't think treating you badly is wrong so if I were you I would get out now or seek counseling before it become your whole life instead of just 3 years.
2007-09-07 04:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no right to say such a horrible thing to you. I don't know exactly what the situation is with you two, but comments like the one he made to you is verbal abuse. Most of the time (if this hasn't already happened) verbal abuse leads to physical abuse. Obviously this guy knows that he treats you like dirt, but he doesn't see that he has a problem. A real man would want you to feel better and stop crying, even if you did something that upset them. This guy obviously has some issues, and I think you should get away from him as soon as possible and find a guy that will treat you right, he can go find one of those "other girls" that are used to taking **** like his.
2007-09-07 03:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by candikisses0918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that reply seems like he's lost interest. It is also an indication he knows he's been treating you bad for 3 yrs, he doesn't care and he will continue to do so if he feels like it.
The "so what" attitude is not good for a relationship. It doesn't matter how long another female has been treated badly. And it doesn't matter how long your relationship has lasted. This is about how he's been treating you and how his insensitive comment and other actions have made you feel over the past 3 yrs.
If his heart is so cold he lacks respect for you or your feelings, you shouldn't be with that guy. You deserve better.
That is my opinion.
2007-09-07 03:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a harsh thing to say to a woman. hmm.... yeah was that really stupid of him to say that because he is going off topic. Why compare you to another woman who has it worst than you? Also, I think you should consider breaking it off with this guy because if he is treating you like dirt then you don't deserve that. Why would you want to be in an abusive relationship? That is awful to hear. Anyway, yeah that is the best thing I would recommend you do because I know you guys probably have fights before but that was harsh.
2007-09-07 03:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Roger P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude! I think it's REALLY disrespectful for him to say that! Look, some guys are jerks (like the one ur with) and some guys aren't (like the ones you SHOULD be with) you just have to set some rules and boundaries before you go into a relationship for there to be a mutual level of respect. I know three years is a long time but you have to think that five, ten, or twenty is longer and you should be spending that time with someone who REALLY cares about you. PS don't try to change him, it won't happen.
2007-09-07 03:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by b3nzin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. No one should have to go through that. And the other girls that have been going through that for 20 years are deffinately married, and are too affraid to leave. If he's like that to you now, he'll be worse after yall get married.And yes, I think it was VERY wrong for him to say that to you. Those are other girls, they are NOT you!
2007-09-07 03:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by AnGiE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is acknowledging that he is in fact treating you like dirt, yes. I do not see what exactly you are trying to salvage but the 3 years. There are to many men out there who would love to treat a woman right, why worry about one? Don't let him decide for you.
2007-09-07 03:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by I'm Michael Jackson BAD!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its wrong & you shouldnt be with him. If he has been like this for 3 yrs, just think how much worse it could be in 20yrs.
Get out now before it does get any worse. You dont have to take his crap & put up with his sh*t. If he really cared for you, he wouldnt treat you that way to start with.
2007-09-07 03:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you or respect you & is trying to control you - leave now before you end up as one of those women he mentions 20 years down the line!
2007-09-07 03:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lexie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh, yeah its wrong. why would you want to be with someone that treats you bad? other women have it bad too, sure, some even much worse than what you are going through, but why should you put up with his bad behavior, because other women have it bad or worse than you? you should be with someone that respects you, loves you, and treats you with dignity and care. he isn't that guy. leave him, gather your strength and leave him, before you are another statistic. he is abusive. don't take it anymore.
2007-09-07 03:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Amy E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋