How many people on here are happily married....?

Question

I mean really really happy.
About 80% of married people I know are miserable-all they do is talk about how much they wish they weren't married and how they can't stand their husband. I am not talking about little fights and things that make them mad-that of course is natural in any relationship.
Is this usual?

Answer 1

I am happily married! I love my husband and my son more than anything in the world. We fight, and don't see things eye to eye but that doesn't mean things aren't great. We haven't had it easy either. He's in the Marine Corps, and has been to Iraq 3 times. Not only has he been gone for work, but he has PTSD from what he has seen over there. If we can get through the hard times, anyone can!

Answer 2

I am!!! My husband (28) and I (27) were high school sweethearts, we dated 5 years before we got married. This year made 10 years that we have been together. I can honestly say that I love married life and wouldn't change a thing about it. And yes we have our spats like everyone else, but we always work things out. Then 8 months ago we were blessed with a beautiful baby girl and now our lives are filled with even more joy.

Now getting back the '80% are unhappily married' comment....I agree with you, considering how high the divorce rate is right now. Most of our friends or divorced (25-35 age range). I also know couples who are staying together just for the kids sake. The best advice I can give anyone is make sure you aren't jumping into marriage too soon. Make sure you've had time to really get to know the person and establish a friendship first.

Answer 3

I am very much happily married!! Have them read Love and Respect and Cracking the Communication code ( by Emmerson Eggrich) or cd sets online at loveandrespect.com. You see the problems in marriage is like a slow fade it doesnt happen overnight it's little things here and there that add up and harden your heart. I really stand behind these books they help both parties understand eachother and the way they feel and even if only the wife is willing to work at it before long the husband will start to have positive reactions to the knowledge his wife is applying from the books/cd's.

Answer 4

Let me give you some background before I go into things. I was 17 when I got married. I had my son the day after my wedding! I have been married almost 9 years and people tease that we are acting like newlyweds. I love my husband! I think people now-a-days forget that communication is the key. You don't get married and "live happily-ever-after" it is a continual work-in-progress. Establishing a common goal that you can work with each other to accomplish. Most people grow apart because they have too many goals that pull them apart. TALK. Sometimes when you have kids the most couples say to eachother is don't forget to pick Suzie up from school today. If you don't work on your marriage it won't work. I love being married. Don't let people scare you. It can work as long as you are both willing to work through problems together. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Marriage is a give and take, but overall, my husband and I are happy. We're high school sweethearts, and have been together 13 years.

I think the problem is that nowadays it's too easy to call it quits and jump ship when things get too difficult. Rather than actually try to work things out, couples just get out of it. I'm not saying that if the situation is abusive to try and work through it. But we've all seen it, too many kids these days get married after being in a relationship for only a few short weeks, thinking it will work out, only to get divorced down the line. What a shock.

Answer 6

I've been in that 80% before. It started after my hubby returned from Iraq the 2ND time. I tried so hard to be the strong, supportive wife and be patient. It was soooo hard, a person can only take so much. He changed a lot (angry, quick temper, insensitive); he wasn't the same person at all. My patience seems to be paying off, he's been home for 10 months and things are starting to get somewhat back to normal. I can't say we're "happily" married right now but we are no longer miserable. It's a long process but it is slowly getting better.

Answer 7

I think that happily married is different for everyone. somepeople expect ech of the partners to do 50% of all the work ( working outsideof the home, cleaning house, raising kids, changing diapers)
I can say that i am verry happy in my marriage, because my husband never makes me worry about the bills or the car payments. Dont get me wronge I worked before we were married, so I could look after things if I needed to. But he is so resposable with every one of our families needs that all I have to worry about is the house and the 3 kids. We never go to sleep mad at each other, and we have never cut each other off of sex, because we both love sex and realy it does not make any sence to make your self suffer because you are mad at the other person. One thing that realy gets to me is when people sing contracts before they get married. My friends all told me to do that before i was married but i told then that people that do that are saying that they plan on needing one because they wont be together forever. Marriage is forever, period! We have been married for 5 years now and are still verry much in love. But over time the love has matured. I think that in 50 years we will still love each other just as much as we do now, but it will be different than it is now because we will be different to.

Answer 8

I can honestly say, I'm 110% happy. I was really young when I married my first husband. After 4 years, we divorced. In June, I remarried. We'd been together for 3 years, so decided to go to Vegas and just do it! He's the most wonderful husband and step-dad to my 7 year old daughter and I really could not have hoped for more. Until him, I never knew that happiness like this truly existed.

Answer 9

Well I feel sorry for those who are very unhappy. Of course every marriage can be hard at times but I can say that I am very truely happy with my marriage. My husband is a very sweet charming man who puts the children and I first. Just when i think i cant love him anymore he surprises me with something wonderful and i fall in love with him more. We're not perfect dont get me wrong he has bad days and i have bad days and sometimes we can bicker but we havent had a good fight in sometime now. Cuts down on the make up woohoo lol but its a price i have to pay i guess lol.

Answer 10

I am more than happily married. And I know of a few miserable couples, but not many. My wife and I make time for each other and always put each other's needs first. You always hear about people saying, "Take care of yourself first so you can be a good spouse,parent, etc," but putting yourself ahead of your family and then if there is any time left over, giving it to your spouse and children, is not a recipe for a happy marriage or family.