I expect some creative answers to this question.....My reason for asking is:
My husband and I came into a real rough spot in our 19th year of marriage...Stress of raising kids, finances, etc.
We did 18 months of counseling with the pastor of our church, and now my marriage, if more rewarding than I thought it ever could be.
Has anyone had the same experience?
2007-09-07 03:16:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Absolutely. Our marriage is not only a commitment to one another, but it is also a covenant relationship with God. God is first in our lives, and He gives us grace. My husband and I put each other second in our lives because we are each other's nearest neighbor and grant each other grace while trying to avoid keeping a record of each other's wrongs.
We have also had some painful times in our marriage, and unfailingly the Bible has the answers for maintaining our marriage in the most difficult circumstances.
2007-09-07 03:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very much so. We are both committed Christians and turn to God all the time in our marriage. It's especially easy for us because my wife has all kinds of physical ailments an is often in pain, so it's easy to turn to God frequently. And God clearly uses all the opportunities that arise to help each of us grow closer to him. I'm talking about things like my wife being disabled and currently having very difficult time transferring from her chair to her wheelchair. She also has been unable to take care of toilet issues on her own. So that gives me the opportunity to put her needs before mine and enjoy helping her instead of complaining about the situation. She also has been relying on him to improve her mobility and he's been helping her just fine. So God is an integral part of our life, probably not as integral as he would like, but we are getting there.
2007-09-07 10:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by William D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is a significant part of my marriage. It makes a profound difference for a number of reasons:
It is very difficult to stay uptight with someone you are praying for, and with, on a daily basis. Granted, it's difficult to pray for, and with, someone with whom you are uptight, but if you can agree that the relationship with God is important enough to put the differences aside for ten minutes and pray you can do it, and it can change everything.
If you both have the same foundational beliefs regarding morality, ethics, and general behaviour, you can work through the differences in opinion a lot easier because they will largely be ancillary details.
In our marriage, I feel a great responsibility for the well-being of the individual family members, largely because of the teachings of Christ. I make sure that my sons have access to a wide variety of information, but most importantly I demonstrate that I really believe what I say I believe by acting in agreement with my faith (doing what I teach). By seeing that what I say I believe is important enough to me to actually act on it, they in turn give it importance in their lives as well.
Also, I read the Bible to my wife before we go to sleep at night (after whatever else we do when we put the boys to bed). It shows her that I care about her, that I believe in this enough to make it a priority, and it gives her something tranquil to think about while going to sleep.
She also says my voice helps her fall asleep, but that's a bonus, as far as I'm concerned.
2007-09-07 10:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, in fact more times than not I have seen marriages where one person becomes more religious and the other either feels resentment for being forced into something they do not want or they end up leaving.
I believe that G-d is personal and while it will affect the way that you deal with marriage, it should not be a central focus of the marriage.
2007-09-07 10:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by doorofperception13 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've had a similar experience in that my wife and I are in our 19th year and going through rough spots. That's about it though.
2007-09-07 10:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by wondermus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell god to step it up cause the divorce rate is through the roof maybe you guys could let him have some time off from your marriage so he can help all the other ones.
2007-09-07 10:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by discombobulated 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God should be the primary Person in any marriage, because He will help a marriage to remain successful. Any marriage that is not sanctioned by God will not succeed.
2007-09-07 10:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by PreciousBabyGirlHasArrived 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I've been married for 3 yrs now. Got married by the church because she wanted the "dream wedding", turned out to be the worst part of the wedding.
2007-09-07 10:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, but religon isn't.
At least once a week, we light candles and play medatative music and go into meditation. We get 'messages' during these times which are often very similar. That is the fountain of our spiritual life.
2007-09-07 10:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Fancy That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is not just a relationship between man and woman, but also with God's participation.
2007-09-07 10:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋