I feel if there is both parents then it should be left to the father.
2007-09-07 01:56:45 · 31 answers · asked by bb 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think the parent who discovers the mischief should immediately punish not wait until some other parent comes home from work or whereever.
2007-09-07 02:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel that it should be the father's decision? Child-rearing is for both parents to be doing, not one over the other. The father isn't more important than the mother, nor is it true the other way around.
Both parents have an equal say.
... edited to say that I agree with the poster below. If something happens and the child needs to be punished and only one parent is available at the time, by all means, you needn't wait for the other parent to arrive.
2007-09-07 02:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by AV 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way, I believe you need to create balance when it comes to disipline. you and your spouse need to be on the same page and support each other's decisions about disapline, or the children will become confused and play games against you or your spouse. Kids are smart they figure these things out very young. Than you have more problems to solve. I believe both parents are responsible to disapline. They need guidelines from both of you.It is a big part of the job of being a parent.
2007-09-07 02:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by JannaB 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe both parents should discipline. If only one parent does it and the other is just kinda there sitting on their thumbs that parent has a better chance of being run over by their kids. I know if my kids thought i'd never discipline them they would go ape crazy when their dad was gone. WHen in a marriage if only one person did the work it would not be a good situation same goes with parenting.
2007-09-07 03:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by hlboin_2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it shouldn't just be left to the father... with children u are raising them to come into the world both parents should discipline the child... if the child is with the mother and the child does something wrong then the mother should discipline the child, and if the child is with the father and so on.... children need to learn that what is said is meant not okay ur dad spanked u now let me hug and comfort u when u were wrong... u can't teach a child that because then there going to think whatever they do is ok and dads just a jerk, mom will back me up... no seriously its up to both of u...
2007-09-07 02:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by sarah v 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be a "good cop bad cop" situation in the home. If one parent is there when a child does something wrong then they should. Mother or Father does not matter. Both parents should be responsible for the child. If a child died from not being fed who would you blame? You would blame both parents for not feeding their child. You wouldn't blame one just because you think "they" should have been the ones feeding the child. Both parents are equally responsible for the child and roles should not be separated.
2007-09-07 02:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Cowgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be both parents disciplining the children...if it is left to only one parent then the child will do a "divide and conquer". You are a team: mother AND father...and the child should be raised equally by the team, with one supporting the other's decision when it comes to discipline.
2007-09-07 02:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The parent who can properly spell the word discipline!
Okay, seriously now, discipline is not gender related or exclusively the responsibility of one parent. Obviously, if one parent is a stay-at-home parent, then the responsibility for discipline will fall mainly on that parent's shoulders. But BOTH parents must agree on the rules, agree on the discipline, and stand united with each other when children attempt to manipulate the rules and/or the disciplinarian.
2007-09-07 02:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think discipline should be a equal chore for parents. It makes for a stronger family if the child sees that their parents agree on discipline. It is in a childs nature to want the less strict parent to deal out punishment: "Dad said no, so I'll ask mom!" So I would say being united on these issues would make a more stable family life.
2007-09-07 02:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel O 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Both parents need to agree on how to discipline. They need to handle it together. It shouldn't be on one parents' shoulders. That's old school. It is not effective and it creates resentment. Good vs. Bad parent. It should be equal and there needs to be communication between them so that kids know they will get the same answer whoever they ask. Parents need to back each other up or the kids will win. Divide and Conquer.
2007-09-07 02:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is up to both parents to discipline children. What is with this dark age mentality that the man is the lord and emperor of what goes on in the house.
2007-09-07 04:41:33 · answer #11 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋