My daughter will be 2 1/2 when the delivery of our second one will arrive. Has anyone ever had their other child at this age in the room while delivering? She is very attached to mommy and daddy and always wants to go to my doctor's appointments with me. How has the experience been for other people that have let their other child in the delivery room??
2007-09-07 01:46:28 · 17 answers · asked by endlsjurny 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm an advocate of having your older children in the delivery room while you have your baby (my ten year old (now eleven) attended my last birth and just LOVED it). I wouldn't recommend having a child that young in the hospital setting with you while you deliver though, especially as she is so attached to you. She isn't old enough to fully comprehend what is going on, so she is likely to become upset by seeing you in pain. Imagine how traumatised she could become if something goes wrong (god forbid) and they have to whisk you away for a c-section, or something similar. Homebirths with siblings of this age present are normally okay, simply because the children are in their own house, and can wander off to the security of their rooms when they get bored or are feeling a little bit worried.
The other problem is that you will be unable to do much for her while you are in labour, and if you are worrying about her it could interfere with your labouring. You would also need an extra support person for her alone, and if she was to become upset or uncomfortable or worried, she would have to leave the room, which I suspect she wouldn't be happy about at all, especially if the person taking her wasn't you or your husband.
2007-09-07 01:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Children In Delivery Room
2017-01-12 09:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by alisme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our hospitals will not allow children under 5 in the delivery room once pushing starts and until after the baby arrives. No exceptions due to previous bad experiences. However, the child can remain in the room until then. What you need to do is to have a caretaker assigned to the child who isn't going to get bent out of shape if they miss the birth themselves.
2007-09-07 05:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BAD idea for lots of reasons. Most of all beause it will do harm to the 2 1/2 year old child. Blood, pain, mommy on a bed, doctors and nurses hurrying around. It's too much. Clean the baby up and have the child come in after for a nice quiet cozy visit. What if your child is in there and there are complications? Even if everything went smooth, it would scare a child.
2007-09-07 02:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to not have your toddler in the delivery room-first of all toddlers are often "comeing down with something" and also they are too active and need to run around. Also its not like she will remember it - she won't. Many hospitals do not allow siblings that young in delivery.
Also I would think that seeing Mommy in labor may upset the child and make her cry and carry on-then you are in labor and trying to help your other child-- too much for you!!!! Have the baby and then bring in your older child.
What my daughter did was promise her older ones that no one else will see the baby before you do except Mom and Dad!! Then we brought them right up to the hospital when baby was born so they could be the first to see!!
2007-09-07 02:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Seeing Mommy cry in pain and seeing lots of blood (all deliveries involve blood so don't lie to yourself that it'll be like a TV delivery) will be upsetting to your child. She's too young to be in the delivery room. What happens if something goes wrong? I hate to put that out there, but if you have to be rushed to the OR or the baby has a problem- do you want your little girl to see that?? Also, labor is a long process, do you really think she'll behave herself at the hospital all that time? What do you expect her to do if you're pushing the new baby out at 3am or during her usual naptime? Are you going to have the energy to play with her or want her to sit in the bed while you're in pain? No. Leave her at home with a trusted sitter and take a shower before she sees you.
2007-09-07 01:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Momof2grrls 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Generally, children are NOT allowed in the birthing room during labor/delivery. They can come and visit during regular visiting hours but, most hospitals do not allow children in the delivery room.. For hygenic reasons as well as safety. You should have a sitter/family member watching your child while you/spouse are at the hospital.. It will be good to have the time to bond with the new little one uninterupted and to relax. Which is something that you won't have much time to do when you return home ! My first son was/is very attached to mommy/daddy and he went to all my doc. appts. however, it's just not a good idea to have them there during labor/delivery.. What if a complication arrises and you need emergency care..? A little one will get in the way or get scared/hurt.. It's best to have someone else take care of her.
2007-09-07 01:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Right now I'm 12 but my mom had my little brother when I was 11 and she wanted me to go in witht her, I didn't want to, so when the day came and she finally went into labor at the hospital I tried my best to sit and stay but I couldn't so I asked if I could wait in the waiting room, and I did.
But as for a 2 1/2 year old, they don't know what's going on with their mommy while she's on the delivery bed, and when you're there squirming and hollering about the pain, your 2 1/2 year old will get scared and start to cry because they're wondering what's happening to her mommy.
What I'm trying to say is its probaly not best to have her in there because she won't know what's going on she'll get scared and it won't feel comfortable to her or you if your son/daughter is standing there crying. So you should probaly have her wait in the waiting room and when you're done delivering bring her in and let her see the baby. I hope I helped. : )
2007-09-07 01:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
i really dont think a delivery room is an appropriate place for a young child. it may be really tramatic for her. at age 2 1/2 she wont really understand why mommy is in pain or whats happening when the baby is comming out. thats fine she goes with you to the appointments with you, but for the delivery she just needs to wait in the waiting room with a family member.
2007-09-07 03:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!! A 2 1/2 year old?? She will be traumatized to say the least. She can't comprehend what 's going on, all she will think is that you are being hurt. How shocking would it be for her to see this big slimy thing coming out of your hoo hoo! Talk about a horror movie. Think about how you would feel if your daughter was in the hospital for some terrible reason and all these doctors and nurses were doing all kinds of things that you don't understand and she is crying and yelling. You would be devastated! That's probably what it would look like to her. I would think that the doctor would tell you what a bad idea it is.
2007-09-07 02:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋