Is this considered cheating?

Question

My husband spends a couple of hours every night playing an online game that has a voice chat feature. I'm left out since I am too much of a "noob" to join in. I have to listen to him chatting with men and women, altho he seems to get along better with the women. He doesn't have much conversation for me but can talk with these gaming people for hours. I feel left out and jealous. It's like he is having a party in our house but I'm not invited. This is tough emotionally. Is this considered cheating?

Wow! Thanks for the great responses! Just to update.....I did start playing so we could have this game in common, but I would have to play for a couple of years and have him stop playing just so I can catch up to his level and do the things he can do and go the places he can go in the game. Makes it hard to play together! We have been together over 10 years, and this is a major switch from the guy I first knew. He was the one who wanted to do everything together. Now he needs his online friends more than he needs me. I guess I'm getting whiplash from the sudden changes!

Answer 1

In a sense it is. Because by him playing these games, he's in a sense telling you, that your not good enough for him, and that his games are more important to him than you are.

Time cut off the game, so he will spend time with you in the real world. Because by his spending so much time on the computer, he's missing out on things with you.

Men, your wife should ALWAYS come before you and the things you want. It's called being selfless. If you put you and your wants and needs before her's it's called being selfish. If you want to make a marriage work, you have to put your wife before yourself. If you go into a marriage with the attitude what will I get out of it, your marriage is doomed to fail.

But if you go into the marriage with the attitude, what can I do to make my parnter happy, your going to have a happier and more sucessful marriage. I've found that when I think of my wife's happiness, and doing things to make her happy, I find it makes me happy too, because for me, seeing that she's happy, is very fulfilling to me, and makes me happy as well.

Answer 2

Not necessarily cheating, if they are only talking about the game in "real time". If it is only for a couple of hours & he still has time for you then it would be ok. Online gaming like this DOES cause a marriage problems with the players become obcessed with it, spending every waking hour playing & talking. This is what you can't let happen, I play online games sometimes & it can "get you addicted to it" sort of say, but when it is time to go to bed, quit playing, cook supper or I have real life things to do then they come first. Get a chair, set down by him & have him teach you how to play so you can join the same game if you want.

Answer 3

no, cheating is actually a physical thing, such as touching , kissing, sex.
i get how you feel left out , but don't feel jealous, there is no reason for that,
you could always break the computer, or join the game over at a girl friends house so he doesn't know its you and get in to the game like that and have some fun with it. maybe you will start enjoying the game and you might see that its just harmless fun,and you might like talking to the guys on the voice chat. half of these lonely women that get on these games are on them cause there big fat heffers and no one would talk to them in real life anyway.

Answer 4

Well join in.If he will not let you in then there is something wrong. Get a norther Comp. and try playing with out him knowing. See what happens. But what ever goes on keep your mouth shut he dose not know you have been their and this dose not cause any trouble in your relationship. It is to hard to find a good man or woman . Now day. I think it is not cheating Just some people to talk to.I hope you two have Good relationship and the two of you can talk about any thing and ever thing. this could be why he dose that.

Answer 5

To answer your question; NO it's not cheating.

He talks to them for hours because they all have something in common to talk about. My suggestion is give the game a try. If you had your own pc you could both play at the same time. Alot of the online games are geared toward both genders. Also for examle World of Warcraft is a gateway game meaning that people who normally don't like video games like it, which opens up thier market big time.

Answer 6

once you're thinking, it probable is. each time you sense an emotional connection with somebody else, any form of touch that feels intimate - could desire to be basically speaking or texting, yet feels close, brings you closer to that individual - is cheating. while you're actually not emotionally in contact, then those comparable issues are basically friendly. additionally i'm assuming by ability of kissing you propose a kiss on the cheek, through fact on the mouth or deep kissing is unquestionably around the line.

Answer 7

I don't feel this is cheating in a since. However, it is cheating your relationship. Have you talked to him about how bad this is making you feel? Try as hard as it might be to join him for awhile start out 10 or 15 min at a time. ask him to spend time with you even if it's the same short time. start out slow find things that you both enjoy. try creating the moods you had when you first met.

Answer 8

no hon not considered cheating at all, i and my boyfriend play an online game where we talk to people over a teamspeak programe, just say, you want to get involved and he was a noob once too, give you a chance!

*edit* unless he is saying things that should only be said to wife/g/f etc. i wouldnt be worried. hes just playing a game.

*EDIT AGAIN*

Oh my god some of these answers are hilarious! it seems like you are all saying, he cant have any time to himself to do what he wants! like he has to sit next to her all day not move from her side! Women go shopping, thats their thing, that they like, Men play games on the comp, or go to a footy match etc, thats their thing. FFS i cant believe some of you! how can you say he is not giving her no attention, so in fact he is cheating on her hes just playing a game GFS. i think you lot need to learn the rules of what consits of cheating again!
I play Medal Of Honor Allied Assault. (a shooting game) when you are in a group you need to speak to the group and say where u got shot so someone can go shoot them, or if you shoot each other just generally have a laugh!
from what all yous are saying jesus i feel sorry for youre loved ones if your answers reflect hoe you live your lives!

Oh and by the way...if he is cheating playing a game and talking to people, the Questioner that asks this question is cheating too then as she speaks to all of us!

Answer 9

I wouldn't go that far and consider it cheating, but maybe you need to communicate that you would like to do something with him. If you don't like playing the game maybe you could figure out something to do together. If the conversations are about the games you definately have nothing to worry about.

Answer 10

Not cheating on him, but will lead to cheating by you eventually. Video games and computer games are addictive and what is going to happen is he will continue to ignore you causing either one of two things, divorce, or cheating on your part to get some attention. It happens every time. So, guys with wives, unless you want others taking your place, slow down on the games and pay some attention or she will be warming another bed. Good luck to you.