A girl who is a close friend of mine for almost a year now and I have fallen in love with one another. Not the typical boyfriend/girlfriend bit, it is rather incredibly deep and very passionate.
The issues is this, when I first met her I was with someone and as time went on I went out of my way to introduce her to a friend of mine. They ended up going out and then breaking up a while after (close to the end, she actually stumbled onto my hidden feelings though I dont' believe it had bearing onto their breakup). Anyway, the friend comes back, confesses love for her, and we were forced to explain what has happened.
She told me once that in the short time shes been with me, it has been monumentally more significant than whatever they shared. But now she is unsure because she doesnt' want to hurt either of us and cause us to fight with one another. I have made my decision to break my friendship if it meant to be with her. I feel that I truly love her with every bit of my being.
2007-09-06 23:52:45 · 2 answers · asked by Dragoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am unsure if this will replace my original question.
But allow me to clarify something, I am not the typical stupid minded guy who thinks with his hormones more so than his own heart and head. Call me a liar, and I can prove you wrong if you knew me.
Now onto that issue, to describe my love for her. Every bit of time we share I cherish, I can feel her very thoughts and emotions, I understand her better than anyone in her life, I do believe my deep friendship with her originally put that into place, but it continues even now as we share something more.
While she is very physically attractive, that has very little meaning to my feelings toward her. Shes actually offered herself to me one time and I turned her down because I want to make sure what we had is true and real. Since then things have gotten so much deeper between us, now I am forced into a decision and she doesn't want to come between us and see us hurt. As I said, I have already decided that step in my life, now what?
2007-09-07 00:09:27 · update #1
Heh, adding details are fun. She and he broke up quite a while ago, now it is just how to deal with it all you know?
She cares about him, and cares about me more, but she is the type of person who does what she can to make other people happy and I have tried to move her away from that to focus on her own happiness.
Eitherway, she won't choose him but the thing is, how do I get her from the point to where we stand (my friend wanting all 3 of us just to be friends and nothing more) to where I truly feel it should go (she and I, with our best friend being him). I clearly know that I may very well lose him in this mess, but I have a belief that if he is truly a friend of mine, he will understand why I would do this and learn to accept it.
2007-09-07 00:13:33 · update #2
Sounds as if you need to tell her that she needs to make a decision. You are getting deeper and deeper involved and you know even know if she shares the same feelings. If she cared for you as much as you care for her, there woulod be no love triangle. She would have already broken up with him.
2007-09-07 00:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which part of your "being" do you really love her with?
2007-09-07 07:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋