My Friend has had her 1st baby about a month ago, she is very happy and is an amazing mum, just want to know if people think that 18 is too young even if you are amazing at being a mum?!?
2007-09-06 21:47:59 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She is in a relationship with a guy who is in full time work and she is in an apprentice. They have their own place together (renting) Does any one still think it's too young?
2007-09-06 21:58:45 · update #1
not if you can provide for the baby no. age is just a number, its mainly maturity that needs to play the part. it sounds like shes doing well for herself and her family which is great so i dont think its too young. im 18 myself and my best friend had her baby 3 months before her 18th, shes a great mum and i didnt see it as being too young. i would actually prefer being a younger mum than older mum, but thats just personal preference. as long as the baby is taken great care of then thats the main thing, dont let her have anyone bring her down for being 18, its her life after all. good luck to you both.
2007-09-07 03:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 34 and only in recent years have decided I was ready to be a mum because up until now my career, travel and other things have taken priority, plus I never found my perfect partner till I was 30.
My friend however was married at 18 and pregnant quite soon after, by 19 she had a baby and her 2nd by 22. She and her husband hadn't gone on to university or pursue a career or anything. They worked but they weren't particularly rich, but loved their children and created a good home for them.
I think 18 is fine to be a mum. If someone is in a position where they can take care of a baby and understand and carry out all the responsibilities that come with taking care of a baby. And are a loving and caring mum and not have any regrets. It doesn't matter about age.
2007-09-06 21:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kysalin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person. My mum was 20 when she got married and 21 when she had me and she did an excellent job of raising me. When I was 21 I still felt way too young to be thinking about having a baby and now at 25 I still have so many things I want to do before making the ultimate commitment of having the huge responsibility of bringing up a child. I think as long as you are ready to sacrifice your own life for at least the next 18 years and put everything you want to do on hold so you can give your baby everything it needs, then 18 is an okay age.
2007-09-06 21:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be a mum you need
1. Extreeme Patience
2. A home which you can keep
3. A steady income, be that wages or benefits
4. A good partner to support and help
5. A strong Stomach! (nappies! Baby sick!)
6. A good family network for support
7. Basic savings for when you stop work (maternity leave dosent pay much)
8. A love for children and childrens activities
9. A additude of what ever happens, happens...
10. Spare time and the need for another person to care for.
Without these basics theres no point in considering having a baby.
Id say there is no "perfect age", women though are having children later on now days.
Its when your ready, your partners ready and your bank balance can stand it!
2007-09-06 22:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think being 18 or younger stops you being a good mum...but i personally think its too young.
At 18 or even your early twenties people presume they are mature, and know what they want, but as you get older you realise how little you really knew at that age.
If one of my children were to have a baby at 18 i would be supportive but i would be disapointed that they hadnt lived a little first.
Having a child is such a huge responsibility and life long commitment and i think all young people should go out have fun, travel, develop skills and grow as a person before they make this commitment.
2007-09-06 22:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 18 she is an adult, and from what you have written i think shes a well grounded woman, i had my first at 17 3 months b4 my 18 birthday, i work full time ..own my own home and car have no debts and all without any hand outs, i dont think age has anything to do with being a good mum.. i am prove that younger mums can do it!! Good luck to your friend!!
2007-09-07 00:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by .. .. ..â?¢ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had my son at 18. I'm now 19 and he's 6 months. I love being a mom, and I've adapted wonderfully. My son was unplanned, but I couldn't imagine my life without him. I wouldn't change having him at 18. I may be a bit young, but I don't consider that to be a bad thing. I don't think people should try to set an age at which another person should start having children. It all depends on when the specific person is ready to take on that responsibility.
2007-09-06 22:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by There's a party in my tummy! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
everybody will say dof things about this one i honestly think that its to young i was 21 when i had my daughter she wasnt planned and i was by myself and i felt young,being a mum is the best thing ever but it can also be the most exhausting,emotional,hard time ever because ur life compleltly canges u have no money babys need so much stuff all the time and it depends on how much family suport u get my fm all worked so i never got time of from my daghter which i accepted id say have some fun first live a bit bays can come when u dont expect them believe me but dont go tring to get one yet make sure ur in a stedy relationship with sombody mature enough to deal with a baby brfore u even think about it in the end only u can deside what u want to do its ur life
2007-09-06 22:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by proud mummy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women have had babies at the age of 15yrs and younger throughout history so no 18 is not young. However if the girl was raised to have no common sense, responsibility, or any of the other traits a mother needs there is no telling when she would be mature enough to handle a child.
2007-09-10 09:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by billie b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can generalise a question like that. Every person is different and every situation unique. Biologically, there may be a preferable age. But shouldn't the focus be on what sort of life the child will have?
I believe that people should be looking to have children when THEY are ready, not when the turn a certain age.
Nobody can tell YOU when the right time is.
2007-09-06 22:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋