I have been single for almost a year and I am interested in dating again. Problem is no one has approached me yet. I feel I am nice looking and have alot going for myself however no one has approached me. What is it about me that does not attract men to me ? I am too shy or scared of being used if I approach a man. What's the problem?
2007-09-06 21:06:22 · 14 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that is why dating sites have become popular. As a guy I presume a 30 year old women is
a) attached
b) loaded with kids
c) loaded with emotional baggage
d) loaded with stds
e) financially independent without much use for a guy or a user who just never learned how to be financially independent
f) not in the mood to have fun just be serious and responsible all the time
...
so ya not going to happen. If you like a guy just make the approach yourself. Waiting it just isn't going to happen.
2007-09-06 21:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by disruption_grey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got to get out of the house first of all. You are not going to find good available men sitting at home. The men are not going to knock on your door and ask if you are home and are you available.
Another thing is that you need to loosen up and be approachable as a person. If you are too introverted, shy and unwilling to open up, then you just send non-verbal messages to stay away from you. The best thing you may want to do is work on your social and flirting skills. You also want to exhaust every available avenues to meet men.
When I say exhaust every avenue of meeting men, I mean use any situation in your everyday life to meet us. When you leave the house, chances are you meet men. We constitute half of the population. Go through social groups and network with your friends. Use online (beware) means to meet men. Look, I am not saying you have to date all of us or lower your standards, but don't let things like everyday life stand in the way of meeting people. Especially men.
2007-09-06 21:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has approached you...that's one of your problems right there. Don't expect a man to approach you, as hard as it is, you need to do some flirting with him so he knows you're interested. If he rejects you, smile and say ok...and move on as though it never happened. Confidence is a good thing even though you may have to fake a little bit of it. A lot of men like confidence as well as vulnerability. Keep at it, you'll find the right one!...and when you do, ask if he has a brother LOL
2007-09-06 21:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Moon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to flirt properly. We guys read body language heavily (the savvy ones, anyway). If your body language says that you're unapproachable, then you will almost never be approached. It helps to make yourself look attractive, too. If you're not into that, then you can't be into men.
Stop looking so serious and responsible. This stuff tells the average man that you are boring, tells the player you're something to be conquered, tells the family man that he needs a "mistress with that", and just intimidates the nice guy.
Play your cards right and you'll be stopping traffic in no time!
2007-09-06 21:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Luminus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this hour of the night, i cant give you the long winded answer. so, in short, statistically there are more women in the populous now so all the men are being taken up. Also, there's a trend now that guys are not approaching girls as much due to sex equalisations. Solution? Dont really have one but it would help you to not try so hard and instead try finding a friend first. When you dont try so hard, things will turn in your favour
2007-09-07 05:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Isamyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you are looking in the wrong places, or you are somehow putting out a "don't approach me vibe."
Just talk to a bunch of new people; doesn't necessarily have to be guys you want to sleep with. As you make new friends, you can casually mention that you are single, and you will find out if they are, too..... or if they have single friends that they could hook you up with.
Good Luck!
2007-09-06 21:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wish I could date you but my wife would kill me . Sometimes it hard for a older women to get back into the grove . I think you might try Yahoo personal ads. Just be careful . lots of wacko's on the internet.
2007-09-06 21:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look towards a younger crowd,,, Its been prover most women you age like younger men cause it makes them feel better and younger men want older women becuz there not immature and and so you say experienced
2007-09-06 21:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by mlg.customz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, "From someone who has never talk to me's standpoint, what do I have to offer them?" Guys will only approach a woman who has something to offer them (and I don't mean sex). Its your job to find out what they want, and make it more obvious.
2007-09-06 21:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to increase your chance of meeting available man, such as involve in more social activities.
2007-09-06 21:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋