to know she is going to have to work if they plan on being able to have children that they can take care of.
2007-09-06 20:51:40 · 12 answers · asked by James Watkin 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree with samstress and can add a bit of input.
The relationship strength is really key here.
At the end of the day or year she is not going to want to work and chances are the man of the house will get negative feedback from the wife and her family.
I was in that situation back in 2001. To make a long one short I made good money in the 1990's and then moved to a small town in 2000 to live the "simple life" after loosing a small fortune in the stock market. I had enough to get a decent place and such but that was it.
I met a beautiful 20 something single mom and took her child in as my own. At this point she and her family were all thumbs up . Later we married and I'm working 2 crap jobs. Then we had a child and money got tight. Not only was I now the "looser" working crappy jobs but I had to think about my sons college etc. Not to mention my new lower than ever
self esteem.
I told her in some terms "backwood playtime is over" and we are going to have to move to a place where I can earn a living again.
So I applied and got a job that would allow us to buy a house and she could stay home yada yada.
Now, the only ones living in the house are my young son and myself.
Turns out that she just wanted to sit around and do nothing or go anywhere.
We ended up divorced and I got custody because I did not sit idle in a loose loose situation.
The man of the house needs to stick in his head "the responsibility is mine and count on nobody" because ultimately that is how things are.
2007-09-06 21:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dave S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many more important things than money in this world. And there are places and styles of life which don't take much money to live on.
Money is not the most important thing to be considered when choosing the job. But the level of income should be enough to afford everything you suppose worth spending your time to get it. So first of all you should enjoy your work.
2007-09-07 02:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ekaterina E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James in my opinion you should not jump into a marriage and have children until your finances is up to parr. If it takes the two of you to work then do so, because later on down the line children will come and she will need to stay at home at least for a few years. Day Care for children will take a chunk out of your pocketbook. I Know! Sometimes you might have to get a part-time job.
2007-09-06 21:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Show Me 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she's marrying him for love. At least he'll be home more than someone who earns a high income and has a very demanding job. A lot of those men don't make good husbands because they are so devoted to their careers that they neglect their families.
2007-09-06 20:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I could tell you my situation is befor my husband and I gat married he said he wanted me to stay home with our children.We agreed it was for the best for the babies to have their mommy and not some childcare center.This was our decision befor marriage, so like others are saying you should have disscused this befor marriage.
2007-09-06 21:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel that it is the mans duty to find a better paid job to support the family.
2007-09-07 01:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by bb 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They both should have talked about that before getting married and not putting the blame on each other after they already are!!
2007-09-06 20:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by petyado 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds logical to me; as long as he has enough sense to know he is going to be Mr. Mom.
2007-09-06 21:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by lucia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
welll yu both should wrk n thats something that needed to be discussed before marrying
2007-09-06 21:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
it's probably something they should have discussed before getting married.
2007-09-06 20:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by samstress 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋