Besides the whole "if you ask the question it's time thing". I really want to know.
2007-09-06 19:49:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please help me.
2007-09-06 20:11:26 · update #1
Well it's time to break up with someone when it no longer provides benefit to one or both partners. In other words, if you aren’t getting what you want or need from being with someone, or if you recognize that your partner isn’t getting what they want or need it’s time to move on.
Also if you no longer look forward to spending time alone with your partner.
You may still have a good sex life (or not!) but actually talking to your partner seems like a chore. If spending time alone with your partner seems like a prison sentence you may need to break it off.
If you begin comparing your partner to others.
This is particularly true when other people seem more appealing to you. We all find others – often those we don’t have – attractive. If however, you find that you’re comparing specific traits – a person’s voice, their neatness, the way they carry themselves, etc., against others; especially things your partner can’t change - you should re-evaluate your relationship.
You re-connect with ex lovers
You’re doing all the giving – or all the getting
Relationships are about mutual benefit. If one partner is benefiting over the other, the relationship isn’t healthy.
You constantly find ways to include others in your activities Always including others indicates that you’re not looking forward to being alone with your partner. Of course, you need time with your friends, but if you never have private time, or the only time you’re alone is when you’re having sex, perhaps the problem is in the company.
2007-09-06 20:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you really haven't given a whole lot of info, it seems that you have to answer that for yourself. Make a list of the reasons to stay together and reasons to break up. Ask yourself can do you have a future with this person. Relationships are tough. You have ups and downs but ultimately your commitment to the person and the relationship is what keeps you there. There will be times when one or both of you wants to get out. Is this the person that you want to learn and grow and change with? If it's not, do yourself and your partner a favor and get out now. It's not fair to keep someone there for you if you're not sure you want to be there for them. If she's the one then strap in. There will be great times. There will be bad times but if it's the right person for you, it'll be worth it. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-09-07 03:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by stax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to break up if you feel like you've lost the connection, forgot why you used to like the person, are noticing all their flaws, and none of the good things, aren't having as much intimacy, and most of all...
If you feel like the relationship has no real future, or you can't imagine yourself being with this person for a few more years, then why the heck are you wasting your precious dating years on them when you should be trying to find the person that you want to be with forever. I had the same dilemma recently. I had been dating this guy for 1 and a half years, but I just felt like...it wasn't going anywhere. It was hard to explain in words, but I just knew that I didn't want to be with him forever or even another year. I just felt like our relationship had run its course and every day was just dragging on, like a blind continuation. I wasn't happy, I was content. It's easy to get used to comfort. I didn't feel like I loved him, I just was used to him. And if you don't love them after two years, I feel that you never will. I wanted spark and excitement and to only be with someone that I knew I was meant to be with. I have never regreted this decision and have been happy being single since.
2007-09-07 03:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by lovefool1050 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right Time To Break Up
For sometime you have had a nagging feeling that things do not feel the same in your relationship. You get irritated more often, like hanging out with your friends more than with him/her, fight over small issues and so on. Now, you start wondering whether it is the right time to break up. When you start noticing the signs given below, understand that it is the time to break up and move on…
All the time you are comparing your partner with others. You find other people more attractive than your partner.
You now do not like those things in your partner that earlier used to make you love him/her even more.
You find it difficult to communicate and most of the time you have together is spent in fighting with each other.
You always find some or the other fault in your partner, criticize him/her often and want to change him/her completely.
You do not look forward to spending time alone with your partner. Infact, it seems like an errand that has to be done.
Either you are the one who is at the giving end all the time or you are the one who is demanding all the time.
Another sign that indicates it is the time for breaking off is when you like spending time with your friends more than with your partner.
Suddenly, you feel that there is nothing that you want to share with your partner. Infact, you prefer sharing your feelings with your friends.
Your compatibility level seems to have hit rock bottom. Both of you no longer seem to understand each other and have fights over the pettiest of issues.
You no longer find your partner's naughty activities amusing. His/her humor does not seem to make you laugh, rather, it irritates you.
2007-09-07 02:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Max A 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you get excited to see there name on your caller ID?
When you see there favorite thing do you want to buy it to make them happy?
When seeing an old couple do you wish that could be the two of you in a million years?
Do you get butterflies sometimes?
Are the kisses still passionate?
When snuggling do you only think about them?
Do you fight less than once or twice a week and NO serious break down fights?
I think if you answered yes to all of these or at least some... your alright.
But. I don't know much.
Good luck!
2007-09-07 02:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Megan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh... Do you want the same things in life? Is the sex still good? So you still make each other happy? Do you realize that you don't really want to be together for some reasons- a lot really- but you really like their friends and family and gosh, his Grandma's china is fabulous... oh, sorry, tangent, yeah, just ask yourself why you're with her and if it's because of the china, then it's time to move on...
2007-09-07 02:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Brittae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BUT its true....whenever these things pop up in your mind something is wrong....you should be asking yourself whats worth for to STAY after 2 years....if you can make a long list then you still care enough
2007-09-07 02:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. When she avoids you and doesnt seem excited to see you
2. When she spends more time with family and friends
3. When she doesn't want sex as often
4. When you call and dont get an answer
5. When you two argue over little things
I hope I helped you!!:)
2007-09-07 02:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you lie to them...try to find reasons to get out of spending time with them...try to meet new people behind there back..flirt with other people...aren't really sexually attracted to them anymore...look at other people..imagine having sex with other people..i think those are all signs of wanting something new..and you shouldn't be unfair to someone and keep them around if your thinking or doing any of those things.
2007-09-07 03:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel like your time is being wasted. It is a gut feeling inside that there is no way to revive the relationship.
2007-09-07 02:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋