My boyfriend left for college three weeks ago. I leave one week from now. We agreed that we would break up while we were apart. However, I made him promise me he would not mess around with other girls until I left, because all my friends are out of town and I have nothing to do but be sad that he is gone. Thing is, his web page has tons of pictures of him drunkenly hanging on girls, girls and more girls.
I have to say, I haven't be entirely faithful either. Since he has left I've hooked up with two guys, and had sex with one of them. They don't mean anything to me, but I just need some sort of companionship, especially since I know what he's been up to.
Seeing those pictures makes me sick, but I don't know if I can say anything to him, especially since I haven't told him about the two guys.
HELP. Can I say something? Should I tell him?
2007-09-06 19:24:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some things are best kept to yourself - but talk to him about those pictures....
2007-09-06 19:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most jealousy comes from people believing that their significant other would behave in a way that they would in similar situations - meaning, you get jealous because when your boyfriend's away, and you go out and get drunk, you admittedly end up hooking up. You think you're normal and have normal values, therefore, you believe people would behave the same way you would in similar situations. So, when you see pictures of your boy with the girls, it feeds into your suspicion that he would do exactly what you would do... hook up.
Are you allowed to be jealous? Can't really help it. Is it hypocritical? Absolutely. Unless you are willing to change your behavior and values, you really don't have any ground to stand on in confronting him. And I doubt you really do now even if you DID change your behavior.
Truth is - college is the time to have fun and 'explore.' I'd complete the break up and have your fun guilt free.
2007-09-07 02:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by pattitutde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is wrong for breaking his promise IF he is messing with other girls. In my opinion you should just leave it be. But if you do talk to him, just be completely honest tell him what you have done as well.
2007-09-07 02:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont thhink you have any place to say anything, esp since you did what you did. ya those pics may hurt you but they are no guarantee that he did anything with those girls that he was hanging all over. but you on te other hand, since you Did do something, i wouldnt say anything because it is very hypocritical.
2007-09-07 02:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? He just has some pictures of him hanging out with people, which he is entitled to do, so YOU, being a friggin **** or whatever, go and **** someone and then YOU are MAD at HIM????
2007-09-07 02:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by zanthus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DUH can you say SL_T . I hope you dont like this answer . But girl you sound like one of those dumb Paris Hilton types . I dont think you know what love is , that you just like sex. Personally why waste your time telling him . Just go out and screw 4-5 more guys .
2007-09-07 04:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have no right to say a thing to him. I would suggest that you both just move on.
2007-09-07 02:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So,you both sail in the same boat,and there is no need to explain him anything.....mum's the word.
2007-09-07 02:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are not together anymore to me so what differants does it make
2007-09-07 02:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by infoman89032 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋