Any suggestions for a lady who has got her breast removed - some moral support pls.!!?

Answer 1

I had my left breast removed April of this year. I am still undergoing chemo and I will be going through radiation. I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer.

At first the removal was very hard. I'm single and although right now not really wanting to meet anyone, I know that eventually I would like companionship. I'm 46. It kept going through my mind that nobody would want me now. Who though wants a man that can't accept you?

I know that when you look in the mirror, it's very hard. The question goes through your head "why me"? I myself am really used to it. I look in the mirror and yes, it's a little strange looking but I won't get sad about it. I understand that my body will no longer look the same and I accept it. I joke about it a lot because that's how I make it through it. Sometimes I'm crazy enough to wear a tighter shirt and I'll go up to people and kind of look down forcing them to look at it. You know what? Nobody notices it but me! I even pointed out to my friends on a breezy day that I no longer have "nips" I have "nip"!

I hope that at least they put an expander in so that there is something there. It doesn't look the same as the old breast but it's something. It doesn't fill out my bra the way the old breast did but to me that's okay. There will be reconstructive surgery and since I've opted to have implants, I am told by the Dr. that I won't have to wear a bra at all! I think of this as a positive!

I know it's hard to be strong. I know you feel bad for yourself and also very sorry for yourself and that is really okay. You've had your body altered and to some women that is really an important part in that it makes us a woman but plastic surgery can make that all okay for you. Make the jokes. Look in the mirror and don't look at it as a scarred body but a beautiful body that I know people love and care about.

I wish that there was a way to contact you so that we could talk over the phone or something because this is deeper than what yahoo answers should know.

I'm giving you a big hug and I want you to think positive.

Answer 2

First, I'm sorry about your loss. I'm sure it's been a difficult process, but you're also obviously a survivor, so good on ya. Second, have you looked into a prosthesis, or some sort of replacement? That will make your outward appearance more "normal". I'm not sure if you're single, married, or even heterosexual, but I will say that breasts aren't the be all end all for all men. Some men, like me, prefer a nice caboose. There are some excellent support groups for women who have survived cancer, and going on the breast cancer three day walk is awesome. Anyway....good luck with the process of learning to love a new you and being fully alive every day that you are alive.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

hats off to u lady! u have proved that u are a fighter in real sense. and no loss can be greater value than yor life. people around you need yor presence. imagine how would they live without you, your love , care and affection. this loss is nothing in front of their happiness that you are still alive. you should thank God for saving yor life and giving you another chance to fulfill yor dreams and to realize at the end of the day its only a person's heart that matters and not the appearance. so cheer up. may God bless you.

Answer 5

At what stage the disease was? My mother has undergone similar situation at the age of 66. It had started penetrating to lungs at that time. After three years, my sister had to undergo the same at the age of 43. It had also penetrated to the lungs. Unfortunately, both are not alive today. If it is done in the early stage, one need not worry. But, you will have to be very careful with your intake. Take some supplements which are very high in ORAC value. They help in prevention. Finally, one has to take it as our destiny.

Answer 6

Must always remember that known causes of cancer may not be the cause in in your case. In most of the cases, it happens without any known cause. It is also said that underlying cause of most of the cancers without known cause may be due to life style related cause i.e. your routines, stress, eating, drinking, family atmosphere, surroundings etc.

Therefore, try to transform yourself completely. You should be a totally different person in all respect.

Please do not depend solely on mode of treatment suggested under Allopathy, since same is essentially symptomatic.

Answer 7

Remember it is what is on the inside and that this has also saved your life.

Answer 8

Just stay strong, and God Bless!