What does it mean to be married? Doesn't everyone get divorced and cheat nowadays? How's married life different from dating life? I just don't believe in marriage or see the big point in it. Is that wierd...? I'm 23 and never been in love or thought of being married in the future. What's it like??
2007-09-06 18:05:36 · 19 answers · asked by grace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marriage fulfills our security needs. We pick the person who seems the most compatable to live with and yes we become attracted to others and sometimes people cheat even if they dont want to leave their spouse. Marriage is very hard work.
2007-09-06 18:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what love or marriage is like - because I have had neither. But the reason why you see so many divorces today is because so many people are using love like it's nothing. Just throwing the word around and making it sound so cheap. People get divorces so fast because they aren't willing to work through the marriage. I bet if you went to an old married couple who are absolutely happy together, do you think they would tell you that every day was happy and loving? Doubtful. People just give up so easily nowadays. It's pathetic and it's discouraging to young people. Love is a serious thing, marriage is also very serious.
2007-09-07 01:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by TegLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't going to work for most people in the future I think. Each generation becomes more selfish and self-centered and they can't tolerate sharing a life with another person.
It really just depends on what you truly want. If you just want an intermittent companion and the occasional sex, then single is just fine.
If you want to have long term support in changes and transitions in your life then a spouse is a good thing to have. The spouse loves you, cares for you, cares for your future, and most of all cares more about your happiness.
This is all assuming you wouldn't marry a selfish, self-centered person.
Either one is fine nowadays. Whatever makes you happy. If you don't think marriage or working towards marriage won't work for you then don't do it. It will most likely end up a mess.
2007-09-07 01:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by nothingconstant 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what you make of it. Marriage is the purpose that people join togrther to become one under God. Nothing is seperate and all is together. In a BF/GF relationship you have different addresses, seperate bills, seperate bank accounts and etc... but marriage you combine bills, thoughts, ideas, mental and physically. Everybody doesnt take marriage seriously and the marry for the wrong reasons like money, job status, kids, and good sex or etc.. and not LOVE!!! I feel that if your in love with someone nothing else matters and you cant image yourself without them then thats a feeling of completeness and youll want to marry them. Im sorry youve never been in love but hopfully soon youll experience it...hope I helped.
2007-09-07 01:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing against marriage. Really what’s the difference between being boyfriend and girlfriend and husband and wife, you can still leave whenever you want to jez it’s only a piece of white paper and it’s not like those rings are forever bound together – it’s jewelery…it comes off
Still a bit undecided about the whole changing of names things though. The only strong argument for changing your name would be for the kids.
2007-09-07 01:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by budpepsoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, "everyone" does NOT get divorced and cheat nowadays.
At least 50% of us understand the concept of commitment to one another.
The "point and purpose of marriage?"
To have a lifelong partner who'll stand by you through the dark times...and not just the good times.
To have someone with which to share your deepest fantasies, such that you get to know one anothers' hot buttons like no one else.
How is married life different from dating?
How about no more stupid "mind games" in the dating pool?
How about not having to worry about contracting and STD?
2007-09-09 10:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you fall in love, you will know the reason for marriage. Until then I could try until I am blue in my face to explain, but there really are no words to describe what two people feel when they are in love with each other. It has a lot to do with living their life as one, if that helps.
2007-09-07 01:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know!!!!-LOL I'm in the exact same boat as u.
i just don't see the point but my feelings comes from experiencing a divorce with my parents!!!-yeah bummer!!!
marriage is planning together, moving forward together. believing that this is ur partner for life..u need to consider each others dreams as well....u no longer just 2separate entities y'all one. (even though u individuals) like being a member of a team.
as a couple dating there are loads of things that u don't have to consult or consider ur partner about...I'm marriage that changes
2007-09-07 01:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage developed out of a societal need to give a man some assurance that children were his so that he would then support them in order to continue his blood line.
With today's acceptance of premarital sex and childbirth, and the high divorce rate, it does seem that the institution may have outlived its usefulness.
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2007-09-07 01:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your view of marriage is marred because of divorce and cheating.... you are right... marriage is like a joke to almost everybody nowadays... but you know... love is a universal need.... we are all unconsciously or consciously desperate to love and be loved.... and once we feel we have it, people rush into things, marriage per say... but then time comes you get to know the other person more upclose and all your fantasies are gone... you get tired... and give up...
Love is oooey goooey...... you work it out and give as long as you can.... so you gotta take time finding that person and knowing him/her....
2007-09-07 01:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by terra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋