My parents want to move?!?! IM A JUNIOR!?

Question

i absolutely cannot do this. I am a junior this year and my parents are basically saying that there is no way around me spending my senior year at a fancy preppy rich highschool six hours away somewhere in MO. I want to experience my highschool years with the people that I've grown up with. Help!

Answer 1

See if they will agree to you staying with a family member like your grandparents or an aunt and uncle they trust, who'll still be living in your town after they move. That part about being a kid, I so don't miss, 'cause pretty much, you're at the mercy of your folks. I hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

I had to go through the same thing. It was quite a few years ago, and I still remember crying in my best friend's kitchen the day I had to leave for my new town. Ignore any comments that make your situation seem like it doesn't mean anything, because (of course) it does.

However, don't make the mistake of trying not to go with your family. Your family matters more than your friends, and they are where your first loyalty should lie. Yes, your friends should matter. They SHOULD mean a lot to you, or you wouldn't be a good friend. The thing is, you also need to be a good daughter.

Take the opportunity of the high school. One of the best things about moving away for me was the entertainment of inviting my friends to visit when our school schedules meant I had school and they didn't. They had a riot of a time being tourists at my new school, and I got to visit back home once as a tourist. It was a lot more fun to be a visitor there (heeheehee) then to be a student. Also, here's a fun fact. Your grade point average might start fresh at your new school. If you want to go to a rocking college, you've got a fresh shot at it. :D

There's one thing you SHOULD talk to your parents about. This move is going to be incredibly hard on them, too. It was hard for my mother and father to move away from people they'd known for a long time, and I've moved since and found out it wasn't easy. Ask them very, very politely if you can get a phone plan with unlimited long distance so you can talk to your friends. Don't let it torpedo your grades, and make sure to write letters, but see what you can do.

Good luck; you're going to get through this.

Answer 3

It will only be one year. Just bear it, and you should do fine. As the old saying goes, there is a bit of good in every bad, and there is a bit of bad in every good. This is very important to consider in your case. The condition definitely won't be ideal, but it is not big enough to justify not moving. You should be able to get a few new friends who happen to be nice enough. You've experienced most your high school years with the people you know. There will not be much of a difference.

Once you go to college, the new people thing will happen anyways. So, try to take an optimistic view on this and hope for the best. After all, your parents must have a compelling reason for moving, right?

Answer 4

Yes it is a bad time to move,but unfortunately you have no choice. Unless you have relatives that are willing to let you stay for about a year I suppose. You are also a minor unless you emancipate yourself from them. And that means getting a j-o-b and going to school @ the same time. And I am also sure that you could find a pals house to stay in,but the issue is that your parents wouldnt let you either. So from my understanding money is the issue right since you said it was rich preppy school. So make the best of it as hard as it is I say.

Answer 5

Sorry honey, I know how you must feel bu if your parents are moving there is very little that you can do about it. You will have your senior year to make new friends. It will not be the same I know but you will do much better if you accept what you cannot change and try to make the best of the situation. Good Luck

Answer 6

Is there a teacher or an adviser at school who could advocate for you to your parents? You might have better luck if you get another adult on your side who can listen to your side of the story and explain it objectively to your parents. Sometimes people hear things differently when a different person is saying them.

Staying on your own or with a friend might be a pretty tough decision but it sounds like that's what you're hoping for. Just make sure you think it through.

Answer 7

Unless you get a job and get your own place, there probably isn't anything you can do. A whole other school year is a long time for them to wait. I'm soooo sorry this is happening to you, and I hope that regardless of what goes down, you are happy with the result!

Answer 8

Relocating during your high school years is a tough situation, but one you will definitely live through. Change in life is inevitable, you might as well try to wrap your head around this and begin making peace with your parents' decision. This will help make your transition easier.

Answer 9

Thers is nothing you can do about moving, if they say go then you go. But you can make the best of it. Look at it this way you have a chance to meet more new people and you may like them more than your current friends. So if you have no choice then just think positive and make the best of it.

Answer 10

PLEASE!!! Come on, grow up, highschool is not everything, once you are out there are many, many other more important things to worry about. You probably won't see your school mates after you graduate. Everyone goes on with their lives, grownup lives and there is no time to worry about if you are the most popular, rich or prettier girl in school. Once your out non of that matters. Get over it.