i feel really confused a while back i found out my sisters were molested by a person who used to work for my parents. I always knew something had happened because of their general hatred towards men, and very defensive and snappy behavior. Even though they are older they tend to act out a lot. I also have an older brother who doesn't seem to understand their behavior, he doesn't know about their childhood. He gives them a benefit of the doubt but a lot of times he disregards them with having rude or immature behavior.
I used to think the same until I found out. I feel like I should tell him but at the same time I'm scared he will be really sad and blame himself. After finding out I did that for a long time, although I know I had no control over the monster. But at the sametime I feel like he will understand the cause of their sometimes very defensive and snappy behavior.
What should I do. I feel bad that he is so hard on them because I was too until I found out yet finding out has
2007-09-06 17:18:47 · 7 answers · asked by talkingator 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well that does sound like a really tough situation but you could just talk to the girls and see if it is ok if you tell anyone or if you don't want to/can't do that you can use your judgment and ask yourself these questions: Will he be able to keep himself from telling anyone about it? Will he have a fit about it if he finds out? Will he be able to still act normal after finding out. if the answer is yes to these questions then you might as well tell him but if you fel you shouldn't tell him because the answer to any question was no or some other reason then i would not tell him and you never know maybe the girls will get enough courage to tell him eventually
2007-09-06 17:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by monkey_going_bananas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would help your brother to understand and possibly relieve some of the tension in the family. Int the meantime, your sisters need to get some therapy to help them to feel better about themselves and about relationships. The will never be able to be happy in a relationship until they get the help they need.
2007-09-07 00:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know. Your sisters really need help. All of you can help each other too.That man needs to be held accountable for what he did . Just think of all the other young
girls he's done the same thing to and others he will get to. Please do something. Time does not always heal the pain.
2007-09-07 00:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth will set you free.
You need to help spread the truth around and help your sisters deal with the outcome. Your sisters deserve the truth.
Once the truth is out in the open, you can deal with the outcomes.
2007-09-07 00:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell your brother, because it may help him understand his sisters, while it may hurt him and he may blame himself, in the end he will come to the same conclusion that you did..
Have your sisters received professional help?
2007-09-07 00:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you know for sure who did it, and that it's not simply a story she made up, tell the police.
2007-09-07 00:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him and then maybe he would not be so hard on your sisters. Good luck and I will keep you and your famlily in my thoughts.
2007-09-07 00:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by peggy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋