There is this guy that I've met recently who has ADD. He also has a very driven but quite superior kind of attitude. I wanted to have a relationship with him but he turned me down. He said I'm not up to his mental callibre. The thing is, I can see alot of inner hate in him. He feels like he has to do something or he will be a failure in life. I told him that I was worried he was going to stress himself out too much and how I don't want him to get sick. His response to that was "How weak do you think I am?" I keep my composure around him even if though I know he tells me I'm feel inferior at times with his statements like that. I don't believe I am inferior to him btw. He asks me to bring positive light into his life because I am optimistic and try to be positive. He even says that he needs me because of this and I am one of the few people that can lead him out of this darkness in his life (negativity and hatred). What do you think i should do? What do you think about this situation?
2007-09-06 17:14:48 · 5 answers · asked by cellie_mania 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The guy above me is completely right. ADD has nothing to do with this. This guy has some serious issues if he's saying to your face that you aren't at his level mentally. Judging solely by your rare ability to form a coherent sentence, I would say this guy is just looking for a way to make him better than everyone else. I personally believe I'm smarter than most people my age, but I don't try and make them feel inferior. I don't try and prove it. I know that I'm more advanced, and I'm okay that only a few other people know that. If this guy isn't, he is an egomaniac that you need to stay away from. He doesn't really NEED you to help him. He needs to help himself if he's said those things to you.
2007-09-06 17:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Negativity and hatred have nothing to do with ADD. He wants someone to dominate and you are certainly accommodating him. Stay away from him before you get hurt.
2007-09-06 17:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His behavior has nothing to do with his ADD. He is in serious need of counseling and he isn't treating you the way you deserve to be treated. People with ADD can modify how they act and how they respond. ADD is a learning disability and it has to do with how he processes information. He needs to decide to change his behavior. It's not your job to fix him or save him. It's HIS job to learn to help himself!
2007-09-06 17:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
walk away.
his behavior towards you is mentally abusive.
you cannot "save" him nor can you "change" him.
He needs to see a physician and discuss his depression.
Understand...you cannot "lead" him out of any darkness or anywhere else...he says this to string you along because he knows he's being a butt.
2007-09-06 17:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away.
2007-09-06 17:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋