My brother got engaged a couple months ago. He's only been with her for about a year and he's still in the "whipped" phase. He's 28 and he's never had a girlfriend before his current fiance and nobody in the family is a fan of her for many legitimate reasons. Whats the best way for us to accept what is going to happen and learn to like her?
2007-09-06 16:33:45 · 25 answers · asked by runofthemill 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would say to just start new. And maybe have a talk with her. Explain to her that you want to start new and why you feel the way you do about her. Things might just be a big misunderstanding.
2007-09-06 17:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kasandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you should accept this? She may be bullying him into it. You should have a serious talk with him and ask what he sees in her. Let him know the legitimate reasons you and your family have for not liking her, and ask what he thinks about them. Help him to see so that he does not make a huge mistake without knowing how much against this you are. He may just be waiting for a good reason to let her go. Wouldn't you hate to find that out years from now? Besides, if you don't speak up, who will?
So speak now, for heaven's sake, or you may be holding your peace for a very long time.
2007-09-06 23:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! I am impressed. Not to many families go this route they usually want to know what they can do to change his or her mind, I don't know what the legimate reasons for not liking her are but if your brother is okay with whatever happened I would say just try to forget about whatever it was. Start fresh. Visit with her one on one and really get to know her as a person,. There is something there that your brother loves and adores maybe you will get to see a glimpse of it, Again. I would like to say how very mature and responsible you are, Your brother is truly blessed to have you. PS Here is a star for you!!!
2007-09-06 23:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to just force ourselves to accept things around us. Especially when it doesn't really involve us. My brother was only 19, the girl 18, they knew each other for 4 months and got married. Sure i thought it was a bad idea, i felt sorry for the girl, because i know my brother. But what more could i do but wish them the best of luck, go to the wedding, and answer the phone when they need someone to talk to.
2007-09-06 23:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is understanding what makes a person like they are. We all have insecurities and experiences that make us what we are and we do things to help us survive the bad stuff. Get to know her, ask her things about her life but ease into it or youll sound like your interrogating her. The more you know about her and her childhood the more you will understand her and you may even understand why she is who she is. And remember there s something in her your brother loves so if you love him you will give it a chance.
2007-09-06 23:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you have to like her? You owe her courtesy, not love or friendship, which is something you can't force on yourself anyway. My brother has been married three years, and I'm still neither friends nor enemies with his spouse. Also, my guess is that your brother will snap out of this in about another 12 months.
2007-09-06 23:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this really is a mistake then bad things happen, and divorce is in your brothers furture.
But for now, you should all try and understand that he obviously sees something in her that you all dont.
respect the woman your brothers loves....no matter how much you dont like her, lol
2007-09-06 23:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is just be his brother. Do not rail on her. It will only push you further apart. And in the end, if it is the wrong choice, then he will need you. If you are all correct, she will show her colors in the end.
2007-09-06 23:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Todd G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that in no way is this your decision. You can't change other people. This is not something you have control over. He will only resent you if you try.
2007-09-06 23:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to understand your brother's situation because if you really love your brother then learn to love the person that matters to him...so you have to accept her and treat her like your own family now......
2007-09-06 23:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by Beverly Anne N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋