a short engagement?.
people said it would never last between my hubby and I
here we are 9 years and 3 boys later. and still madly in love.
so NOT everyone is right all the time.
we were engaged for 4 months.
2007-09-06 15:54:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My hubby & I have been married for almost 7 yrs now. We were engaged in the May and married in the July...we're still going strong!!
2007-09-06 15:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are just negative. My husband and I were told our marriage would never last because we were too young. We dated for a year and were engaged for 6 months. We got married a week after my 17th b-day and he was 19 (our daughter was 17 months). That was 18 1/2 yrs ago. Now our daughter is getting married next week, she 19 almost 20. A marriages success isn't determined by how long the engagement is or how old you are. It's how much you love each other and how well you can communicate with each other.
2007-09-07 02:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 100% correct Shelly. A couple that we hung around with when we were much younger were engaged after 4 dates and married within 6 months. They were 19 and 17 at the time and believe me when I say that everyone thought this would be a quick divorce. Well everyone was wrong and here it is 33 years later and in all honesty they are the only couple of that era of the couple that hung around together that are still united. All the rest of us have had failed marriages and some of us more than one divorce. So like you so elequently stated not everyone is right all the time. Congrats also on a having a lasting and loving relationship. Keep up the good work and hope you can write this same message in another 41 years when you and your mate are celebrating your 50th.
2007-09-06 23:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My parents were engaged for less than 3 months. They've been married 25 years this December.
My future in laws were "officially" engaged a long time, but were on and off alot, and planned a quickie wedding in 2 months. Married 22 years.
It can happen.
The idea is to know you want the lifelong commitment to this person prior to engagement. People who push long engagements seem to feel the engaged couple don't know each other well, and should take their time "getting to know" each other (in which case, you should be dating, not engaged. Just an opinion.)
2007-09-07 06:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by Katie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I dated seriously for about 2 months--but were friends for a year or so before that. We got engaged and were married 5 1/2 months later. That was 20 years ago in January. We're definitely still madly in love too. We gross out our teenagers all the time--there's nothing worse when you're 13 and 17 years old to realize that your parents actually have sex.....
2007-09-07 01:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents were united by a matchmaker in 'the old country' so they hardly knew each other before getting married. They had 12 children and were married for more than 60 years.
My parents were engaged for just a few months. They had 4 kids and were married 35 years before my mom died.
I don't think long engagements guarantee a long marriage. It's how well you know each other and how much you're willing to work on the relationship.
2007-09-06 23:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My great aunt and uncle only dated each other for 2 weeks before they got married, and I know it's been at least 20 years since they were married, probably longer. It works for some couples if they absolutely KNOW they can make it work, and I think some of the problem today is people really want to have that and they get married in hopes that it will work that way, even when they don't KNOW it.
2007-09-06 23:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love each other, and are devoted to each other, nothing else matters, hun!!! Don't listen to what other people say about love. Only YOU know what is right in your heart! People that say it will never last, are probably miserable in their own love life in some way, and are trying to make themselves feel better by putting someone who they know is in love down. YOU do what is right in YOUR heart, and don't let negative people bring you down.
My grandparents met on the side of the road because my grandmother had a flat tire, and that was it. They fell in love. A few months later they were married. And were married for 50+ years until my grandmother died of Alzheimer's disease. I even saw it as a kid...they always loved each other. And listen to everyone else's stories that answered this question, it proves it: nothing is more powerful than love. Follow your heart and best wishes for lifelong happiness!
~Ragan~
2007-09-06 23:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Ragan♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom and dad knew each other for 2 years, were engaged for 6 months, and are still married 37 years and 2 kids later. they got married when my mom was 19 and my dad was 21.
i think a lot of it depends on how long the people know each other and hold old they are when they get married.
2007-09-07 02:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Erica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were engaged for 3 months + 22 days. They've been happily married 47 years.
2007-09-07 01:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋