My fiance and I recently had an engagement party and are writing out our thank you notes...I was wondering if, when we do one for his parents and write "Dear..." we should put their first names, or "mom & dad"...neither one sounds right since it's from both of us! Any advice?? Thanks in advance!
2007-09-06 15:10:14 · 10 answers · asked by Grace1228 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you can put mom and dad, since when you get married they will be your in-laws or a second set of parents.
2007-09-06 15:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Hawaiiflower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he call them mom and dad? If he does, it's ok to start it off like that. But you should write it. If for some reason he does not refer to them as mom and dad; write what he calls them. Dear_____ sounds to stuffy. If it is a handwritten note, its cool just to jump right into thanking them. Unless of course, you are not sincere. Never write anything you don't feel from the heart. That is more important than anything. You can check out an etiquette book at the library too. For samples. If it is a blank card or note, I would put the date in the upper right corner then start off like, " Thank you both so much for...." or "Your company last week made us......" Just mean what you write, and the girl should write it.
2007-09-06 15:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do not know what to call the future in-laws, do this:Hi! Thank you both so much for the lovely Waterford wine glasses! They are beautiful, Brad and I will have such elegant parties! And thank you for coming to our engagement party, and lending a hand. We had such a good time, seeing so many of our family and friends. Thanks again! Jeannie.
If you are writing the thanks, you sign it, and mention fiancee in it, usually it is how the potential groom loved the gift, too.. Address the envelope to Mr. and Mrs.Whoever. And saying Hi! might be informal, but it means you do not have to wonder what you should call future in-laws.
Or, since you are the author of the note, you call them by what ever names you usually do. Dear Mr. and Mrs. Whoever, Dear Mom and Dad, Dear Paul and Pauline, Brad and I thank you so much for the all expense paid trip to Bora-Bora.
2007-09-06 19:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always best to call them Mom and Dad. They will be your mom and dad soon if you are engaged. Most parents of the groom or bride to be want to be called mom and dad so that the relationship with them will be genuine and everyone will feel at home with it. Writing "Dear Mom and Dad..." or even start it "Thank you so much, Mom and Dad." and then continuing with why you are thankful is very appropriate coming from both of you. You are 'one' now in spirit and soon will be 'one' in the flesh and they already look at you and their daughter or son. You can end it any number of ways.
"Love and hugs, your kids" ; 'We are so grateful for you both, and then use both your names.' "So glad to have you as parents, you daugher and son.' They will like that and it is appropriate. I was calling my husband's parents mom and dad while I was still in the early dating stage of our relationship.
Congratulations too on your engagement.
2007-09-06 15:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming the thank you note has both a top & bottom. I would address the top half from you ie,
Dear John & Jane...Thanks for the _____. It will look lovely in our new house. Sam & I appreciate your generosity. Thanks again for the gift. Love, Grace & Sam
Then on the second half he would write something similar but instead of John & Jane its Dad & Mom. Then sign it Love, Sam & Grace
If you wanted to make it longer just put 2 thank you notes in the same envelope. Again let him write one and you write the other but sign both names to the cards.
Enjoy your marriage!!!
2007-09-06 16:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by PM 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heres a thought, if you cant decide which way to address them, dont write the "Dear" part on the note. Just commence with Thank you for ...bla bla bla and whatever else you wish to write. Just a suggestion if you get really stuck, good luck
2007-09-06 15:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by ktsz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have aproblem calling my in-laws "mom & dad" and I have a hard time calling them Martha & Cleve. If the card is from the both of you go ahead and use mom & dad though, because it is from your fiance also. If you correspond with them on your own, use either Mr. & Mrs..... or John & Karen.
These are the rules that I follow.
2007-09-06 17:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Gregory G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for your fiancee to write the note and include the BOTH of you. He can use Mom and Dad since its his parents, but if it were just from you, use whatever you felt comfortable with.
By the way, CONGRATULATIONS! I hope you have a great life together!
2007-09-06 15:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 19:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are his parents and he should address them with
"Mom & Dad"
thank you .....................................................
(his name) and (your name)
2007-09-06 16:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋