So I hooked up with I guy I know at a party the other night and we pretty much did everything but have sex. I don't regret hooking up with him, i just regret letting things go a little too far way too fast and I don't want him to think I'm a wh*re. I think we're going to start dating and he would be my first boyfriend (I'm 20 and it's about damn time!) but I don't know if I can tell him I want to take things a little slower than the way we started out or if it's too late.
Any advice?
2007-09-06 14:40:15 · 17 answers · asked by c-lion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's never to late to slow things down.
Just tell him that...you got a little carried away, and you regret it if you gave him the impression that you actually go faster than you do, and can you and he please slow down.
If he's a decent guy, he'll say "ok, sure" and mean it, and there's nothing to worry about. If he's not...walk away.
Good luck to you!
2007-09-06 14:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's going to date you, then I'm assuming he must like you, for more then just what happened the other night. Just ask him what he thinks about it. What's his opinion on what happened between you two at the party? Does he think you guys moved too fast, or does he have any regrets? Maybe he's feeling the same way you are, and just doesn't know how to say it?
2007-09-06 14:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Miss V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, the girl sets the pace. Guys are ready for anything, the more the better. You are the one to decide how far you want to go. Sometimes it helps to talk about the right place and the right time for different things. If he's put off by your hesitancy, then maybe he's not the type of guy you want to spend time with. Don't feel desparate.
2007-09-06 14:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you did all this at a party, he might expect you to do this all the time. Wait until he tries something you feel is a little too intimate and thats when you tell him sweetly that you want to take things slow so you can know him better. Overall, it will be benifitial to the both of you.
2007-09-06 14:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesecake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey There...
Just be honest with this guy, were you two drinking? If so, tell him some things should of never happened, and you regret for what happened... and they should have never happened.
Let him know what your feelings are... be open and blunt!!
Let him know that you want to be with him, but you want to take things slowly, and when the time is right you will let him know.
Good luck hun!!
2007-09-06 14:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy really likes you for you....not for the sex...he'll understand....talk to him and tell him why and don't be afraid to be your own woman.....yeah sometimes it's lonely but you feel better about you.....There are reasons for your regret remember them and you'll find the strength you need....
Any kind of contact where you'll get a sexual release is sex....stimulation, lips, all that's in between is sex...for women most of us equate sex with love....think about what you're doing....
2007-09-06 15:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by Moza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he fairly cares approximately you he will stay with you and make the hardship you go with. If he's barely in it for intercourse then you definately would besides ruin up with him now. He thinks you're superb and does not choose to clutter issues up. All adult men attempt even after being instructed you go with to decelerate. it fairly is a guy factor.
2016-10-19 22:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to ask someone to tone it down a bit...but you might want to slow your horses yourself!
Nicely put it that you want to take it slow and if he starts getting a little over your expectations of "slow"...than crack out the whip and let him know he's making you insecure.
Who knows...maybe he wants to take it down a notch too.
2007-09-06 14:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Starfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree
he may not be boyfriend material either
I did the same thing when i was 13
he told me he liked me
and then when i stopped giving him what he wanted even though it wasnt sex
he never talked to me ever again
2007-09-06 14:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes. Take your time. Don't rush!! If he decides to be a pri*k then dump him he's not worth it. Most women have great qualities that guys who look skin deep don't see. Your man will see and value them.
2007-09-06 14:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by Markie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋