can u pls help me learn how to forgive so i can move on n b myself again?thanks so much 2 those 2 contribute!!

Answer 1

Forgiveness has always been a difficult thing for me. When someone hurts us or someone we love, our natural reaction is to have strong negative feelings toward that person.
I read a really good book that helped me understand what Christian forgiveness is. Basically, it's first realizing what a huge gift God has given us in forgiving our sins. Think about the worst thing you've ever done in your life... Got it? Ok, now think about God saying "I know that what you did was wrong and it broke My heart to see you do it, but because I love you I'm going to not only forgive you, I'm going to erase that act completely from your history as if it never happened".
I realize that it's very difficult to do, but try to see the person you want to forgive the same way God sees you--through eyes of unconditional love. By love, I don't mean the warm fuzzies, I mean that you want what's best for that person and you want them to have God's forgiveness as well as your own. You don't have to tell this person "I forgive you" unless you want to. It's enough to tell God that you release this person from the debt they incurred by hurting you.
I'll be honest with you, I've been trying to forgive 2 people since my childhood and I'm still struggling with it. I just keep praying to God to help me overcome this, because I know that if I can't forgive, I'm letting God down and not showing my gratitude for His forgiveness of me.
So, I guess the best advice I can give is to be persistent, both in controlling your feelings toward the person and especially in prayer. I've come a long way and I feel that I'll get there. So will you. God bless.

Answer 2

The only way any human can forgive is by allowing the power of the Holy to flow through you. The way you do this by making the choice to forgive even though you may not feel like it. Your feeling has nothing to do with forgiveness, although it may hinder from forgiving. Forgiving is an act of the will. If you know Jesus personally, ( if not please talk to someone who does) you can pray like this:

Lord Jesus, thank you forgiving me of all my sins. And because you forgive me, by the act of my will I choose to forgive (name that person or persons). If your hurt is deep you may continue to forgive until don't feel the hurt any more.
Forgive is all about you having to release the pain and the hurt. If you don't forgive, you will be stuck with bitterness and it will eat you up. May the Lord gives you the strenght to forgive.

Answer 3

Dear child of God,
we need God's strength and grace to forgive;

If you would like a sample prayer you can say I ask you Father for grace and your strength to forgive (whoever) and heal me and forgive me;

Don't expect a feeling, just believe and go on;

it is helpful to do this every day

we have been forgiven way more than a slight injury by someone and you will get more understandin by reading
Matthew 18:23-35
this is something we learn and God is trying to help you grow and we all have to do it

Answer 4

forgiveness is not to hold anything against the person who have done you wrong and to do that make you have peace in your mind and in your heart because you will not be thinking about how to take a revenge and if you proceed with the revenge you will end up getting into more trouble in the end you still lose. If you forgive and don't take a revenge you will get blessing in disguise instead god have ways of rewarding you and the person who done you wrong will have to pay by their fate even if you didn't do anything to them and your hands are clean. works all the time I got wings.

Answer 5

Okay...

The reason you hate someone (or strongly dislike) is the same reason why you don't touch the hot stove.

Hatred is like a gut feeling. Instead of having to weigh every option...every single time you have to make a choice, your brain sences when circumstances are similar to past events in your life. So when something reminds you of the past (subconsciously), you react with your gut and make a quick decition.

So when you feel hatred for someone it is your gut telling you not to commit the same mistake again. (being too trusting, or loving the wrong type of person, etc).

To get over it, every time you feel the feeling of hate... just realize that it isn't you that hates... it is your subconscious brain trying to protect you.

Not quite the answer you were looking for in Religion & Spirituality... hugn?

Answer 6

Forgiving someone is something *you* have to do.. not for the person who committed the offense, but so you may find peace within yourself. When you harbor a grudge, you manifest all kinds of sickness and disease in your body and in turn can lead to cancer or anything else.

Answer 7

I would like to thank Julian X, for his answer. That was great. Forgiveness has been especially difficult for me because my anger is towards family members. You can't dump them so easily.