He was never not once ever been there 4 me when I needed him. And now am almost 17 and he is really sick and I don't care am I a evil ***** or what. He was always treated my mom like crap her my sister and some of my girl friends have been always there 4 me never him. I hate him so much he is really sick and wats to c me I dont want to even talk to him. Plus idk all I feel 4 him is hate. U know how little girls always want a husband like their dad not me I WILL NEVER MARRY ANYONE LIKE HIM EVER I WOULD DIE ALONE B4 I EVER MARRIED SOMEONE LIKE HIM. I never had anything from him and now he wats me will am not going to c him what do u think.Yes he raised me and was living with me but not really I dont have a father
2007-09-06 14:16:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi, hey I don't care for my father either, so your not alone. I say this go see him one last time. It will be the last time you see him. You might regret it later on when he is dead. I know that right NOW you don't care if he dies or if you ever see him again but just go to him one last time. Hell it might be the last time you can tell him how you feel about him, just to get it off of your chest. Good luck!
2007-09-06 14:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dogna M 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Natural Response coming from a young teen woman who has been abandoned by her father!! Do not let the "HATE" consume you - in your world he was nothing but a "sperm donor"
-who has caused you much pain and self destructive behaviors over the years. Feel glad or fortunate you have the chance to see him, them either tell him how you feel, or play it by ear.....At least you are still fortunate to still have a father that is living. Ask him about his heritage and ancestry - questions you will want to know about - long after he is deceased and you are married and need to know about medical conditions that are perhaps due to genetics etc. You have friends out here - Keep up the good work - find positive ways of releasing your anger.........
2007-09-06 23:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Henry H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had nothing to do with him before and don't care for him either then easy, nothing has changed. He should not get a pass because he is ill and has no one else. I have not spoken to my father in over 15 yrs and he has never met my children or husband. I will not be there or give 2 hoots if he gets sick or dies. Too little too late. Don't feel guilty or let anyone make you feel guilty. If he were not related to you would you let that person in your life. That is how I judge people.
2007-09-06 21:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by mpaz1966 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i cant really give an honest opinion considering i dont know exactly what your father did or the things you have gone through, but they must have been pretty horrible for you if you dont even want to see him. even though there is history and he may have done or said something that was offensive, he might just want to tie up loose ends with his kid. with the reality of knowing that you are going to die, that must be pretty scary, and im sure the only reason he wants to see you before he dies is to make peace with you. he may not have been very good to you or your family, but nonetheless he is your father. i think you should see him. you are not going to get this opportunity again. put your differences aside for and hour and just see him. if things get ugly or he says something unkind, just walk away. but dont anticipate that it will all go bad, you have to go in with and open heart and head and be the bigger person. be the more mature one and who knows, some of those hostilities toward him may dissappear later. i say go see him, you might never again.
2007-09-06 21:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. i can understand your feeling this way. hate is a really strong word though. i'm not telling you what to do but, maybe you could think this through a little more. right now, you're responding to some awful memories. give yourself some time to let it all sink in. you're pretty young yet and you are likely to have a change of heart when you get a bit older. i hate to think of you hating yourself or grieving years from now b/c of something you didn't do when you had the chance. he may have something important to say to you. who knows?
2007-09-06 21:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive him. Not for him, for you. If you spend the rest of your life angry with him, it will not matter to him, especially if he dies. But it will matter to you. Anger does rotten things to people. If you want to be happy as an adult, you have to let go of these feelings. Trust me, I know from experience. Good Luck to you.
2007-09-06 21:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by momof4boys 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋