He is bullied in his school by other kids and I found scar on his wrists. What should I do? How can I talk to him about it? Please help.
2007-09-06 13:44:06 · 34 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He is crying out for attention. Can you talk to your parents about it? An adult should really be dealing with this delicate matter
2007-09-06 13:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
When I was in highschool, I cut myself pretty often. It wasn't a cry for help or attention, just a way of releasing my feelings. After a while, I got so sick of hiding my scars that I just stopped caring if people saw. As it went on, it got to the point where I didn't even want to do it, but it had control over me - sort of like anorexia. A few people tried to talk to me about it, but I didn't want to hear any of it - I saw it as my own business, not theirs. What did help for me was the people who, without mentioning my 'problem', made sure I knew that they would always be there to talk, and that I could come to them no matter what. 'Tattling' to your parents may make him reject any help you try to offer - you'd be best explaining this to a school official (anonymously, if possible) and asking them to tell your parents.
He may not even want help - but he *does* need it. A good counselor, some coping skills, and letting him know how much you care would be the best route.
2007-09-06 15:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by xxunloved_little_angelxx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, this is a real serious problem, first of all i would sit him down and let him know that you are there for him no matter what and that you love him and you saw the scars on his arm. Then i would get him some help, even if he does not want it, it appears that he is very depressed, something needs to be and immediately.
2007-09-13 06:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by ashie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that your brother is going throw allot of emotions right now but you have to be there for he show he that he is loved and that somebody care that he is live and well it is the little things in life that count first you to find someone that can help your brother throw this situation and stand by him the hold time while he is getting help throw his probmle is will make you and him have a bond that no man can break so keep your head up :)
2007-09-13 03:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, talk to your parents. They love him too and will know how to help him better than anyone on this site. When a child is self-inflicting a counselor should be involved. The best thing you can do for your brother is speak out to your parents. He will thank you in the long run. Parents always have their childs best interest at heart. Remember that. I have a friend who started out that way and it led to full out attempted suicide. Don't wait. Tell your parents...in private if you need to. This isn't something to play around with. Good Luck!
2007-09-06 14:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by debepta 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call the teen suicide hotline, or its an emergency call 911. This could really kill him very easily, so if this isnt a joke i suggest you act right now. Young kids are full of emotions, and his brain is not functioning correctly. I suggest you get immediate help.
PS, someone else mentioned that the next step is suicide..I would consider cutting your wrist suicide. Call someone and get help NOW, before its to late.
2007-09-06 13:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him SOON! "Cutting" is a serious cry for help that sometimes, in worse case scenarios, can lead to suicide. He needs to know that there are outlets for his fears, frustrations and pain other than physically harming himself. Talk to your parents and get him into a support group or his own therapist. This may sound drastic, but I've known too many people that "cut" and seriously hurt themselves later on down the road.
2007-09-06 13:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a therapist. Your parents also need to talk to the school about the bullying going on - it's not right and the other kids could get into lots of trouble for what they're doing. You can also help by letting him vent and just being there for him.
2007-09-06 13:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by lookinforanswers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious and you are a good brother to want to help him.
How old is he? He certainly needs your help.
Sit down with him or take him out for pizza and tell him you're worried about him. You don't have to mention the cuts, but you should try and see what's wrong. I think this is a problem where you will have to tell your parents if it continues.
You bro might need someone to talk to. Get your parents to look into it.
Your brother might not want to talk about it, but if you love him, you have to let him know you're worried.
2007-09-13 06:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok.
i have a lot to say about this.
first let me tell you a little about myself.
my name is minny. i'm 18. i used to cut for a couple of years. i've been clean for over a year now.
my advice. comfront the issue. he is going to feel extremly embarrassed and humiliated and will deny it and make up some excuse but it needs to be addressed asap.
I know that this is a serious addiction. just as powerful as drugs. I'm still having a hard time with wanting to cut but it gets easier every day. I wish you the best of luck. Contact a professional that deals with this kind of stuff.
Good luck.
Minny
2007-09-06 13:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your brother does he love himself,you and the remainder of the family.If he replies yes to any part of the question he may be helped-should he reply no,ask why not because we love you.By any means necessary you are willing to help him not violently,but
with his thoughts.Ask your brother does he want to be seen as weak or strong?Besides I would like you to be a role model for my child at the right time.You can not be a role model if you are
not here..NOT JUST HIMSELF,THINK OF ALL THE FAMILY HE WOULD HURT.Explain to him there are other ways to handle problems.
2007-09-13 12:07:37 · answer #11 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋