Q for biological parents and those wishing to conceive children?

Question

Given humanity's state of overpopulation and the noticeable strain every new person puts on the planet's resources, have you considered adoption as a more responsible (biologically, and socially) decision?

How does creating a new human benefit mankind, and the rest of the life that inhabits the planet? An impoverished child would directly benefit from your adoption.

(Before anyone asks; no, I do not approve of abortion. I believe that we should be more responsible as a species, but I do not approve of destroying sentient life unnecessarily.)

Are you seriously going to tell me that humankind hasn't been a scourge to the planet, and making more humans won't exacerbate the problem? As it stands now, every person accounts for a significant amount of non biodegradable waste in their lifetime--waste that is inherited by future generations of humans and nonhumans alike.

I don't recall suggesting mandatory sterilization. I simply asked if you considered a sense of personal responsibility for a socio-biological problem.

You CAN bypass adoption agencies. You can buy children out of fcking slavery for a measly few hundred dollars. I guess adopting a 5 year old who's had an already traumatic life doesn't match up with your idea of parenthood, though. God forbid parenting be about the children, rather than the parents.

Answer 1

I have one biological child but both my husband and I have decided that if we want more, we will adopt an older child. It's the right thing to do, especially since we have the room and the money. I really didn't like being pregnant that much either and I'm getting older as it is. We'd basically be saving a life.

I don't understand how someone can call themselves pro-life but have IVF where a majority of the embryos wont survive. Why not adopt a child that was not aborted, why not reinforce your personal beliefs by adopting a baby or older child?

Answer 2

I'm not really sure why you felt the need to state your opinion on abortion. It seems to me that your question(s) and comment(s) are not really related to anyone's opinion on abortion. I think that most people want to have a biological child. I think it is probably the most basic instinct that life forms have. I don't particularly think that I had a child because of an instinct but, I believe it certainly plays a role in our desire to be parents. I have ne biological child and two children that we adopted. I think there is a tendency to see adoption with a "save the world" complex -- and I think there is a real danger to looking at it that way. I think all children need to be brought up in as normal an environment as possible -- with considerations for how that varies. If a child is adopted for reasons beyond the fact that the parents wanted a child -- I thiink that puts an unfair burden on the child. Some people look at a child who was adopted from a poor country and feel like the child is lucky that they were adopted. I don't think it's fair to think that the child should feel lucky. The child will grow up in this country like any other child and will not be able to appreciate the difference and will not be grateful about having been "rescued." Or the child will grow up with a guilt complex. If the parents adopt a child as a way to alleviate their own guilt for the state of our world today -- that is not a fair burden to place on the child. Not everyone
wants to adopt a baby and not everyone who wants to have a baby should adopt one. I think the really only reason to adopt a baby is because you want a baby to love! The rest of your opinion seems very theoretical.

Answer 3

If you took the entire current human population of the Earth and squeezed it into a space the size of Texas you would have the population density of New York City. That would leave over 98% of the Earth's land mass uninhabited. With that in mind, how can anyone say the earth is overpopulated. The Earth could easily support 20 times it's current population without significantly harming other plant and animal species.

Telling people not to have children is extreme and unnecessary.

Find something else to blame the worlds problems on.

Answer 4

It's very hard, and expensive to adopt children. Personally, I don't think I'd be able to deal with the long process of adoption. I wanted to have my own biological children and thank God that I was able to do so with very little problems. There are several infidelity issues in my family and three of my cousins were adopted. My biological cousin adopted a son from Russia two years ago (he's 3yrs) She started the adoption process a year before I had my first son, who is currently 9yrs. I would NEVER be able to go through the battles, traveling, long waiting etc that she went to go get one child.
I think you need to research your question a little more. Sounds like you didn't do very much.
Best Wishes =]

Answer 5

Have you ever considered that people want to have their own child, of their blood and genetics insteading of adopting a child that is not. Are we to tell them they cannot.

It's a moot question and argument. What do you propose? That world governments make it a law that anyone wanting to have a child has to adopt one from the pool of overpopulation.

As for the question what does a new human being add, you were once a new human being and are still a human being. Shall we think of mandatory sterilization to curb population growth. As you can see, your questions can get become quite touchy.

Answer 6

Great idea, but you are aware that many potential adoptive parents would be refused, right? If you have any kind of handicap or disability, serious health problem, family member with a felony or a job that has you moving every 5 years, not to mention having a factory job, your chances of being approved are near zero.

Answer 7

I think that is a bit extreme. You don't have to give up having children in order to give one a home. I don't consider the earth over-populated. I also don't believe it puts severe strain on the planet to have children. The way we choose to take care of the earth decides that. Having a child doesn't ruin the ozone layer. In reality it is a matter of opinion. You could also say that people who don't want to have children should play a bigger role in preventing pregnancy.

Answer 8

It's very expensive to adopt a child, so since I'm able to have my own that's what I do. My hubby and I have talked about adopting once we are done having our own, but I know many people who have gone through the adoption process and it's a long hard road. Very very personal questions about your family and finances are asked, and it's an emotional rollar coaster.

Answer 9

Yes adoption would be a very good choice i thought about it myself. But i would like to have one child created between my mate and i so we can carry the family name.

Answer 10

Maybe thats one of the few good things still around in the US. . . that I have the right to conceive a bilogical child with the man of my choice. . . and I don't have to answer to people like you as to why I choose to do that and not adopt. :)