ok i really love my boyfrend and he loves me to. but he is a popular kid that plays football at my school and me...well lower class goth who dont know much abought any sport. and well my boyfrend dont want me to tell anyone abought us going out.and well i told my 2 bestfrends cuz they desurve to know. but sum how nate found out and now the whole football team knows. and well my boyfrend got really mad cus that cold hurt his rep... but now hes been avoiding me when ever wen ever were at school but when we went to the movies hes holds my hand and kisses me like a boyfrend should. i feel like hes ashamed of me. what do you guys think i really love him but do you think we shold break up??
2007-09-06 12:34:55 · 42 answers · asked by karie.girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. No one deserves to be treated this way.
2. He is ashamed that you are together but not at you, Ashamed at himself.
3.Non of my bussiness but if you've already caschmoigaded his googidy then thats the real reason hes with you.
Break up with him, You deserve better.
2007-09-06 12:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If you loved him you would have kept is his secret.
2) If he loved you he wouldn't have asked you to keep it.
3) If he's avoiding you, you are already broken up.
4) If you can't even spell boyfriend, you should be concentrating on school, not guys.
If you WANT to put up with an abusive boyfriend because he's hot, hey, it's a free country. But PLEASE don't be silly enough to think it's love.
And JFTR if you want to keep a secret, don't tell ANYONE. Your friends don't DESERVE to know jack.
Now, some people here are going to say you're a victim and he's an assho1e. But there are no victims here. You told your friends to raise your status. He told you not to to protect his. The fact you are both more concerned about status than each other is just one more sign that neither of you are ready for love.
2007-09-08 13:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know they're all right - the other answers. You need to ask him whether his reputation is more important than his supposed love for you. You're obviously at the age where this isn't an easy thing to do or accept. - When I was in middle school, my best friend tells me that she found out someone had a crush me - so of course I want to know who. But she's not allowed to tell, because he's popular and doesn't want anyone to find out, even though every day he's asking about me. She's really honest and faithful to everyone so she doesn't tell me who and I whole heartedly believe her. To this day I don't believe she lied to me, even though I can see many explanations for his behavior that I wasn't thinking of then. The point though is that I had to come to terms with the idea that if he didn't like me enough to admit it to his popular friends, then I obviously wasn't worth much to him. That wasn't any easy thing to do at that point in life (and it will be hard forever, just not that hard) but you need to know so you can come to terms with it if that's the case. And if not, then you'll know how he's feeling about it and together the two of you can come up with a plan on how to handle your social differences in a way that doesn't let down either of you. - I mean really, what's going to happen at a school dance then, will he take you or go with his friends or find another date altogether and ask you to pretend and play along. You just simply need to know (and he's got the answer, not us!)
On an aside, it's not something you probably want to think about either, but the topic of sex comes up here too - does he love you sexually but not with his heart? If that's the route he's on or headed down be careful. It's unfortunate, but people in "higher popularity classes" can sometimes think that the people in "lower popularity classes" are easy to get.
2007-09-06 12:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by l'il one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... BREAK UP!
He's basically saying that he doesn't want to be seen in public with you! That's the worst insult a guy could do to a girl, besides sleep with ehr and dump her!
You need to find someone who appreciates you! Come on, get out of the stereotyical hot jock thing and get into a cute punk guy who will see you equal to him.
Don't make yourself look like a fool, because if he doesn't want evertone to know that you two are going out, then he basically is embarrassed by you!
Get a grip and dump him! Break away from the 'stupid girl' way of thinking and get smart by breaking it off!
You can do it! Good luck! :)
2007-09-06 12:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by whynotme_ldh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he loved you he would say screw you to his football friends and his rep and not care what anyone thought about you two being together. This isn't love. Not at all. Boys who love girls aren't ashamed of them. You deserve someone who will say, heck with the rest of the world, and love you for who you are. Break up with him. In the long run, it will hurt less the sooner you do it.
2007-09-06 12:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to go out with a guy who has to "hide" me from his friends. What is he ashamed of ? That you don't know sports? Am sure there are so many things that you know and he has no clue about thsoe. Would he be ashamed of himself for those things. I will tell him that this bothers me and if he still needs to keep it a secret ...I will find a new bf who will respect me for who I am ! :)
2007-09-06 12:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Curious_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you love him and all but why is he hiding the fact that you two are together?? Something is wrong here... screw his reputation if he loves you than he shouldn't be ashamed to say he's your boyfriend.. I say tell him he needs to make a choice.. either he chooses you or his reputation... if he still chooses to keep you a secret than leave the loser he does not deserve you at all..
2007-09-06 12:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I think you should do is definetley break up with him, who cares about his rep! If he really likes you than he should not be hiding your relationship from people. Sorry to say it but..it sounds like hes just playing with you and your feelings. Leave him before you get hurt!
2007-09-06 12:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by jani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk. He should brag about you to his friends and if he doesn't, he is not worth it. Go find a new guy and show him off in front of Nate.
I'm sorry that your heart is broken ! I know it can be really hard ! You will get through it though - keep your chin up!
2007-09-06 12:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Confid321 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, to me, he sounds pathetic. For a man to have a secret relationship is stupid no matter what his social status is. I can relate to your boyfriend and I dated someone completely different than me. Religious, in choir, loves to volunteer etc...I was your typical jock, but I did not give a **** what people thought. To me, he sounds like he is a crowd pleaser and that is the only thing that led him to his reputation. Rather than being big and bold he took the pussy way out...You should stand up for yourself and your fellow goth...be proud of who you are...not what people want you to be. **** a jock.
2007-09-06 12:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by blackberry028 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋